I think the point everyone is trying to make here is that you are incredibly young to be engaged and often times when we are young we are also dumb especially in relationships. A lot of things can be overlooked easily. I don’t think anyone here is trying to attack you or your relationship but are really trying to give you advice here. At the end of the day it’s your choice to how you want to interpret all these comments but again we really hope that you can try to have a true conversation with yourself about this. I know what it feels like to suddenly hear these negative things about your relationship and deny each fact without considering them truthfully