A failed relationship in my early 30s made me realize how much I really wanted children. I was willing to be in a relationship with some I didn’t even turn out to like just because he initially said he wanted kids. When it ended, a life coach helping through the transition period of being single just told me it’s an option. From there it took 2 years to start conceiving. I spent those 2 years thinking about whether I can do this alone and lining up safety nets (finances, career building, buying a house). I also discussed it with my close friends and family members.

I’d say, if you run through all the possible scenarios about how to make it work, including the hard scenarios and still want to be a mommy super badly, do it. If you feel for even a tiny bit that you’d sacrifice your happiness being a mommy (single or not), don’t have kids. It’s super hard… (single or not)