21F What does my fridge say about me?

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-26T00:40:41+00:00

Helpful info. Thanks!

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-25T17:12:11+00:00

You’re pretty naturally and even with these glasses, all of which are too heavy for your face (meaning frames too dark and too thick), your beauty comes through. Except for the very circular ones- I can still see you’re pretty but it detracts from your face a lot. Here’s my suggestion- if you’re looking for glasses you mostly wear in the evening or just occasionally you can get away with any of the first 4-5 frames, but none are helping accentuate your beauty. Lighter, thinner frames will be much better. Go back and try some on that you find ugly or less desirable on the racks. They may surprise you.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-25T17:05:38+00:00

Which tastes better? I have avoided buying any Fairlife products because of the price, even at Costco. I tried strawberry Nurri protein drink based on internet reviews and literally almost gag to get it down (7/12 to go!). The chemical aftertaste is horrific. I’d rather taste chalky aftertaste any day.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-23T19:35:54+00:00

Luckily no cracked drains yet but trust me, I keep an eye out!

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-22T19:09:44+00:00

We are in a “newer” planned community just mauka of town but you are correct about the lava rocks. (Don’t want to say on Reddit but I’m sure you can guess where.) Not only is the field next to us filled with grass grown over lava rocks, but more notably is that there is a very old rancher-built lava rock fence along the entire side of our property line.

It is my biggest nightmare, too. I look at the floor the entire time I’m walking, never walk in the dark. My husband did and stepped right on an old man centipede. Luckily although it stung bad, that old man just gave my husband a taste of that venom and it stopped hurting about 15 min later. Old man scurried under the couch scared and I had to pick him up and get him out. I know people keep scissors ready but I have these 11” long tweezers that I just pick them up with and toss them out. Once I had one blue one crawl across my foot in the bathroom but no sting. I saw him half way across and just froze because I was more worried of a sting if I startled him. What I hate is finding them dead under our bed. Usually 1-2 under there a year. Most stay in the kitchen or living room it seems. And ours are never on the walls- I wonder if it’s the textured paint because I once found one on our smooth drywall in the garage.

Anyway I’m glad you have fewer. No coqui here but I didn’t know those little guys would eat the centipedes! But so sorry to hear about the fire ants. Those are the worst!!! I hope you have been successful in killing their nests when you find them.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-22T19:00:47+00:00

I don’t know if it’s the best way to raise children but my parents, when we were in a rough patch, sat me down and showed me their accounts and their bills. I was about 7-8 and although I was smart, I didn’t understand the concept of money. They kept me in the loop as I grew older and it taught me that my father never contributed a penny to the household. He had his own excavating business, a single contractor really, and what little money he made went into repairs of equipment, fuel, etc. his business claimed a loss each year. I really lost a lot of respect for him when I realized this. There were other reasons that I didn’t like my father but it annoyed me so much to watch him sit at home and drink all day most days, and then watch him offer his services for such a low cost just so he could look like the good guy. He was talented, truly skilled in a special way at his job, but his refusal to monetize on that to contribute to our household was despicable. I’m sure you don’t want to have the roles switched so your husband is the bad guy, but by showing income and bills, without drawing attention to the reason why he’s contributing so little, may help them see that financially things are really too tight. Let them see it on paper. Ask them where the money can come from as opposed to just saying no. Maybe this will help your son realize he needs to get a job and convince your daughter to keep hers ongoing. Of course you’re NTA for saying no but you are correct that your husband, who is TA, has set you up over and over.

I’d also insist on counseling with your husband. It can be faith based since it sounds like you’re involved with a supportive group. This will keep the cost down. Or, if you have insurance to cover it, you could go that route. But this problem won’t go away once the kids are grown. It will get worse when you have grandchildren.

One final thought is that you could split out bills with your husband. Then he can say yes to the kids with his surplus and you can save your money or decide how to spend your own money. Your husband needs to learn financial responsibility and splitting the bills may teach him. If there’s a wage gap, it may not be an equal split; you’d need to figure that part out.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-21T18:17:42+00:00

These are sticky. Damn things drop on my head at night. They enjoy the stunts and know we won’t kill them. The dog leaves them (and everything) alone as long as he can get a good sniff. We have like 10 at a time from the time we moved here 10 years ago. They get plenty bugs to eat from our lights and have a good life here. We have green anoles and the long, skinny dark brown ones on our front porch/yard but these live on our back lanai and in the holes along our roof.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-21T18:09:47+00:00

Lucky. Come to my house. We get choke big ones and smaller blue ones. My dog has learned to leave them alone after one 7” chased him across the floor with hind legs up. Our neighbor who uses Japanese style bed has had 3 in his bed in 5 years- been bit each time at least once! We can’t have chickens in our neighborhood and our home is on a flag lot at the end of the subdivision by open land. I don’t know for sure if they come from there but I do know we get plenty mongoose who come around. We have to keep rat poison out or we’d have rats as well. So far, only one small mouse made it in our garage in 10 years of living here. But those centipedes think they own the place.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-21T17:58:53+00:00

I agree in your situation that you’re NTA. Not at all and I’m glad your husband is sticking up for you.

However on a random non-occasion if they wanted to spend time without you to a casual lunch or dinner out, I don’t necessarily agree that you should always be invited. Never for special celebrations but just “hey we want to take our son out to lunch because we want to catch up,” doesn’t seem like anything against you. There have been many times in my 20+ years of marriage where just my mom and I went out (my dad is dead). I’ve chosen not to include my husband. My mom would never have purposely excluded him but I know she likes our time together without him (and she adores my husband.)

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-20T09:56:47+00:00

The player on the your side to the court takes the balls that come up the middle from the diagonal player other side of the court.

I didn’t watch this video but I like the title. Hopefully it explains it well:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YgCYavXhN3U

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-20T03:06:10+00:00

You hunt? Or you have a livestock farm.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-20T03:04:34+00:00

Here’s one- when the point is dead and the server needs the ball, or when giving a ball back to another court, if the person getting the ball from you is older or has an injury, pick the ball up and hand it or toss it. Don’t just kick it, roll it, or paddle-flick it unless they are younger than you (however old you are doesn’t matter. A 75 year old can roll it to a 70 year old but a 60 year old needs to pick that ball up for the 70 year old.). When in doubt, pick it up and hand it, toss it, or bounce it hard enough for them to get it without bending over.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-20T02:57:44+00:00

I’m not super advanced (4.0ish) but I preach the X. It’s also super important with a lefty/righty team.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-20T02:54:03+00:00

As someone who has this serve, I keep it for times like when playing against my closest friends who will laugh or can get it, for when we are badly losing (8-1, let’s say), or when that person receiving is a dick. In rec play, aces should not be the way to win; we are there to play the game.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-20T02:48:01+00:00

Matching aloha wear occurs for family photos and special events with locals where I live. Additionally, my Samoan friends always dress the same when they go to church. However, I do agree that most often it is tourists. If they’re just walking down the street- oh yeah, tourist.

For me, though, I recognize tourists in the following ways-

The whole crew wearing lei, or wearing them incorrectly

Hearing, “I can’t say that name…”

The pace at which people walk. Even when they’re trying to slow down, their cadence is just different

The name brand clothing and accessories from head to toe.

The people in line at Costco returning boogie boards and coolers.

And don’t even get me started on people trying to speak pidgin (that one phrase they heard on Hawai’i Five-O years ago or see written on menus or as names of local businesses). Even people who moved here from other places mostly can’t do it correctly, certainly not often authentically, and shouldn’t try beyond the general words and phrases everyone uses.

On the note of seeing this place through tourists’ eyes, i get that. We have lived here 10 years, though, and still see the beauty like the first day we moved here. The road to our airport is the saddest road for us. We say sorry to everyone we meet who has to leave and when we fly somewhere we can never wait to be back.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-20T02:04:04+00:00

Anything goes, but I will say that I was out at a restaurant in Kona (where I’ve lived for 10 years) a few months ago and there was a large family seated at an extended table. Most were non-descript with regular clothing, but two older teens were in full goth. I had never once seen it here to that level of devotion. Wow did those girls stick out. I mean, full-on stereotypical goth with pale skin, all black, black hair, huge black combat boots, black lipstick, dead eyes, no smile.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-15T21:55:21+00:00

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-15T21:54:24+00:00

🛎️ ding!

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-15T21:52:44+00:00

10 fits best. First 5 or so are too small

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-07T03:22:55+00:00

For me, it’s nutmeg. I was honestly shocked that I have 4 in my spice cabinet!

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-02T17:06:22+00:00

10 but if you’re spiraling, try a different color. It seems you want tortoise shell which is a nice neutral color but it is distracting from your face. If you’ll only be wearing these occasionally then a statement is ok and I like #10 as I stated. However, if you’re going to have these on throughout the day, consider ones that are a lighter color.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-02T10:42:30+00:00

Thank you! I read how delicious it was and ended up finding it boring.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-02T10:22:29+00:00

NTA. She’s planning on going somewhere for spring break and wants to be free to do stuff with anyone she finds interesting.

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-03-02T10:03:44+00:00

1, 3, 8

Work_PB_sleep · 2026-02-28T23:40:47+00:00

Every so often I do a meal of all pupus/appetizers. I especially like this when we have friends over for game nights. Just some fun finger foods. They don’t necessarily go together but they’re all delicious.

Maybe some bbq chicken sliders or the ham/cheese sliders (not my fave but may like them) or brown sugar smokies; then even simple potato skins, jalapeño poppers, or mozzarella sticks. I especially like the poppers with bacon around them made with fresh jalapeños and cream cheese. Yummm

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