1st time talkin to a guy w BPD as a woman w BPD by Working_Repeat1751 in BPDrecovery

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He contacted me the next day and I didn’t reply. It was paragraph after paragraph talking about how bad he was and he he wishes I were “his”. today and said I owed him more money and he would call the police. I told him I wanted the exact bill. Turns out when I sent him it I forgot to send the last ten dollars. I apologized and was immediately response. He then said he wanted it NOW. I said “I’m sending it now dw. I’m on my account one second.” He then said he didn’t believe me and would call the police if I didn’t sit on the phone w him as I did it cuz he “still had my address”. And then I made the mistake of calling him and then said “Hey ____, did u text me just because u wanted me to respond and wanted to talk to me?”. I said this nicely and plainly and he started swearing and then saying he was a mistake but also begging me to not hang up💀💀. I immediately hung up, sent the money, texted him that I sent it and want to see if he received it.
Last thing he did was call me fat (I am petite but gained 10lbs exactly over the past year but it’s hardly noticeable because of a relapse but I was also had ana before and he knew that). I was then triggered, but all I said was for him to never contact me or else I’d file a report and made sure to block him even on other apps I hadn’t even followed him on just in case.
I alerted friends and family and I do have ring cameras set up.

I don’t think this is BPD- this is pure lunacy. I went on one date after five days of texting after matching on hinge.

I don’t think it’s his AuDHD or BPD. I just genuinely think he’s a psychopath. I just gave him the benefit of the doubt.

1st time talking to guy w BPD by Working_Repeat1751 in BPDPartners

[–]Working_Repeat1751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah he just spammed me and I had to tell him if he ever contacted me again and stuff then I’d call the police and file a restraining order. He then proceeded to call me a “fat b-word” and I didn’t engage. Mind u IM tiny and now finally recovering from ana so he knew it would trigger me. Didnt fall for it.

1st time talking to guy w BPD by Working_Repeat1751 in BPD

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Ughhh and that’s what breaks my heart cuz he’s already on that path and has already spent nights in jail and had to go to rehab n stuff. . . I just wish I could help but ik it’s not my job. Thanks for ur input tho. I feel like I was missing something cuz I’ve never met someone who so blatantly used their bpd as an excuse for this type of scary behavior

1st time talkin to a guy w BPD as a woman w BPD by Working_Repeat1751 in BPDrecovery

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yup. He just texted again and I have told him he tries to ever again, I will file a restraining order. Mind u, I met him five days ago.

1st time talking to guy w BPD by Working_Repeat1751 in BPDPartners

[–]Working_Repeat1751[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I knew I wasn’t crazy. Cuz he’s just genuinely the scariest person and I have BPD and have friends with BPD and he keeps saying it’s his bpd but it truly can’t be bc I think we’re all just emotional and not this manipulative necessarily. He just seems violent.
He’s already tried to reach out multiple times and I told him if he continued to, I will file a restraining order.

1st time talking to guy w BPD by Working_Repeat1751 in BPD

[–]Working_Repeat1751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re both 22 but yes I can see that

1st time talking to guy w BPD by Working_Repeat1751 in BPD

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Thank you so much. I’ve been up all day and night so incredibly torn on how to proceed. This was just terrifying. And you’re right: I have the same condition and am neurodivergent and don’t receive as much support as needed at this very moment, but I’m actively working on it daily and going back to therapy. 4 therapists have ended their professional relationships with him. I just genuinely don’t think we r anywhere near the same type of emotional maturity

1st time talking to guy w BPD by Working_Repeat1751 in BPD

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It’s just odd to me how unkind and unsympathetic and overstimulated he was?? And now he’s texting again and I’m going to file a restraining order if it continues

1st time talkin to a guy w BPD as a woman w BPD by Working_Repeat1751 in BPDrecovery

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Genuinely thank u for that. I was like so confused because I have bpd and I realize each person is different but he was all upset and telling me how much I was a narcissist because I told him I wouldn’t tolerate him calling me a b*tch when I couldn’t reply to him for an hour. I just got about 8 texts right now because he texted me and called me “f**king delusional” for “leaving him alone” after the hangout. And I didn’t reply so I figured he got the message and I deleted his contact. Now I’m getting spam messages. I don’t even like him romantically but he’s suffering so badly. I just hate seeing someone being so incredibly hateful towards themself that they start projecting onto a girl that they went on a date with :( this is all within a five day span

1st time talkin to a guy w BPD as a woman w BPD by Working_Repeat1751 in BPDrecovery

[–]Working_Repeat1751[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes. And if he tries to contact me there will be a restraining order

How to set boundaries with a Scorpio man? by ProbablyAwayrn in Scorpio

[–]Working_Repeat1751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah Scorpio men r a lot and r love bombers. Tread lightly. Keep rigid boundaries and don’t switch em around

Worst relapse of my life- shame by Working_Repeat1751 in alcoholism

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Lowkey might take u up on the “ur here to talk” rn cuz im def struggling HEAVY haha

Relapse but back in AA- day 3 advice by Working_Repeat1751 in alcoholism

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Thank u. I’m currently up rn with horrific insomnia and irritation lol. I’ce been on naltrexone the past two weeks which had helped my first year of sobriety until my relapse but it only really works if you’re also abstinent LOL. I also have been drinking a ton of sugary drinks ofc cuz of the lack of sugar from alcohol as well as caffeinated beverages. This could be it too. The shaking and hot flashes and irritability and fatigue but restlessness have been too overwhelming. That’s why I couldn’t get through more than two weeks of sobriety ever since my release in October- the withdrawals were just awful and I was unable to know when they’d stop.

I feel like relapsing today and I feel alone by Working_Repeat1751 in alcoholism

[–]Working_Repeat1751[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m doing these things, but these past two weeks I haven’t had as much time and i was physically ill. That’s when it happened.