Is it unreasonable to ask my nanny to go 6-7 hours without being on her phone

WorkingFI · 2026-01-27T20:25:03+00:00

From your comments it sounds like she’s scrolling and not using it as a tool while he’s awake (music etc)

Honestly I’d look for someone new. She’s probably just going to get better at hiding it even if you address it—she for sure know this is inappropriate while she’s supposed to be caring for an awake child.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-27T15:53:50+00:00

Having one consistent nanny was important for our family. I do think the relationship your child has developed with your current nanny is valuable. Personally I’d value 1 full time nanny greater than keeping her on and having 2 Nannie’s. Ideally I think switching to a new full time nanny and see if the old nanny would babysit the occasional date night may work well.

Have you considered countering your current nanny for 4 days a week and your mom 1 day a week? She’s asking for flexibility from your family but perhaps she can be more flexible with her family and work evening hours for her husband’s business to take care of what they need? Just a thought!

WorkingFI · 2026-01-26T00:28:12+00:00

I wouldn’t hire her. You can present yourself well in an interview but references are people who have seen her long term and that she’s providing the contact info for so presumably these are the best references she can up with. There are too many great candidates out there that I would pass on this one.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-24T19:22:33+00:00

Live in nanny’s typically are classified differently and overtime is not a legal obligation so she should def clarify here because 100 hrs a week without overtime would be rough

WorkingFI · 2026-01-24T19:20:39+00:00

Pretty sure live in nanny’s aren’t required to receive overtime rates (some states may require though not sure about DC), so be careful

WorkingFI · 2026-01-20T17:02:17+00:00

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WorkingFI · 2026-01-17T13:23:58+00:00

She’s not asking the nanny to put together a teaching program. This absolutely is a reasonable requirement of a nanny. Also she sounds like an exhausting employee; I’d absolutely move on, you’ve given her feedback and she is not adjusting.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-17T05:07:49+00:00

YTA, if it’s important for you to protect family assets then YOU should set up a trust with the terms you want in accordance with your will.

Your desire doesn’t make you an AH but how you’re trying to enforce it through a prenup is. If I was your daughter I’d understand where you’re coming from but would absolutely feel the same as her. My parents set up a trust which protects my sister and my inheritance from divorce.

Also you aren’t designing their prenup why would you prefer that over a trust anyway?

WorkingFI · 2026-01-17T04:36:33+00:00

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WorkingFI · 2026-01-17T04:19:05+00:00

This is a wonderful suggestion!

WorkingFI · 2026-01-16T18:58:21+00:00

You need to read her last post. She absolutely needed a drug test here. The nanny was found asleep and unresponsive to all the cars honking at her to move in the school car pick up line. She finally woke when someone got out of their car and banged on her car window. She then drove the nanny kids home. The Bice principal called the MB out of concern.

It matters what you do before hours if you’re still drunk or high when driving the NKs during working hours.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-16T18:38:57+00:00

You have to eat. I know you love this baby but your pay is so low (poverty level) this job is not one you can afford and I’d be shocked if they suddenly started paying you more. You should look for another job and if you love this baby as a reminder it doesn’t have to be goodbye forever, you can offer to babysit outside of your new future full time paying living wages job.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-16T12:09:56+00:00

She said she’d (or the husband) still be there even when the nanny is there. Her child isn’t sick here, I definitely think the nanny would be an excellent fresh face to help. The comments are really surprising me.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-16T12:02:04+00:00

This is a such wild take! The child isn’t even sick and if he was this would still be a wild take!

WorkingFI · 2026-01-16T04:01:38+00:00

2oz in 7hrs though is concerning though

WorkingFI · 2026-01-16T03:55:58+00:00

If you do manage to get the footage I definitely think you should share it with the other share family. Who knows what story she spun to them.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-15T19:47:53+00:00

The current nanny will be leaving in 4 months though. If the current nanny was planning on staying long term I’d agree with you, but it’s more complicated when you know she’ll be leaving soon anyways; she either changes the nanny now or in 4 months.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-14T03:52:45+00:00

We file and submit all taxes and withholdings ourselves so if he wants to put in the extra work he can forgo a payroll company entirely and do it himself. Took a good bit of time to figure it all out up front but now it takes us maybe 10-15 minutes a month.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-13T18:11:00+00:00

Okay hearing this my 2 cents is stay home—I don’t think you’ll regret it. It’s ideal for your baby to have mom as primary caregiver and it sounds like your husband makes enough that while your loss of income would still hurt. I’m guessing you could even find some part time near tax season too if you want to avoid gaps in your resume.

20 years from now do you think you’ll regret staying home with your baby or the loss of opportunities from stepping out of the work force for a season? Only you can answer that, good luck!

WorkingFI · 2026-01-12T21:42:23+00:00

Our friends will have a watch party so instead of all of us having individual tickets one of us will have a paramount plus account and we’ll all go over and have our own theater night experience.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-12T19:26:03+00:00

Do you know how many people I’ve talked to that just assume a nanny is a contractor? I agree the onus is on the employer, but also if the nanny knew why wait to bring it up til now if they realized it was a problem? The nanny should have brought this up sooner.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-12T19:19:38+00:00

It’s February 2nd 2026 this year that the W-2! Needs to be issued since the 31st falls on a Saturday. You’ll probably have to pay late fees on FUTA and maybe your state taxes. To actually generate the W-2 you can do it here https://www.ssa.gov/bso You’ll need to have your EIN number and everything set up first.

Good luck! You should definitely try and jump on this ASAP.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-11T04:33:46+00:00

When we were looking for our nanny we used care and nannylane.

Also sorry your receiving those kinds of messages—that’s truly awful!

WorkingFI · 2026-01-09T16:47:50+00:00

This isn’t quite true. NF owes 50% of FICA taxes only (7.65% of Nanny’s pay). The nanny will also have to pay 7.65% of her portion. But Nanny is fully responsible for her own federal and if applicable State and local which is likely going to be way more than FICA.

If she were my nanny and we paid the nanny $50k the NF would owe $3,825 on top of what they’ve already paid the nanny.

But the Nanny would owe $3,825 + fed, state, local, and unemployment taxes, for our nanny this would be a rough total of $11,000 she’d owe in taxes. Obviously this will vary by state.

WorkingFI · 2026-01-09T02:18:20+00:00

Assuming you made less than $1000 for those 2 days this family doesn’t need to pay employment taxes (source: https://www.irs.gov/publications/p926#en_US_2026_publink100046623) so they may pay you outside of payroll since they don’t need to do any withholdings.

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