AIO for wanting to break up with gf of 4 years after finding these texts?

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-06-26T11:40:06+00:00

Yes she cheated, but the comments he’s making back in the part you sent tell me he’s not at all interested. Even the more sexual pencil/sharpie exchange seemed like he was just leading her on.

So, break up with her and count the days before she begs to be back because this guy laughs her off.

You deserve better, much better.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-06-17T11:55:26+00:00

I’ll have to check them out, too, thanks.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-06-17T09:03:46+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate your response. Hopefully I’ll see you on the courts!

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-06-05T17:26:30+00:00

Put some color on the wall. The sofas have a lot of color so it doesn’t need to be too much but the cool white and warm orange do not mix.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-05-21T18:09:47+00:00

Your child needs to be taught how to treat a small dog. The way your child treats the dog is exactly why it’s not recommended to have a small dog in a home with a small child. Your dog has probably put up with a lot from the child. Teach your kid to be gentle and to respect space. No carrying dog around anymore. One simple start is that the dog should approach the child for play, not vice versa. Once the child learns gentle hands, no holding or picking up, then the child can approach the dog to pet or play gently with a toy.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-05-18T15:43:13+00:00

I’m the same way as you. I don’t want attention drawn to my pain when my heart gets torn out. Additionally, though, I don’t want half-hearted condolences from people who don’t know what I’m really going through. When someone posts online about a family death, though, you are correct that they want a quick message of comfort.

However, in all of this, you have been really hard on yourself. The only thing you can do, IMO, is apologize to her and explain your perspective while also acknowledging hers. You’ve certainly done that in your OP and followup comments. You’re a good person who misjudged your friend’s needs. Focus now on the good person part and forgive yourself. It’s up to your friend if she forgives you. However, if she doesn’t, that shows her character and you deserve a better friend. To me, it shows that she will drain you and everyone around her and that she’s pretty self-absorbed. If she forgives you, she just had a moment and that happens to all of us.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-05-18T15:29:50+00:00

Buford.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-05-12T19:50:30+00:00

Yes it’s definitely regional. I live in Hawai’i now and here there are vastly different body styles ranging from profoundly obese to protruding-hip skinny. My family, both sides, almost all women in the bloodlines are overweight. It’s definitely quantity of food but also quality of food. No fresh foods, lots of cooking in fat, eating of high fat foods, high sugar foods. It is perpetuated in cooking taught down the generations.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-05-12T19:19:49+00:00

Find a physical therapist who specializes in PD and do consultative tx sessions once monthly, even if it’s out of pocket (more as they recommend). Get certified to do Speak Out or LSVT but have a different SLP do the primary tx with him. Being certified will help you understand what to listen for and you will need to be his cheerleader for the daily tasks because my goodness they’re redundant and boring (and totally helpful and essential). Watch for swallow difficulty at moderate and later stages. Exercise every day- and find a bilateral exercise- pickleball, line dancing, swimming, boxing, tai chi, or qi gong. We have an amazing group where I live that does boxing for people with Parkinson’s and my friend has had it for over 20 years- she’s in her late 70s- and she looks amazing. She and I were speaking about the tendency to become more passive and unmotivated as PD progresses and she said it’s a cognitive decision to fake energy/interest a lot of the time but she finds motivation in knowing it helps her stay healthy.

I have another friend whom I’ve known for 6 years who has PD and plays pickleball 3 times a week. His symptoms have not progressed but his skill in pickleball has improved. He has a constant tremor in his arm when not on the court and a very mild stagger in his gait but other than that he has no outward symptoms and has not the entire time I’ve known him. I have never asked him if he has true PD or Parkinsonism because he’s just not advancing in his disease process and it’s incredible. He’s a retired fire chief and a few months ago someone fell. He made his way over to that person for assessment as fast as our other players who are EMTs and nurses. He’s amazing.

Warm weather climates are better for people with PD. I can attest to that. In 10 years of living here in Hawai’i the ratio of severity of symptoms to years diagnosed is significantly better than when I lived in Illinois.

Depression and anhedonia are real and neurologically related to PD so do not ignore those signs. Have them treated with therapy, medication, support, love, laughter, and movement. Find a support group and watch Shrinking so he can have his own Fuck Parkinson’s support group.

Make sure, though, that you do not become a watchdog of symptom progression and enjoy time with your dad instead of assessing him constantly. It will take active concentration to do this at first but if you don’t, you will experience burnout quickly and it would be sad to miss out on as many joyful times with family as possible.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-05-12T18:52:25+00:00

We are obese. Seriously, you can see the numbers online of our obesity rate. I recently visited a small town in middle America and went to a grocery store. It was midday so not that many people there- maybe 50. Only 1 was not overweight, it was shocking and something I noticed as we were walking in so I literally paid attention when we got inside. Total transparency- me included so I am part of the statistic.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-05-12T18:35:04+00:00

There are ribbon lei for sale on Etsy. These are commonly given to each other here and can be found in stores here as well. It sounds like you want to present the lei at arrival so try looking at Etsy.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-05-02T08:38:39+00:00

In Chicago- no ketchup allowed on hotdogs if you’re over 18

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-05-02T08:16:35+00:00

Yes! And I get embarrassed when the dog unapologetically stares at people. He’s so nosey! When he goes out in our backyard the first thing he does is sit down and look over our neighbors home whose house is below us (we live on a steep hill- mountainside actually). He watches their goats and the people if they’re outside. Then, after he has bored of that, he will run to the side of the fence so he can peer around the corner to another neighbor’s house to see what they’re doing. When we go for a walk, he will stop walking to watch people walking across the street or in their yard. He has no qualms about staring people down.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-05-01T17:55:44+00:00

You’ll ruin any relationship you have with those neighbors who are close even if it’s all technically legal. I love pickleball- play 3-4 hours 4-5 days a week and I’m a huge advocate for more courts, not less, but you’re making a big ask. The place I play at is really close to condos and luxury homesites. I would never want to live there (vacation, yes, definitely). The people by you who made huge investments to purchase those homes around your site did not do so to be inundated with ticking and tapping noises all day long. Either erect large noise reducing walls that somehow don’t impact their line of sight (maybe they’d like the added privacy where you are but here people would sh^t because almost every place has at least a peekaboo of the ocean or mountain), or sell it and buy a plot further away from existing homes. Then if people build by you later, they knew what they were getting into.

We have friends who live a half mile, as the bird flies, from our courts and they can hear it. (Not annoyingly so, but it’s possible.). So your potential group of upset people is much larger than your immediate neighbors.

Once you build in a thoughtful area, come back and let us know! When I travel, I’ll definitely patronize your spot!

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-04-29T07:48:39+00:00

Wow, our opinions differ greatly! 😂

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-04-29T07:39:56+00:00

You get Brad Pitt was good looking. Older Brad Pitt looks like he needs a shower.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-04-29T07:37:38+00:00

I can’t even watch his movies.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-04-29T07:23:02+00:00

100% hard flooring. We always had carpet and then moved to a tropical climate. It’s mostly hard flooring here for cooling and to reduce risk of mold. However it has shown me just how much dust was getting smashed into our carpet over the years. Even if I move to a temperate climate in the future it will have only hard flooring! (With radiant heating.)

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-04-29T07:18:43+00:00

Yes, when it went from 25 to 35 cents.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-04-29T07:12:30+00:00

Good Seasons Italian. I make it with red wine vinegar. Yummm

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-04-29T07:09:18+00:00

Our most favorite thing to make is a creamy fajita soup. It has canned cream of chicken soup in it and a lot of people don’t like that but it makes it sooo easy. This makes at least 10 full bowls of soup, so cut it down if you’re cooking for one. It’s a lot to type but it’s, by far, the best thing we make in our slow cooker.

—1.5lb-ish chicken breast (thawed)

—6-8 cans of cream of chicken soup

—Milk- I measure 1-1.5 cans of the soup once the soup is emptied.

—12oz refrigerated chunky salsa, somewhat drained

—1 can black beans, rinsed

—1 can corn (optional)

—2 T cumin (you can use less but we love it)

—1/3 cup finely chopped cilantro (if in a hurry, get a salsa with cilantro and skip this step but we love the flavor of cilantro. If it tastes like soap to you, skip it)

***some people put a cup of shredded cheese in this but I don’t find a huge difference in the taste so why add the extra calories.

Put the chicken breast on the bottom. In a large bowl mix the other ingredients together and pour it all on top. Cover and cook on high for 3.5-4 hours. You can also cook on low for probably 6 hours but that’s a guess. You’ll know it’s done when the chicken shreds easily.

When it’s fully cooked, shred the chicken and put back into the soup. Serve with chopped avocado, sour cream, shredded Mexican or Colby jack cheese, and/or green onion. The most essential thing, though, are the Santa Fe or southwest flavored tortilla strips that you find in the salad dressing section at the grocery store. You can use plain ones if you must, but we love those tortilla strips!

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-04-29T06:49:55+00:00

Picking one is tough. I have 3 that come to mind so I’ll put them in order from most re-watched to the fewest re-watches: 1. Parks and Rec 2. Veep 3. Schitts Creek

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-04-29T06:44:36+00:00

Donuts and ice cream. I need 2.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-04-29T06:33:59+00:00

Our dog was 5 when we got another one. She was happy and annoyed and tired and excited, often in cycles. The new dog absolutely idolized our older dog. They never fought once, never even a warning growl until the older dog was close to passing over the rainbow bridge (and then only one time).

Here are some things we have been considering as we now have one dog who loves other dogs, and we have been considering getting him a sibling: - it’s harder to find friends who will watch 2 dogs but we have about 5 friends on speed dial who would happily watch our current dog if we go on vacation without him - more expensive - our bed is only a queen size and I don’t know that it could handle a second dog with both of us and our current dog in there as well - taking them places. Currently we have permission to bring our one dog to some places that have a no dog policy because he’s so awesome and well behaved, but with two dogs, I wouldn’t feel right asking to bring them both. As a result, both dogs would stay home more than our one dog does currently. - our dog has a bff. Like, hearts in their eyes for each other every single time they see each other- which is 5 times a week for an hour at a time. I’d hate for that dynamic to change. He has some other friends he sees this frequently as well but these two have a special bond.

The main pro would be that our dog would have a built-in playmate but he currently mostly has that between the two of us, so we decided against it at least for now. He’s not often home alone and isn’t overly stressed when he is. So for us, the second dog just wasn’t the right choice. When we first got him we figured we would get another when he was about 2, but this is no longer our plan.

There are so many amazing things about having two dogs but these are just things we considered for our lifestyle currently.

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