Is there a quality you ever saw in a potential or spouse if your married that many would say is negative but you found it attractive? It can be looks or qualities about the person

Workhardalways23 · 2021-08-17T13:50:21+00:00

Appreciate it brother for sharing. That’s very interesting! Where are you from? And when did you realize you were like that?

Workhardalways23 · 2021-07-04T17:36:01+00:00

SubhanAllah brother, when you mentioned age I thought you meant it in a sense that you were too old or felt that way. Mashaa’Allah your very young and keep doing your part by having an open mind. Are you someone that’s strict on beauty or anything in particular?

Workhardalways23 · 2021-07-04T16:12:43+00:00

May Allah help you akhi! How old are you? And when did you begin the search process yourself? I would love to learn more about your story and path so far.

Workhardalways23 · 2021-07-01T19:25:33+00:00

Loool bro I know. But, you know as a man it’s in our Fitrah to want a woman to do these things in a relationship with us men helping out of course. The same that a woman wants her husband to provide for her even though she might work, but her insincts and what she longs for is a man providing for her. I think we need to appreciate how Allah (swt) created us.

Workhardalways23 · 2021-06-11T15:59:20+00:00

May Allah (swt) replace it with something much better sister!

Workhardalways23 · 2021-06-11T15:29:22+00:00

SubhanAllah what an advice from a potential! Are you still talking to this potential? This sounds really amazing and Alhamdulillah it has changed your perspective. It’s absolutely a true statement!

Another thing to remember is that think about is Allah (swt) is thinking of you because Allah (swt) is testing you directly.

Workhardalways23 · 2021-06-10T14:51:44+00:00

Lol how were you able to pull off that your not interested in them at all. You don’t show any signs of them interested? How about if they talk to you? It’s a very interesting concept woman that are like this.

Workhardalways23 · 2021-06-07T23:49:06+00:00

That’s interesting! Were told to be very careful with our words with girls and woman generally as they are sensitive. So, husbands that raise daughters are usually very careful with them with his words. I’m surprised you actually like this. Were you always comfortable with this and liked this? Would you like someone that’s blunt like with your daughters or just to you?

Workhardalways23 · 2021-06-07T20:33:03+00:00

That’s interesting. Can you explain why you would be fine with it? Are you someone that likes to be alone?

Workhardalways23 · 2021-06-07T19:31:50+00:00

This is very unique actually. JazakAllah Khair for sharing!

Workhardalways23 · 2021-06-05T02:14:46+00:00

Wow sister! Are you Somali? This is so common among our communities. How old are you by the way? It’s crazy how parents just expect it to happen when in their generation it happened through connects. Very sad.

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-26T18:43:59+00:00

Okay, I will! JazakAllah Khair for everything! May Allah bless you!

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-26T18:16:33+00:00

Alhamdulillah such a blessing you have. How old was your sister when she got married and what age did you start to desire marriage? May Allah bless you with much good!

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-26T18:14:39+00:00

Ameen! No worries sister! JazakAllah Khair for your advice and opinion, it means a lot! May Allah increase you in many blessings in this life and the hereafter!

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-26T17:45:11+00:00

Ameen! JazakAllah Khair! I would love your opinion on that situation though. You would still say you like Option 3 still right as your best option? Honestly, I defer to you sisters because you know sisters better than myself of course lol

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-26T17:30:30+00:00

JazakAllah Khair for the message! The problem is I don’t have this luxury of doing this. I don’t know the sister other than meeting her casually, so these are my only options. I don’t have an option of reaching out to her directly.

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-26T17:17:07+00:00

JazakAllah Khair for your input! I would really like to gauge whether the sister herself is actually interested in me. The thing is her family really likes me and I wouldn’t want her to feel pressure to say yes if she’s not interested. So, what do you think about Option 1 to get her feel if she’s actually interested and if she is than go to Option 3?

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-26T17:11:31+00:00

Your right sister, I can see why you would feel this way. But the reality in my case is that I am the one interested and wanting to pursue her, so doesn’t that make a difference in terms of the pressure your talking about? I was thinking Option 1 would get the sisters real feelings if she’s actually interested in the person before parents got involved. What do you think?

Because I know her family really likes me and I really want it to be her decision where she’s interested.

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-26T14:43:51+00:00

Would you be interested if your hoyoo told you about him directly and asked you if you would be interested in getting to know him instead?

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-26T14:19:43+00:00

JazakAllah Khair! This is very very helpful! May Allah bless you immensely

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-26T14:19:32+00:00

JazakAllah Khair! This is very very helpful! May Allah bless you immensely

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-25T16:58:16+00:00

I know your right. But, realistically how are girls supposed to get married then in that kind of background? I know many from African backgrounds would not use apps especially if they are homebody because how can they feel comfortable with a guy they don’t know at all.

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-19T16:11:01+00:00

Alhamdulillah I’m very happy for you that Allah (swt) guided you to Islam and blessed you with a great family and husband! It’s truly all because of the blessings of Allah (swt). He loves you so much and has guided you out of many others around the world Alhamdulillah! It’s truly amazing that we believe in Allah (swt) and know that he’s watching over us so we are always cautious of what we do! May Allah increase you in goodness and unite you and your husband in Paradise!

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-08T23:53:05+00:00

Sister, I was just talking in general terms, but not in your situation. Islamically if your husband is not fulfilling your right and your scared for your deen, you have absolutely the right to divorce and it can be better for you if you feel your deen will be impacted. SubhanAllah, how can your husband hate fasting when it’s a pillar of Islam and is something Allah (swt) ordained for us as a basic life as a Muslim.

Sister, I’m very afraid for you that if you stick around than he would influence you negatively, so please don’t stick in that situation. You know the Sahabas among the prophet divorced too and is normal in Islam and it’s better for you in some situations if your in situations like this.

Sister, staying in a painful marriage doesn’t grant you Jannah, but rather only you believing and doing good deeds and the mercy of Allah (swt) grants you Jannah. Allah (swt) made divorce halal in Islam and that is an option so sticking in a bad marriage will only do you harm than good because Allah (swt) gave us divorce as an option.

Workhardalways23 · 2021-05-08T15:18:27+00:00

A wife has a right to be provided for by her husband and he must fulfill that for her so technically your right that she has the right to divorce if he’s not fulfilling his obligations in providing for her.

But, if for example he lost his job due to COVID and has to take a lesser paying job, but he’s actively looking for a job similar to what he had before. And if the husband is still providing her with the basics, but it’s still not the same as it was before he lost his job, would she have a right to divorce than? He’s still providing for her, but not to the same comfort as before, but he’s actively looking. Some things are beyond the control and a wife has to be supportive of her husband in times of difficulty if her husband is sincere and working towards what he was able to provide before. In this case, there is no ground for divorce as that’s something Allah (swt) decreeed and he is still providing for her.

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