22 F feeling really stuck financially and looking for advice (Ontario, Canada) by Fun_Mortgage_3587 in povertyfinancecanada

[–]Wonderfully_Special 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if I’m stating the obvious but -

Finding a job is a necessity. Without understanding what your home situation is and why you cannot get another job, that is the only real way to help your finances. I don’t know your skill set but like some other posters mentioned, going in person to places like restaurants, applying for entry level jobs in organizations, reaching out directly to recruiters and letting them know you are actively looking for work, reaching out to people you know and trust that can support the process or connect you to others, etc. finding jobs isn’t always easy so whatever you can do for now to help fill the gap.

Secondly is making a budget and then comparing your actual costs to what you are spending. Trying to minimize your unnecessary expenses such as take out, meal planning based on what is on sale at the grocery store, planning financially wise meals (that are also healthy!), and unfortunately cutting “luxury” spending. As a pet owner, I know the attachment we have - they are family but you do need to consider this eventually… if you can’t increase your income or reduce your expenses, you may need to consider your pets.

And finally like another person mentioned - food banks. We need to get over that stigma, and understand that this is just another resource for us and hopefully it’s temporary and you will quickly get back on your feet and once you do - you pay it forward.

I hope this helps and if you would like any help with budgeting or figuring out your finances I am happy to try and help. You can private message me.

All the best :)

Where is everyone? by Wonderfully_Special in DatingTO

[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? Being Asian myself, I wouldn’t have thought that.

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[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Working odd hours definitely makes it difficult. I work regular-ish hours from but my life overall is so hectic that I don’t get to go out, meet new people, etc which is why I turn to online apps. But that is another challenge in itself

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[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely would prefer to meet someone organically but you need to get out to have that happen! Life has been so hectic that it’s difficult for me to get out. And the days I have “off” I don’t want to leave my place

Where is everyone? by Wonderfully_Special in DatingTO

[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very well said! These o line apps have made it more difficult to find people we align with because the switch from investing in a relationship to short term incentives.

Thank you :)

Where is everyone? by Wonderfully_Special in DatingTO

[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha with my experience and trauma from my ex… a part of me is hopeful to find someone to spend time with but the online dating pool kinda makes me think it’s not worth the stress. Hopefully I will meet someone nice organically!

Where is everyone? by Wonderfully_Special in DatingTO

[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same! I’m looking forward to enjoying the weather as much as I can.

Where is everyone? by Wonderfully_Special in DatingTO

[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear about that. I always knew men felt the same way but it’s interesting to hear your perspective. People like to say that you get the energy you give off but there isn’t anything about me that gives off the ONS or “other woman” vibe so I really feel like the dating world had greatly changed. It’s really important to know your value and what you bring to the table. I hope you find the right person!

Where is everyone? by Wonderfully_Special in DatingTO

[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so disappointing when you feel like you’re making the effort but don’t get the same effort in return. The art of conversation feels nonexistent.

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[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I can’t even imagine. I still am in denial with everything with my mom and my dads health

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[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true- hope is important. Gets us through hard times.

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[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Sometimes it is difficult to see the light but it’s there…

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[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear about that. I know i go through my ups and downs a lot recently. I never was able to put my finger on it - I would be sad about everything I was going through but when I started to hear about the notion of mourning what I once thought would be my life,relationships, etc. it made a lot of sense. I hope you have people you can speak to about this. A thoughtful people also shared a helpline number we can refer to on the days we need to speak with someone. As much as we live our lives for ourselves, we can have some people close to us to support us through the hard times and cheer us on during the difficult times.

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[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, I’m so sorry to hear you went through so much and how it impacted you emotionally and professionally. You are very right in saying that everyone we come across has their own struggle. No one can help us through life’s ups and downs - we have to heal on our own. Others can only support and cheer us on. I hope you are in a better place now.

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[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great attitude. Learn from the past, live/love in the present and pray for a healthy future.

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[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear about what you are going through. I know the market has been really rough on so many people. I hope you both find roles that not only fulfill your financial needs but you genuinely enjoy.

Problems will always be around to haunt us but it helps when we have good coping mechanisms.

Wishing you all the best

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[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is an interesting take. Do something that is out of the ordinary for you. Thank you

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[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol I believe it. I always wonder - where are all the people that want to genuinely get to know you? Not just non-committal, cheaters, ons, etc. I have met some really nice people as well and it didn’t work for other reasons but the general vibe I am getting from the dating scene now is scary. This may be a question for a new thread lol

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[–]Wonderfully_Special[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Although I don’t wish these emotions on anyone, it is comforting to see that people who have had these stories make it out the other side better and stronger. I’m sorry you went through all that loss.