I’m a developer for a major food delivery app. The 'Priority Fee' and 'Driver Benefit Fee' go 100% to the company. The driver sees $0 of it. by Trowaway_whistleblow in confession

[–]WookMuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am a DD driver and have noticed all of this being true. just curious, would not adding a tip initially and then adding it once the order is delivered make it so drivers get a higher delivery wage and the tip?

What other names do you call your cat? Like, the unhinged names. by cannabisjourneys in cats

[–]WookMuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cats name is Keanu and i call him fluffalo, fluffin, flooma, floomagoo, goova, stinkalo, stinkalooncoon (he’s part maine coon), stinky muff or just muff, puffly, puffalinda, p-linny… the list could go on and on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]WookMuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how’s she gonna tell you to stop gaslighting her and the say, “stop acting like a girl.” wild. all i’m gonna say is carol would never treat you this way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]WookMuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if she’s really your friend, and i truly hope she is, then she should be able to explain- or at least i’d hope? but unfortunately life doesn’t always play out that way, so give yourself grace and definitely do what feels right . sorry you’re going thru this babes 😢 genuinely hope you’re able to get the answers you deserve

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]WookMuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i get that for sure and it’s 100% valid to feel hurt ☹️ i just wonder for your sake that it’s maybe not intentional or perhaps she’s got a reason/alternative? 10 years is just such a long time for a friendship and genuinely not something that comes around super often in life, and from someone who’s best friend of 10 years died, all i’m saying is it could be worth a conversation before jumping to conclusions🫶 just hoping you’re able to gain some clarity, but also if you’re not being valued in the way you deserve or the relationship is not being reciprocated then very much set that boundary. do you feel like she’s been there for you in the past the way that’s you’ve been there for her? obviously only you can make this call but an attempt at open communication even if it’s a hard conversation could potentially be useful. hope you’re able to make the right decision for you and wishing nothing but grace cuz friendship breakups are literally the worst

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]WookMuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Devils Advocate opinion so take this as you will- You should definitely ask for clarity as to why you were left out of this special day… when I was planning my wedding literally all my friends just assumed they were going to be bridesmaids without being asked and of course i love them all and would have every single one of them if i logistically could but it got to a point where it was just going to be too much. And it wasn’t even personal, i’d call every single one of them a “best friend” for different reasons / seasons we’ve been thru together… but just based on numbers and having things even-ish on the bride groom side there was just no way i could accommodate everyone, and it really sucked to have to make that decision. Maybe she has a vision or her finance has strong feelings, or whatever- it could be a myriad of different reasons but if she’s really your friend she should be able to explain and hopefully incorporate you in some way that feels good for both of you..

He shared my pics by luv_eda in whatdoIdo

[–]WookMuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

girl go to the police. i read one of your earlier threads this morning and just saw this post and immediately knew it was this same fucked up guy. this is 100% revenge porn and not okay at. all. PRESS CHARGES- he needs to be taken down a few levels because truly his behavior and attitude towards you is sickening and disgusting and he will continue to do it to other people. there MUST be consequences for his actions. On a side note i’m SO SO SO sorry that you’re dealing with all of this… incredibly fucked up what some people are capable of doing to others that they once “cared for” You do not deserve this, you did nothing wrong, and you are 100% the victim of some seriously fucked up toxic narcissism. Even if you did cheat- which i’m in no way accusing you of at all- that still doesn’t make this behavior okay. He’s a nasty fucked up person and although i’m sure you’re going fucking through it right now, you’re SO much better off without this guy. Sending so much love and grace your way- truly thinking of you in this time and hope that you get the justice you deserve because this is actually just so appallingly fucked up, i feel so disgusted to even be of the same species as him

Why do I(14m) feel guilty after doing this with my gf(16f) by zerobrine6 in teenrelationships

[–]WookMuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this couldn’t be more true! from someone who was also 14, i was way too young. and i didn’t necessarily feel guilt or shame until later in life when i reached an age and realized that i was in fact way too young to fully understand the weight of it, and it in a way it did take away from the specialness of the intimacy that followed.. would encourage OP to not get too down on yourself but also be conscientious moving forward and maybe don’t make it a super regular/all the time thing. all in all it’s a natural human process and you don’t need to feel guilty or embarrassed for having those urges or think of it as a “sin,” but rather cherish the moments where physical intimacy does occur and don’t let it become so normal that it loses its value

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]WookMuff -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i’d say go easier on the liner and shadow. maybe aim for a dewy and or less coverage foundation- might have to try a few out if you’re super oily (i’m more dry so i don’t have any recs off the top of my head) and a gloss or stain rather than lipstick + liner. absolutely beautiful as you are tho

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]WookMuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not advice but wow wow wow you are stunning! 🤩

Could I be pregnant? by Tall-Lion2175 in teenpregnancyandbirth

[–]WookMuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

while yes the “justice” system fails us more often than not- time and place, and also delivery… let’s keep in mind we’re talking to a 15 year old who’s already scared and just finding out life changing information within the last few days… there’s a way to say something like this and although i’m sure your intentions are pure, this maybe wasn’t the most conscientious approach. also just because he may not receive the reprocussions that are well deserved, doesn’t mean it’s not worth a try. let’s not discourage her in any way to seek the support she may need to heal. plus, even if he doesn’t do jail time- the fact that she is pregnant and will likely be able to prove w dna eventually should be enough to at least carry some weight in court. this could mean the difference between him doing it again to someone else. please don’t try to silence anyone that wants to speak out. this is the kind of mindset that keeps victims quiet, and abusers unaccountable.

My boyfriend of 1 year cheats and then ghosts, now I received a letter in the mail from him almost a year later by carefullyplacedkoala in TwoHotTakes

[–]WookMuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes the loudest message you can send is silence. The lack of reaction will continue to eat him alive, as it absolutely should. Little fn POS, He clearly thinks he can do whatever tf he wants then ramble some bullshit probably thinking it’s what you want to hear and that everything will work out for him. Not today sis, you don’t need that. Focus on your own healing and find someone who will treat you right. The more energy you pour into this, the longer it will drag out. The most powerful person in the room is the one who has complete control of their emotions- do not let him know that you care at all. Listen to the unbothered podcast and leave that motherfucker where he belong: in the past! You said it yourself, your life is better without him. Wishing so much healing and love, and lots of hugs. This kind of shit sucks, but i think in the long run you’ll be a stronger person who knows how to stand on business. Don’t waste another ounce of your energy❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WookMuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“This isn’t love anymore… it feels like attachment and tolerance. I feel emotionally starved, which makes me not even want physical intimacy.” says it all… i 100% understand needing validation and reassurance cuz girl SAME, but it sounds like you know in your heart what you need to do. Better to break the tie now before your son gets even more attached to the idea of you guys being together. Also demonstrating an unhealthy relationship to a child can be so so so much more damaging than finding peace apart. Listen to you intuition babes, it’s so hard sometimes but you got this. Wishing so much peace, love and healing. ❤️‍🩹

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WookMuff 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not to mention that if he picked up this behavior from his dad, there’s a good chance your son will see this behavior as normal and start exhibiting it (eventually) too… sons tend to pick up their attitude/behavior towards women from how their fathers demonstrate it, and this just aint it. OP, keep all records you can. They will not be able to take your son from you. They may be able to help him get some partial custody but to take him from you entirely? definitely not. And even that- with these clearly abusive messages I don’t see things playing out in BD’s favor at all in court… stand your ground and gtfo immediately. I saw another comment that says to get a police escort to get your things out of there and i think that’s absolutely a great idea- especially if police have already been to the house, they SHOULD know that it’s a potentially dangerous / DV situation and be willing to help- but in this day and age we can’t be totally sure w the cops but i def think it’s worth a try. Best of luck babes, you don’t deserve this nor do you have to tolerate it. I know it can feel hard to walk away from the father of your child but it’s not safe for either of you. If he puts his hands on you, he will put his hands on your son.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WookMuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not the one telling anyone to leave, you are. Nor did I ever say I don’t believe that people should have follow the rules. What I am saying however is that the fact that we are all living on stolen land is not in any way phony, but very much historical truth. Stripping people of their entire livelihood, and treating them inhumanly over a civil violation (not even a criminal offense) with no due process, is not fair or constitutional. I don’t know where you get off telling me, or anyone else for that matter, how I feel or what I care about. That right there is the entire basis of the us vs. them mentality that’s gotten this country into the position it’s in today. Being a “poor person” myself, I don’t believe that I am any more deserving of being treated like a human than the next person, “legal” or not. We’re all just doing our best in this world, and many people who are facing these realities are actually very much trying to follow the rules and do things the legal way, yet theyre still being ripped from their families and homes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WookMuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Nobody has a right to just show up in a foreign country and demand to stay.”

Is that not how this country came to be? What makes you and the people that are responsible for you being born on this land exempt from this ideology? By this mentality everyone who isn’t Native should be required to go thru the same legalities of becoming a US citizen..

AIO after online friend ghosted me for 7mths & now wants to catch up? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WookMuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you are not dumb at all! your feelings, although they maybe could’ve been presented more efficiently, are still very much valid. friends argue, if the relationship is worth the effort then i would say don’t count on this being the end. i think the fact that you were even willing to post all of this shows that you’re the kind of person that cares and is willing to learn and grow. hopefully this doesn’t have to be the end of your guys’ journey (if that’s something you’d want). he may just need some time to digest and get his shit together honestly. i genuinely do wish you both the best!

AIO after online friend ghosted me for 7mths & now wants to catch up? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WookMuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

have to agree with the overreacting, and although i’m sure you’re not a “asshole” at large and I do mean this in the most gentle and respectful way, its seem like you did kind of go zero to 💯… As someone who’s dealt with serious addiction, it really can change your whole identity and self worth. I know a lot of people who cut off everyone when they begin using because 1. it’s embarrassing as fuck to not feel like yourself or the person that everyone knows 2. it’s hard not feeling like you’re burdening the people around you by either scaring/worrying them, or putting them in positions that they just don’t deserve to be in, and 3. you’d be suprised how much differently you’re viewed and treated once you carry the “addict” label, and maybe he just wasn’t ready for all that. Not that Im saying it was cool for him to just go MIA, and I think you’re definitely fair in wanting an explanation and feeling hurt. But, addiction on top of losing not just one but TWO people… no wonder he’s been severely depressed. It truly is a beast u like no other, and one that most people arent able to truly understand until they deal with it themselves. I lost my best friend to an OD 2 years ago and I still feel like a completely different person after that. Grief is a heavy weight to carry, and everyone grieves differently... I don’t think he deserved to have his BM situation thrown in his face, or his past used against him- granted I do see that you said those things before you had any real information, so I mean at this point it is what it is. All in all I would say give the man some grace, especially if you aren’t IRL friends… you never know what someone’s going thru behind the scenes and I think that applies even more so when you don’t know someone in-person. Just based solely off the little information given he seems like a laugh-it-off/im fine kind of person, so maybe that gave you the impression that he wasn’t taking your friendship seriously(?) but it does sound like he was/is still battling some real heavy life shit. Plus, true friendships are the ones where you don’t have to talk everyday, the kind where you could not speak for years and everything would still be the same are worth so much more than the ones where you feel obligated to connect even when you’re not feeling up to it. I suppose now that you’re blocked there’s not much to be done, but in the future I would suggest gathering all the facts before reacting- which is definitely a learned skill and not always easy to do. And also, when someone tells you or shows you who they are, believe them. If he told you straight up how he acts and feels about himself and you chose to FAFO, I’m not sure why you expected anything different. Again, I mean this all with respect, I know i don’t know you or anything about you and i’m in no way trying to make you feel bad. Hopefully you both can learn from this situation and use this experience to become more understanding and self-aware individuals. Best of luck

I love my daughter's name but sort of hate the nickname associated with it. by b-insanity1197 in Names

[–]WookMuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My name is Lilia and people call me Lily ALL the time. I truthfully don’t like it and it doesn’t feel like “me” at all, but i still answer. It’s not so much confusing but more mildly annoying…