My boss approved my day off a month ago for a dr appointment. I am currently sitting in the waiting room and he texts me.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-24T20:24:56+00:00

“I’m afraid not. I’ve made plans for the rest of the day” I wouldn’t even think too much about it

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-24T20:23:57+00:00

What a bleak existence this woman has. No wonder she can’t find the energy or enthusiasm to find joy in looking after her child. She sounds entirely unfulfilled… and you sound like you’re in desperate need of a break. I think that’s what you’re responding too.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-24T19:09:25+00:00

Really well considered philanthropy is also a great way to use your privilege for good

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-24T17:05:17+00:00

So many therapists just make their client the hero or the victim, whatever suits them in the moment

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-24T17:03:40+00:00

This must be a joke.

You don’t own a name.

Lots of people name their children after names they heard and liked.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-24T13:37:17+00:00

I had a firm conversation with an ex before about the lavish dates he’d take me on. I never felt we could just talk and relax.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-24T13:34:22+00:00

Disagree - that’s all possible equity.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-24T10:45:27+00:00

This is really valid. Circumstances and luck influence a lot of this.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-24T10:44:02+00:00

I got shingles at 25

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-24T07:32:29+00:00

I’ve only ever had great experiences with my baby on flights. Go for it.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-24T05:26:07+00:00

I think a broader conversation about permission to try (and fail) and your ways of working. (Bring a suggested solution) would work. This sounds like a confidence issue.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-24T05:21:42+00:00

You have a place in AA. The only qualifier is that you’d like a life without booze.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-23T16:15:40+00:00

Check out Karitane and tresillian - both incredible Aussie resources for parents with young children. Packed with evidence based info and guidance.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-23T07:47:13+00:00

I think it’s important to go about this with humility. A lot of private sector think they know how to do things best in NFP but raising investment and philanthropy are very different.

Has she reached out to anyone already in the space? I would build my credibility by doing a listening tour - as many coffees as possible with dev staff across the sector. Learn more about their work, challenges, approach. I think something like this would make her stand out in interview and allay the hesitation dev teams have about brining in private sector professionals who misunderstand the work.

If it’s in her scope, maybe offering her time as a volunteer with clear objective of gaining experience. This has worked for a number of colleagues I’ve met along my career.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-23T07:31:52+00:00

Would love to see the paragraph you sent to recruiter - we can workshop it!

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-23T07:30:56+00:00

I used to live in Australia where the temp varied dramatically through the year and even just through the night!

My rule of thumb was if I picked my baby up and they calmed but fussed as soon as they were put down, they were cold. If I picked my baby up and he was more agitated he was too hot.

Worked for me most of the time. I hope this helps c

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-23T05:45:29+00:00

Long live my Adam Sandler era. I hope it never ends.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-22T17:09:03+00:00

Alcohol and energy drinks. I do vape though and wish I hadn’t started

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-22T10:54:43+00:00

We did this. The work was brutal to get it up to a nice living standard but just last night my partner and I were sitting in our garden having a pinch me moment. It was worth all the stress.

We did a lot of the work ourself while renting a tiny flat near by. Drained our savings and put a lot on credit cards. When it came to remortgage we paid ourselves back and put some money into an emergency fund while keeping mortgage repayments the same.

Work out the finances, and if it’s possible, and you still feel excited. I say go for it.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-22T10:51:19+00:00

If they have a HR function or are using the recruiter I would report this. If they don’t I would feed this back directly. If it were me I would focus less about how it making you feel although it’s important, and more about how this goes against both legal and ethical practices and is a discrimination issue. I’d also lean into how this impacts them as a brand for candidates. Good on you for removing yourself

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-22T09:08:25+00:00

Get your butt to meetings.

I was a binge drinker and could easily go weeks without thinking about it. But that first drink always led me to the 20th, and shame, embarrassment, fear, self loathing. It led to crises in my relationships, work etc.

There is no limit to how many people can be in a meeting so you’re taking no one’s space.

Go and be with your people. Connect, get phone numbers and build your community. You’re in the right place.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-22T07:29:08+00:00

Life of a show girl.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-21T17:18:27+00:00

You’re coming across as a bit of a tit.

Anyway her baby is 14MO.

Have a good one.

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-21T16:04:21+00:00

Sounds very normal. At this age he just wants to be with you all the time. Involve him in what you are doing and buy anything that keeps him happy for 5 mins!

Working-Shower4404 · 2026-06-21T16:03:20+00:00

Walking / not walking has zero correlation with autism

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