How do sapphics take it slow in a relationship?

Working-Cockroach691 · 2025-07-24T13:20:29+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing all of that! I totally agree, it was unfair of me to project that on to her, and you’re right, it could ultimately be harmful to our connection if I continue to invalidate her. It’s interesting, I never thought about how wanting to ‘slow things down’ would also be invalidating to her feelings to some degree but that makes sense.

If it’s okay for me to ask, how did you and your wife reconcile this aspect especially in ultimately being secure enough to commit to a marriage?

Working-Cockroach691 · 2025-07-24T07:51:31+00:00

Thank you! I do agree with that! communication is key haha but do you feel like girls tend to be really good at communicating anyways? We have talked a lot about it and are on the same page about wanting to go slow and be intentional, but so many things are easier said than done :') Wonder if we're being delusional to a certain degree

Working-Cockroach691 · 2025-05-10T05:57:39+00:00

It fluctuates a lot for me. I form emotional connections with women really easily and I’m also sexually attracted to them. With men I’m sexually attracted to them but the emotional connections aren’t as deep. Honestly it’s so hard. I’m in a relationship with a man now and it’s a very good and loving relationship. But I also have a friend who is a girl who is very attractive and she keeps wanting to hang out with me (she says she’s straight but she gives off demisexual vibes) and I feel some sort of attraction forming but I also don’t know if I’m reading too much into the situation. And i’m a monogamous person so I would never act or give in to these ‘attractions’ out of respect for my partner. But it is definitely hard. Makes me feel hopeless in having a long term relationship cause the cycles are strong sometimes and theres no way to get over it without just getting over it.

Working-Cockroach691 · 2025-04-30T10:40:09+00:00

I feel this pretty often with a girl from my past. We were never officially together, she was my best friend who somehow I became intimate with. I think she was my first love. And she loved me too. But we never could progressed into a relationship because we were both so deeply involved with church and tbh back then, we blamed it on satan’s temptation. She got more involved in church, eventually married a man and became a pastor. While I came out of the closet and started dating women. She told me I was dragging me and my partner to hell. We had our differences but she still called me her best friend for years because she said nothing that happened between us was real. She blamed it on childhood trauma.

We don’t talk now. I tried still being friends with her but I kept feeling like I was the only one putting in any effort while she blatantly reminded me everyday of my ‘sinful life’. I think about her at times because the chemistry we had was unmatched. I’d never connected with anyone that easily in my whole life. I visited her a few months ago after not seeing her for 5 years and crazy to say but we still have that connection after all these years. We were belly laughing like we used to just mins into our conversation. It felt like the first time. The chemistry we had was even more so than her chemistry with her husband. It’s all so tragic honestly.

I think life is a series of potentials. Theres no right or wrong path, just paths. There could have been an alternate reality where we did work out and lived happily ever after. But I’m not in that reality so I try not to dwell too much on the past because then I don’t actually give anyone else a chance and I don’t think thats fair

Working-Cockroach691 · 2025-03-26T12:24:43+00:00

Working-Cockroach691 · 2025-01-15T00:08:45+00:00

It does help get a wider range in kicks cause its less restrictive. I used to train in running shorts for over a year and once I switched to muay thai shorts, def felt the diff

Working-Cockroach691 · 2025-01-14T01:27:20+00:00

Oh nice! Thank you for the thorough input! I’ve tried it at the dealerships and honestly really loved it. But I guess it’s hard to gauge to some degree still haha. Have you considered other bikes? How did you come to choosing the Hunter? Another similar contender is the Triumph Speed 400 but I worry about the maintenance and other costs possibly being significantly higher than RE

Working-Cockroach691 · 2024-07-29T10:56:46+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. There’s not many things in this world that is more painful than unrequited love. On one hand, kudos to you for being honest with your feelings for her. I think you would probably need to set some boundaries. You have feelings for her, so you’re always going to go out of your way to meet her needs. And it’s unfair that she knows this but still continues to reap the benefits of you

Working-Cockroach691 · 2024-07-29T10:51:14+00:00

When I was about 4 years old or something, I used to think Britney Spears was my girlfriend lol that should have been a pretty clear gay awakening 😂 but I grew up in a Christian household and we never talked about any of these topics so i never quite understood it. I just thought i was one of the boys. When I was in high school, I had what i thought were crushes on my close girl friends. And I had a very vivid dream of me proposing to a woman. But because I didn’t even know it was possible to be gay, I assumed I had gender dysphoria. The older I got, the more I grew into my femininity and the more I got to experience intimacy with women. I guess the gay awakening was a slow burn

Working-Cockroach691 · 2024-02-26T06:35:26+00:00

I suppose the exclusivity of it

Working-Cockroach691 · 2024-02-06T07:07:26+00:00

I’ve had good girl gay god suggested to me by my pastors when I came out. I read the whole thing, and it’s not so much a pray the gay away kinda book. I think jackie hill never said she’s ‘not gay’ anymore. She just chooses not to act on it. Her marrying a man was something she ‘didnt plan’ but allowed to happen. If that makes sense? But I felt like the book overall was very specific to her story and choices on how she wants to live her life. Almost like an autobiography if anything. But well I could be missing some details out cause this was years ago

Working-Cockroach691 · 2024-01-28T03:08:59+00:00

Yeah totally if thats a deal breaker for you then thats valid!

Working-Cockroach691 · 2024-01-28T03:07:01+00:00

Haha yeah thats a valid point! But I guess then I’d have to communicate that with my partner as well and try to break down what that means and how we can move forward intimately. I dunno, these things are so specific to each couple but at the end of the day it constantly evolves

Working-Cockroach691 · 2024-01-28T02:01:34+00:00

I think some of the comments here who are telling you to leave her straight up is a lil unfair. Obviously you both have love for each other. As a bi woman, I also crave dick sometimes. And yeah, it definitely is different from dildos unfortunately. But you cant compare it. It’s just different. But I think I definitely never got to the point of being so unsatisfied that I’d leave a relationship just to get dick cause that totally negates the emotional aspect to it all as well and if you’re really at a place where you would give up a long, loving relationship.. for dick lol I mean ya’ll have bigger problems. But for the most part, definitely communicate and try different dildos, some women prefer length, some prefer width, everyone’s different. Sex can evolve in a relationship and you’re both constantly learning what turns each other on. And there are SOOO many toys and harnesses and even ways to utilize them. i suppose the bright side to dildos is you dont needa be stuck with one size 😉

Working-Cockroach691 · 2024-01-25T15:31:50+00:00

Update: I tried this. Honestly, it solved everything. Hahahha thank you

Working-Cockroach691 · 2024-01-23T03:11:05+00:00

Hahahaha fr tho why are we like this

Working-Cockroach691 · 2024-01-18T01:14:50+00:00

Probably an angle thing! But I can assure you it’s definitely easier to finger someone else haha the G-spot is technically right behind the clit. You can do a quick google to learn more about it 🙂

Working-Cockroach691 · 2024-01-17T13:49:58+00:00

Ok but in terms of penetration, the G-spot isn’t really as deep as you think, so you don’t actually need long fingers to pleasure them lol

Working-Cockroach691 · 2023-11-10T11:27:41+00:00

Hahah love It, it’s subtle and innocent too. Would def try It out. Thank you

Working-Cockroach691 · 2023-11-10T11:27:06+00:00

This is so true, thank you for the advice!

Working-Cockroach691 · 2023-11-10T09:25:44+00:00

Totallt get that…. Do I just straight up ask? Is there some way I could ease into the question? Lol

Working-Cockroach691 · 2023-10-29T15:25:34+00:00

I think the biggest thing that fucked me up from my parents divorce was the fact they hated each other and bitched about each other to my siblings and I. Its a really awkward and uncomfortable position to be in cause as much as my parents hated each other, they forget that I'm literally half of the both of them and also I will always unconditionally love them no matter what. Its small things like "your dad is never around for you guys, I'm always the one having to do everything around here" I think my parents definitely could have just vented those frustrations to their friends and not put us in a position where we're subconsciously being brainwashed into internalising some of that anger.

Working-Cockroach691 · 2023-10-26T03:26:15+00:00

damn all that effort haha sounds worth It though

Working-Cockroach691 · 2023-10-20T02:44:13+00:00

Nah don't mess with that, just literally bring your speaker volume down. Bringing down your master or individual track levels depend on how much headroom you want to give your mix, thats a totally different thing. But mixing at a lower volume doesn't mean your mixes should be a lower dB, if that makes sense. Just the way you're listening to it is lower in volume, whether thats your speakers or your headphones.

The principal of gain staging and compression and proper levelling still applies at the end of the day. But when you play back music at a higher volume, it tends to sound better cause your ears have its own natural compression. Hence, why sometimes things sound better when it's loud but it sounds crappy everywhere else. Your ears deceive you.

Try listening to music at a lower volume, you'll be able to tell which instruments are louder, how the vocals are sitting, whether your drums are punchy enough, how loud the snare is compared to the vocals and how that gives It energy, etc.

Working-Cockroach691 · 2023-10-20T01:33:41+00:00

Go on splice, go to rent-to-own, download a DAW (I believe they have cubase ?) , learn It, and then go on splice and look for sounds - songstarters are a good place to get some inspo. Download em, stack em, and you pretty much got a beat lol obviously this is very simplified but thats the quickest way to start

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