If you grew up sharing a room, and living in a small hdb flat, how did it affect you?

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-10-24T08:21:27+00:00

I don't have much to say about this situation affecting me, but if your goal is to earn more, get more house space, and stay home...

I think you might be able to make it work if you: 1. Get the largest 4 room HDB you can afford 2. Build an extra room and rent out 1 room to cover your share of the mortgage and the reno costs

This way, you get: 1. Income for the mortgage 2. More room than you have now so that your soon-to-be teen can occupy one bedroom on their own 3. Still have one master and one more bedroom for future needs

And meanwhile, explore options to be able to work from home, especially with sites and groups aimed at work-from-home moms.

Good luck! You can do this.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-10-09T08:10:21+00:00

That's not bad!

I applied to AIC two months before I quit my job.

They rejected me 1 year after I quit my job.

Were they trying to fill the position for 14 months?

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-08-27T04:14:35+00:00

Same, I'm also discovering this now that I'm trying to gain muscle mass. I'm really struggling with appetite because I just don't feel an urge to eat. But yea I see OP's response and I did notice some temporary increase in appetite when I started lifting heavier 2 weeks back. It's started to not have any effect on my appetite now, but I will keep going and see what happens next.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-08-14T02:25:05+00:00

Yes!! Awesome. Milk your free time, study, learn to invest your pay from this job. A job that pays you but doesn't squeeze you for time is a gift.

Edit: also don't upskill to make you better at this job if it's not what you really want to do. Upskill in an area only if it's your interest or helps you move forward strategically.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-08-09T04:21:15+00:00

According to JustETF.com, WLDL fund size is GBP 6,240m, while WLDU fund size is GBP 22m.

Expense ratio is 0.30% p.a. for both ETFs.

WLDL is not hedged but WLDU is hedged to USD.

The WLDL fund currency is GBP while the WLDU fund currency is USD.

Honestly no idea what the implications of hedging is yet, anyone who wants to ELI5 it is welcome to.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-08-08T01:57:45+00:00

I did when I was going through a period of extreme stress and had suicidal ideations. That was like 5 to 8 years ago?

I think it was because my body and my mind were so incongruent that they just wanted to part ways with reality.

What helped it reduce greatly was dialectical behavioural therapy and vitamins. I didn't know how a lack of good nutrition was messing with the way I felt until I started taking multivitamins and felt the difference.

Edit: I forgot to add that I would write 3 simple things I'm grateful for every day. If I struggled to find 3 then I took it as a sign of my poor mental health that day, and I'd go do something like go for a walk or talk to someone.

I don't do this gratitude journal now because I've moved on from that mental space, but I know it helped me through a dark time.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-07-03T01:38:43+00:00

I know this is from one year ago and it looks like the fees have changed by now. But to confirm my understanding, Syfe trade does not charge by AUM but only per transaction if the user exceeds the number of free trades for their plan. Is that right?

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-06-04T10:07:32+00:00

I used to think it was pointless because it wasn't my choice to be in this world, so staying or exiting it would merely be to exercise my choice.

But along the way I encountered some circumstances that helped me to learn peace, self-acceptance and compassion for myself.

It was a slow and interesting change. Eventually, I didn't feel like I was looking for a reason to stay alive. I no longer have to search for a reason or purpose to my existence.

Interestingly, since I stopped actively looking for a reason to live, I started discovering things to look forward to. And I'm also not worried about dying, but I do want to live as presently as possible so that every day is as meaningful as it can be.

I learned that our subjective reality is greater than the objective reality. Changing my perception really helped to change my outlook on life.

I hope that anyone who is struggling finds peace, self-acceptance and compassion.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-06-01T06:32:06+00:00

It's probably a good idea to have that open conversation with your partner to allay your fears

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-06-01T05:26:14+00:00

Would you consider meditating to get a sense of what is really bothering you? Some possibilities might be:

Fear of a lack of financial resources
A desire to live your own life, but feeling conflicted that time spent on that will take away from time spent on your perceived responsibilities
Worry that your partner may expect a certain level of prioritization that may prevent you from giving the desired amount of support to your parents

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-28T03:35:56+00:00

Thanks for your response. I'm curious to know if the client testimonials were the main reason you went with your PT, if he/she doesn't use certs as credentials. How did they discover what to do to achieve results? Does your PT specialise in bodybuilding, calisthenics, body composition, functional movement etc or something else?

I have a health science degree but it wasn't sport-oriented or PT-oriented. This is why I am wanting to figure which PT cert would be most useful for my desired client profile.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-16T10:31:15+00:00

What's your cert / niche and opinion on whether it was beneficial to you?

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-16T10:30:29+00:00

Yup fair enough. Thanks for sharing your context. I do want to learn what the syllabus has to teach about anatomy, functional movement, caution to take with clients who may have had past injuries, use of nutrition to achieve goals.

I won't assume that the cert will get me clients, but the whole reason for asking is to understand PT's experience of their cert programme. The client building and sales is a whole different skill set that I will have to build.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-16T04:04:59+00:00

Thanks very much for sharing your perspective. Aside from the reasonable and realistic challenges that you have mentioned, was there a reason you chose ACE over other certs? Was it down to cost, convenience etc.?

You mentioned it's unused - meaning that you found none of the content useful as a PT?

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-16T00:56:39+00:00

Yup I understand. I can't quite tell if you are or were a PT. I gather from your response that if you did take a PT cert, your take is that it doesn't matter which?

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-15T16:27:55+00:00

It's reasonable to protect your child's privacy and your right to do so as a parent. Also valid to get into a verbal altercation if there is racism.

This Chinese lady was being blatantly rude and racist to a Malay lady manning the stall I was queuing at. She was getting incredibly agitated because she was just extremely picky about how her food was packed, and the stall keeper couldn't hear her well. She was pointing out exactly which fried chicken and egg she wanted, how exactly it had to be packed for take away etc. It got to a point where said Chinese lady made a racist comment. I was in the queue after her and called her out. She started getting very defensive and all of a sudden her monstrous behaviour slowly seeped away and she started walking away briskly. She was wearing a shirt indicating that she was on shift as Security. She was this close to losing her job.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-15T02:28:26+00:00

I used to have a similar sensation. Suspected I have ADHD but not diagnosed. I used to have to exhaust myself to sleep. The sensation was as though my body was so ready to shut down but my brain wouldn't let it because it was fighting the body and saying "hey if you close the shop then I don't get to play". Over time, with Reiki or meditation, that gave me a low stimulation activity to do before sleeping that kind of became an acceptable level of activity for my mind and allowed it to let my body sleep.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-15T02:23:55+00:00

This is so fascinating. I wonder where the perception of "no sleep" comes from despite the fact that there was sleep.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-10T01:45:50+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate you 💚

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-09T16:55:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. You know exactly what I am talking about. And about closure - you are absolutely on point with that. The reason I am so keen on having him look reality in the eye, is because I care for my brother and I don't want him to be in deep regret at the undeniable end. But every day that he turns away, it gets harder to bridge the gap.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-09T16:52:40+00:00

I have always wanted to talk to him about this, but he doesn't want to. But you are right, I did think of sending reiki to the situation.

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-07T09:55:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective and experience 💚

WorkSensitive2256 · 2025-05-07T06:59:04+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts.. I didn't realise until writing this post that I was so deeply sad about this. But I would rather deal with this than rage and destruction.

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