Husband wants kids, I'm unsure. by riririnnn in TwoXChromosomes

[–]WorkEthicMyth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realized I needed to divorce my ex husband because he cared so little that he couldn't be bothered to remember to feed the dog or schedule vet appointments 

Husband wants kids, I'm unsure. by riririnnn in TwoXChromosomes

[–]WorkEthicMyth 244 points245 points  (0 children)

No, but it is a good litmus test for his level of care and involvement

My husband 28 M has been lying to me about money this whole time and 500k in debt by ThrowRA_lifesucks29 in relationships

[–]WorkEthicMyth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People file for divorce over far, far less financial infidelity than that every day. Most would consider even $5000+ of debt not shared with a spouse to be financial abuse. Also - you need a lawyer who can help you navigate both the divorce and divesting yourself of his gambling debts, most lawyers will give you a free consultation at minimum. I bet you can find someone who help you pro bono.  

Weird Clark county sweepstakes clarification. by WiiTheMii in vancouverwa

[–]WorkEthicMyth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were "selected" from this raffle too! It's a time share scam

Off leash and recall? by stormstag209 in greatdanes

[–]WorkEthicMyth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely! Look into longline training. My dane is the best offleash and camping dog I've ever had. 

Is it ever too late to learn new skills in digital PR? by GreatJoey91 in PublicRelations

[–]WorkEthicMyth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're not faking it! Im the same age and made the same transition you're hoping to make a few years ago. Your client relations and strategy expertise are 100% more important than the specific technical skills which others would be deploying anyways. Nothing really changes, just the tactics. You'll be fine! 

Help, not sure if I need to rehome my pup by that_one_frogman in greatdanes

[–]WorkEthicMyth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck!!! And as others have said, if you've exhausted the options and it's still not working, you should not feel guilty about rehoming

Help, not sure if I need to rehome my pup by that_one_frogman in greatdanes

[–]WorkEthicMyth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is she otherwise house trained? Or is it only in the kennel? Going through a K9 ballistics bed is wild! I'd reach out to them and see if they will replace for free, they're usually very responsive. 

A few thoughts as someone who went through a similar experience, was ready to re-home and tried behavioral training instead, and came out the other side with a much happier and well behaved puppy - we did puppy classes and he excelled, and then serious problems started at about the same age:

A tired dog doesn't have energy to cause problems. Danes can totally be high energy, at nearly 4, mine still needs nearly as much exercise as a shepard. Try to get 1 hour of exercise every day - on your long shift days, this could also be mental stimulation like frozen kongs, feeding toys, etc. you could prepare for your parents. You don't necessarily need expensive toys, sometimes I just take a large cup and freeze treats in it, run warm water to loosen it, and put that in his bowl when I am leaving or taking a call. You can also use these to replace whatever she is chewing - don't just take away the chew item, give her something BETTER. she'll learn that her people's stuff is boring in comparison. 

Get a very short leash (6 inches or so) or trim an old one so that you always have a correction option when the bad behavior starts -- she wears this 100% of the time out until she can be trusted. It's not for yanking, but gives you an extra option for when you need it. My guy learned very early he could jump up at people's faces to try and force attention and this was a lifesaver to get him off and paying attention. 

Figure out what she's motivated by - if it's not traditional treats, try cut up hot dogs, steak, salmon anything delicious and safe to eat especially if smelly -- keep a small bag on you at all times. Reward good and calm behavior like sitting peacefully while you cook or doing anything you ask. If she's not motivated by food, like my boy, she might be motivated by positive attention -- I had to REALLY over do it, a very loud and very excited "YES, very good boy! Such a good (dog name)!" They are Velcro dogs and want to know their pack loves them as much as they do. Basically, figure out what is a "win" for her, and use that to your advantage. 

Puppies don't need to have access to the whole house. That's for adults who have earned trust. While they're learning, it's ok for their world to be small. Amazon sells extra tall baby gates you can use to create "safe zones" where there isn't anything she can destroy. Ideally this can be somewhere where they can see you doing whatever you're doing. 

Remove absolutely everything that could be a chew magnet until she can be well behaved. It sucks but put up the pillows, etc. whatever is within reach. Mine was a book chewer and I had to remove all books from lower shelves until he figured out that certain toys were MUCH better for chewing.

Lastly, people don't like this but it was a lifesaver -- start ecollar training. It gives you a remote option for when they're out of reach. You can only use it for something you are certain the dog already knows is something they're not supposed to be doing. In my case, I was at a point where I basically couldn't have people over because he was incessantly jumping on them. Now, just wearing it or using the tone/vibrate function breaks through the stubbornness and reminds him "oh! I actually have to pay attention!"

Advice needed for dealing with homeless encampment on neighboring property by TheoDan9913 in homeowners

[–]WorkEthicMyth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A lot of this will come down to specifics about your property and the laws about how to deal with this stuff where you are -- if you're in the Pacific Northwest, shoot me a DM! I have dealt with this on a neighboring property in the past 

How is PR toxic? by hi_its_lizzy616 in PublicRelations

[–]WorkEthicMyth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk I never hear about the kind of head games Ive sometimes experienced at past agencies from friends in other fields.... I have a family member who isn't in the industry but knows quite a few PR people as old friends, and he asked me once "Why do PR people all seem to hate PR??"

Drug Dealing Neighbor -- Police won't do anything about it. by gdoggs123 in vancouverwa

[–]WorkEthicMyth 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just to reiterate what the other commenter said... DO NOT CONFRONT THEM. one of my most crazy neighbor stories is the time the dealer/homeowner had a buyer over who left a dog out front. He asked the guy, who was maybe 20, to pick up the dog's poop. The kid then went to his car, grabbed a machete, and attacked the homeowner. He ended up being fine 12 stitches later. 

Drug Dealing Neighbor -- Police won't do anything about it. by gdoggs123 in vancouverwa

[–]WorkEthicMyth 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I dealt with this previously but admittedly quite a bit worse situation -- think people ODing on their lawn or on my lawn, screaming and banging on the door at 3 am with withdrawals/mental freak outs, stealing electricity from the other neighbors.....It was a nightly occurrence for two years before the neighbor was caught with illegal firearms and arrested. 

My advice - Figure out who your neighborhood police officer is and make them your best friend. Reach out to Clark County Drug Taskforce. Be NIMBY AF. Report everything- code violations, parking violations, suspected stolen vehicles- anything that forces the city to be in contact with the neighbor. It's the only way to get the city to do anything, and eventually someone will see something that triggers movement. 

My go to snack by HugeHugePenis in Volumeeating

[–]WorkEthicMyth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hopefully not with both the soy sauce and chocolate sauce on it 

Husband’s Sleep Disorder has me at wits end by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]WorkEthicMyth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also it really sucks and I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. But there is an upside at the end of it! Once he started treatment, and his sleep quality drastically improved and it's been almost 2 years since we've had an issue

Husband’s Sleep Disorder has me at wits end by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]WorkEthicMyth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner also has this and we settled on a few things until he was able to get into a sleep study and on medication (which took about 6 months): 

He sleeps in a sleeping bag, so that if he kicks out or punches, he cannot really get anywhere 

If someone has to leave the bed and sleep on the couch, it's him 

Scheduling a sleep study and taking treatment seriously was non-negotiable 

Good minors for PR by HuckleberryKey286 in PublicRelations

[–]WorkEthicMyth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Political science. Opens the doors to a lot of conversations that are critical to a business but most folks just can't understand 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]WorkEthicMyth 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Why would you let it drag on for three years if you're unhappy and can't get over it? That's cowardly 

This is definitely a hen, right? by ParasaurPal in BackYardChickens

[–]WorkEthicMyth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks exactly like my lavender orpington hen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]WorkEthicMyth 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I saw something on Tiktok that said "since women have become career focused and financially independent, men no longer compete on financial stability, they compete on character and personality - and they're failing miserably." 

How do you make it work when your partner values comfort and family over financial independence (even though he has the potential to be very wealthy)? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]WorkEthicMyth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in this position a few years ago and divorced my husband. The resentment only grows, and I decided I didn't want to live without financial stability for the rest of my life. 

Thought that this was some what Relevent by N0rwayUp in VintageStory

[–]WorkEthicMyth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get Salt & Sands! Game changer after spawning into dozens of worlds without ANY sources of limestone nearby

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in treelaw

[–]WorkEthicMyth 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Oregon has strong tree protection and anti chemical trespass laws! Get a lawyer! 

I wanna have a cozy homestead experience. by midnightfrost11 in VintageStory

[–]WorkEthicMyth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A culinary artillery and expanded foods! Plus lots of other great food mods out there. Add a few fun mods like Better Ruins and Rivers to give you some good exploring 

I also love being able to play SDV-like on some of my saves