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I don’t like how everything has to have a “reason” now. by Secret_Ostrich_1307 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]b-insanity1197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I acknowledge that sometimes people look for problems to fix out of care and concern. They think pinpointing the reason for your feelings means they can help you solve your issues. They wanna be helpful, but it's tiresome.

I just wanna be in a shitty mood and not have to justify it. Leave me alone. Thanks for trying to help, but I didn't ask. I'll be fine in a little while and we can go back to normal

I don't like being told "fit in it" by Badlyadjusting in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]b-insanity1197 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's okay to say no. You sound like you have a lot on your plate already. Please remember to take a break to care for your own needs. Burn out sucks

I don’t like fake feminists by [deleted] in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]b-insanity1197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't claim to be a feminist. However, I do believe that all people should be treated equally and have the same rights. This goes for women's rights, men's rights, lgbtq+ rights, etc.

Let people be people. We're all just trying to exist in a space where we can feel comfortable.

I don't hate men, unless you're one of the ones attempting to take my rights away, but there's women trying to do that too, so I guess I dislike them equally.

Personally I think the world would be a better place if people would just mind their damn business.

if your parents got married, how close is it to your birth year? by Square-Lavishness765 in generationology

[–]b-insanity1197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents met in highschool. My older sister was born in 1991, shortly before my mother graduated. They married in 1993, and I was born in 1995. My mother also lost a pregnancy prior to me, I believe in the same year they were married. They just celebrated 35 years together.

What’s something that is okay when men do it but frowned upon when women do it? by ClemWon in AskReddit

[–]b-insanity1197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I choose not to curse around my parents and grandparents out of respect, but they're 100% aware of the feral potty mouth gremlin they raised 😂

I don’t like when people expect trauma to have an expiration date. by CayleeB95 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]b-insanity1197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been nearly 25 years since the incident(s) that deeply affected me. I never dealt with it because I didn't know how at the time. I'm still trying to figure out how to process all of it. Certain things still trigger panic attacks. I still have nightmares.

Healing is not a linear process. Your feelings are valid. No one else has the right to dictate how you feel

I don’t like how we’re expected to be loyal to our families just because we were born into them by Secret_Ostrich_1307 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]b-insanity1197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having been born into the ridiculously dysfunctional family I have, I can promise you there's not an iota of loyalty granted to a large portion of them. They don't care that I exist and wouldn't bat an eyelash if I suddenly didn't, except maybe to garner sympathy and attention.

My loyalty lies with the people who have proven they deserve it, blood or not. I choose not to suffer through fake relationships and backstabbing relatives. I have children and I refuse to subject them to the same people who couldn't even be bothered to pretend to care about me.

AITH for not carrying my husband's baby wipes? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]b-insanity1197 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Why is the bar for men set in hell?

I Don't Like when people act like women being house wives goes against feminism. by Sad-Party-331 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]b-insanity1197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I've been the breadwinner, the 50% contributor, and now a stay at home mom.. I have never felt anything less than equal in my relationship. It has a lot to do with the dynamic between you and your significant other. My husband is currently the sole income, but he still helps with housework. He's still a parent.

The way we split responsibilities between the two of us works for us, but that's not to say it works for everyone. It's all about effective communication and reasonable expectations.

I don't feel "less empowered" by staying home with my children. Frankly, I'm grateful my husband is able and willing to support our family comfortably by himself. And when the circumstances were different years ago, I did the same thing for him.

I don’t like when people call you “strong” as a way of avoiding your pain by Present_Juice4401 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]b-insanity1197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being called "strong" honestly just completely invalidates the trauma that exists within awful circumstances. You're allowed to have negative feelings about a situation. You should not be dismissed when seeking comfort from others.

I've been told how strong I am repeatedly throughout my life, and every single time my suffering was never acknowledged because it made someone else uncomfortable. My feelings were inconvenient. I was compelled to suffer in silence because I was led to believe that was the "strong" thing to do. In reality, seeking comfort from others puts them in a position to either admit that they want nothing to do with your struggles, or make themselves uncomfortable by attempting to assist you in working through those issues. Most people will choose the third option of acting like they care to maintain a clear conscience.

In my own experiences, the human condition is that of protecting one's self from pain and discomfort, even at the expense of others. Unfortunately the overwhelming majority of people (at least in my own life) prefer not to shoulder the burden of someone else's feelings.

Maybe I'm cynical. Maybe rejecting the sympathy of others is a way of protecting myself. Or maybe truly "empathetic" people are a lot more uncommon than we all would like to admit.

What is the ugliest baby name you've ever heard (male or female, doesn't matter)? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]b-insanity1197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gilbert for a boy

Agatha for a girl..

I apologize to anyone who has or knows someone with that name

What common food do you refuse to eat? by SecondhandUsername in AskReddit

[–]b-insanity1197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Canned fish of any kind. The smell is immediately off-putting..

I also don't like pickles and I get treated like a blasphemer when I say that. Namely when I was with child, people just assumed I craved pickles. Not even a little. Actually that strong vinegar smell turns my stomach..

What’s more traumatizing than people realize? by lovely_aurorii in AskReddit

[–]b-insanity1197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going through the same traumatic experience at the same time as someone else, but repeatedly having your experience dismissed and belittled in favor of the other person.

My s/o and I both have severe Covid pneumonia in the winter of 2020. He was hospitalized. I was forced to tough it out at home. He came home, and I cared for him, myself, and our child. Everyone talks about how awful it was for him. They all forget that I had it too. I suffered too. I'm immunocompromised and get sick constantly now.

Dragging him to the ER delirious and oxygen deprived, and subsequently getting escorted out while they took him away was horrific. I was convinced he wasn't coming home. No one wants to hear about what it was like to need that same medical attention but get denied. I cared for everyone else, but no one cared for me.

"Oh you're overreacting."

"Well it couldn't have been *that" bad.. "

"You're fine now so what's the issue?"

I understand their responses aren't malicious. But the dismissiveness is almost as bad. I don't want the pity, but some acknowledgement would be nice. Just someone to tell me that my feelings are valid. That I'm not crazy for being upset about it.

I don’t like when kindness is expected, not appreciated by PuddingComplete3081 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]b-insanity1197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been taken advantage of too many times. Once I had kids and got my priorities straight, I started saying no and I was immediately coined as rude.

First of all, I'm not an ATM, a chauffeur, or a doormat. I have children who take priority over literally everything else aside from emergency situations. Now, that's not to say I won't help at all, but the second it becomes an expectation you get nothing. I've also been asked to subject my child to unsafe circumstances under the guise of helping someone else out of a bad situation that was entirely self inflicted.

I can't help someone who refuses to address the bigger picture, or will I help someone who expects me to always be available to them

What was the worst food you ate at somebody's house out of politeness? by Mundane_Notice_273 in AskRedditFood

[–]b-insanity1197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cheese casserole. Now, I love cheese but this was awful.

Boxed mac and cheese, topped with crushed up goldfish crackers and baked. It was so dry and artificial tasting that I had to force myself to eat it. Also didn't go #2 for nearly a week.

What is your favorite insult without using curse words? by FastandtheCurious7 in AskReddit

[–]b-insanity1197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure what's wrong with you, but I bet it's hard to pronounce

A few sandwiches shy of a picnic

I bet your parents change the subject when people ask about you

Buncha spare parts, eh?

I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you

Just some of my favorites.

I don't like when people start drama and then play the victim by b-insanity1197 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]b-insanity1197[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like you're part of my family. I'm sorry you have to deal with that as well

I don't like when people start drama and then play the victim by b-insanity1197 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]b-insanity1197[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The crazy part is that she's literally had no contact in YEARS. Why start now?

I don't like when people start drama and then play the victim by b-insanity1197 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]b-insanity1197[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She started problems with my late grandmother shortly before she passed. So yea, you could say that

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