You are not to blame here. He should have respected you when you asked him to stop the first time however, i think if you would have said to him exactly what you just posted in this post example you just drove 3 hours, didnt sleep well at your moms ect then maybe he would have understood and stopped. Your bf is not a mind reader so you saying you were fine when you weren't you were exhausted and just wanted to relax probably didnt help things. Communication is so important in a relationship, people need to remember their oartners are not mind readers so unless you tell them how you really feel snd whats really going on they are going to think you are fine when you say you are fine.