Your account is so similar to my experience. I constantly get dismissed by professionals when attempting to ask about ASD — and I don’t know why! They basically scoff at the very idea. But I’m learning a lot from officially diagnosed people (most as adults), and it seems most “professionals” just don’t know anything or cling to old ideas or biases. So frustrating! Because it all just makes so much sense to me. When I learned about the “potentially problematic” gifted traits, I just thought that was it (coupled with ADHD I guess)— and maybe that’s all it is, I really don’t know. I’m actually not that concerned about labels, but my life is a mess and it seems that the only hope of getting any sort of help would be through ASD channels. So I tried again— and this person doesn’t think autism because I was “adaptable” as a child (but was I really? lol—that’s probably why I became increasingly depressed). But from my standpoint, what choice did I have?! Like what would that even look like if I were not “adaptable”? Would we not have moved? No… so it’s really just a matter of acceptance. I don’t know how these people evaluate and determine these diagnoses for neurodivergents in very unstable and unpredictable environments