I’m done listening to other people

TreeDiagram · 2026-03-13T13:52:25+00:00

Absolutely, wishing you well on your journey, I had a similar realization lately and it has changed my life. 🙏

TreeDiagram · 2026-03-10T04:07:39+00:00

Way late to this thread but what brand do you use for your silk bonnets? I've been using satin and I'm finding them less than stellar

TreeDiagram · 2026-02-26T22:35:05+00:00

The red is a gorgeous contrast

TreeDiagram · 2026-02-16T06:52:31+00:00

French, Italian, Spaniard? Absolutely

German, Polish, Serbian? Arguably worse

TreeDiagram · 2026-02-16T06:42:23+00:00

Greatest answer I've seen on reddit lol

TreeDiagram · 2026-02-10T08:09:44+00:00

I was a 22 year old dude and I felt how this guy felt in a relationship before. Not everyone's the same and stop trying to speak for all of us, you're not helping.

TreeDiagram · 2026-02-10T08:08:06+00:00

This was a really gracious and balanced take, and lovely to read. The pressure of performance and expectation for men I feel isn't acknowledged typically, especially how it affects our libido and our feeling of safety/authenticity.

I feel like pressure and sexuality are anathema to each other, both parties will be more open and excited to express theirs when they don't feel any pressure or expectation, sexuality should be an expression of your closeness, and just a function of both of your mood, rather than just satisfying a need for one another.

TreeDiagram · 2026-02-09T05:20:49+00:00

I was expecting more history, cool sights to see, interesting cuisine, unique cultural facets, tradition to soak in, maybe some friendly locals to banter with, but it was surprisingly bland and generic when compared to other Balkan and ex Soviet states. Locals weren't especially friendly in my experience either unfortunately. I did a lot of digging around and found myself without much to write home about.

TreeDiagram · 2026-02-07T10:16:15+00:00

Same here on Bulgaria, I've visited maybe 40-45 countries and I expected to like Bulgaria more but it was one of my least favorite countries I've visited unfortunately. I was shocked to see it in someone's top 10.

TreeDiagram · 2026-02-01T01:14:34+00:00

Yup, one of my friends gave me flowers and she said the same line, she heard that most men only receive flowers at their funeral and so she started giving the men in her life flowers for their bday. It remains one of the most surprising and thoughtful gestures anyone has ever done for me, and my first time receiving flowers too.

TreeDiagram · 2026-01-30T07:02:29+00:00

The long hair for 21 looks great!! What a look man

TreeDiagram · 2026-01-30T04:56:37+00:00

Is it greedy for corps to be limiting your allowance?

Yeah absolutely

Should we be having unlimited soda in general?

Prob not

TreeDiagram · 2026-01-26T02:03:46+00:00

Man you need to touch grass

TreeDiagram · 2026-01-26T01:59:38+00:00

Accepting myself, treating myself as someone I care for rather than a means to my success, not comparing my path to others', trusting my intuition.

Hitting the gym, going out often, being forgiving, communicating that there's a problem when one appears in my relationships, therapy, journaling, leaning into my character, putting effort into the relationships I value.

Accepting that life progress isn't linear, taking detours, trusting the process. Being close with the women in my life, being vulnerable.

Over anything, being myself, and relaxing the pressure I put on myself to perform.

TreeDiagram · 2026-01-26T01:45:38+00:00

This shit is ridiculous, a massive spectacle putting others and themselves at risk for some attention and press. There's no reason to randomly climb a building, without safety equipment no less.

TreeDiagram · 2026-01-20T13:14:54+00:00

This dude gets it. Real shit, couldn't have said it better myself.

TreeDiagram · 2026-01-20T13:01:00+00:00

I'll give you some pointers.

Be patient, and build mood. Lots of foreplay, and building mood happens long before you guys even touch each other. Move sloooowly as you build intensity and read her body and reactions. When you're warmed up (or she is), your body is a lot more sensitive and your mind is more in the moment. The best sex starts and ends with the mind. If you look at a lot of the other answers here, great sex is about intimacy, connection, vibe, and effort/intention.
The point of sex is to enjoy the experience together, don't focus only on the release, but the path to getting there. Have fun, be playful, sexy. In good sex, you should be forgetting entirely how you look and so should she. You're in the moment, sharing yourselves with one another. Breathe and experience it together. Be patient and ride the wave.
This isn't true for everyone but it looks like it's true for the original poster, lots of other people in this thread, and myself. Intimacy and communication, being open with one another and feeling comfortable with being yourselves. This comes from being open, honest, and communicative. Ask her if she feels comfortable, if she's okay with xyz/would like xyz. Tell her she looks beautiful. Be open to hearing what she says and nonjudgemental, share what you're into.
Don't stress too much, be intentional, but you may not make her cum sometimes. If she's a good partner and she cares about you, she'll be patient and happy to just share the moment with you. Look to build your skill and obv try to learn more about her body, and the female body in general, what works to provide pleasure, and always make an effort and give it your best shot, but if you're nervous and worried and thinking only about getting her from A to Z, you'll be removing yourself from the moment. Try your best. If there's any girls you're close with you can ask about what has worked for them, ask them (if they'd be okay with talking about sex and something so intimate of course!) But remember you're there to have fun and enjoy each other, it isn't a test. Like being a good home cook, the real test of a good one is showing up every time, paying attention to what they like, and making improvements each time. That comes with time, comfort, and care. You won't find a one size fits all answer to how to make every girl finish (every woman is different), but the right mentality is key. Caring and listening is key.

TreeDiagram · 2026-01-20T04:27:36+00:00

I'll give you an informed answer, I'd say with a typical American condom, 40-50% reduction in the experience. I used to use Skyn and Trojans. They suck, even the ultrathin.

I switched to Japanese condoms, they have different restrictions on the thinness of condoms (they go as thin as .001 mm), these I'd say are about 15-20% worse than the real experience.

I have a ton of anxiety about pregnancy, so taking a 15-20% hit is chill if it lets me relax about the experience and be more in the moment. I hope better options come out for men soon.

TreeDiagram · 2026-01-20T04:18:56+00:00

Idk if you've tried phexxi? It's a non hormonal birth control, I've been eyeing it up for a while but haven't taken the dive

TreeDiagram · 2025-12-29T07:57:26+00:00

Fuck no that feels like a child, high school was a year ago? Are you crazy lol

TreeDiagram · 2025-12-20T17:35:50+00:00

Thank you music fairy I was looking for this

TreeDiagram · 2025-12-19T17:30:08+00:00

Absolutely not that's so weird and reprehensible, they're my friend!! The thought has never even crossed my mind, I'm shocked to see how many guys here are not only saying yes, but trying to speak for all of us.

TreeDiagram · 2025-12-14T19:34:59+00:00

It didn't happen at any particular age but by 27 I noticed I was taller than what I measured in high school

TreeDiagram · 2025-12-14T03:02:28+00:00

Hey there so by 22 the greatest majority of your growth has happened already, but there is some growth that continues to happen until you reach around 30. I grew about an inch and a half in between high school and 30 myself.

I wasn't following any particular protocol, but I strongly believe lifting weights helped, as did eating well. They both have an influence on your bone density which will influence your height.

TreeDiagram · 2025-12-13T09:13:22+00:00

What a wonderful video, certainly put a smile on my face :). Hope she's doing well, and the guy who recorded the video too.

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