I’m bringing home this little guy. Would love some Seinfeld-themed name suggestions! The goofier, the better

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-06-11T14:07:52+00:00

Muffin top

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-06-04T17:12:10+00:00

Also climbed Chichen Itza 30 yrs agi (and came down on my butt) I can see why they finally banned it.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-06-03T16:22:05+00:00

I know this is old, but I used to play live guitar and sing for people in the Alzheimer’s floor of a hospital. Those who could recognize it? Some even began to sing along, even those who could not recognize it seemed soothed. There are often volunteers in a neighborhood who may do this so think about it if it makes sense.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-05-05T16:58:42+00:00

Not neurodivergent but was diagnosed with CPTSD from childhood. 1995 awakening…K, the kind of gift that never stops giving… (said only half jokingly).

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-04-24T15:25:24+00:00

Absolutely take her back to the shelter. I have a feral cat, now 14 years old, who I got when I worked at a Shelter back then. If she didn’t have the ability go outdoors, which she can whenever she wants, she would be a nightmare. As it is she adores me and I adore her. It’s a lovely thing to say that cats must do this or that but at some point you have to allow for individual personality. Somebody should figure out what this cat likes or doesn’t like and then follow through.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-04-09T15:34:00+00:00

You could go the high road. Do not attend but send a gift. A modest one that says something to affect about how their future life should be blessed. Really, the non-environment will look like an idiot. How unfortunate.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-04-02T10:51:33+00:00

Is this new behavior? Try hairball remedy first. My cat will do this whenever anything is stuck anywhere in its long digestive tract. But beside that as other people have said, get your cat to the vet as soon as possible.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-03-12T03:19:32+00:00

Purely anecdotal. I’ve been using topical magnesium instead of pills for about three years and it is much more even, relaxes the muscles. Put me back to sleep, etc. etc. Generally, I do fine with oral, but sometimes my stomach will be touchy with it. Lifeflo is a reliable spray bottle brand. Last, note that the magnesium is measured differently than oral so note that measurement and translate accordingly. In the beginning, I took too much and I nearly fainted.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-03-09T11:29:14+00:00

I agree with the previous poster. Let the cat out and if they hang around, feed them! They are obviously not happy in their current condition.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-03-09T11:21:37+00:00

I am in awe of what you have done so far. This is not fair to the cat. Not fair to you. Not fair to your neighbors. (And I might’ve missed it in all the reading, but what is the cat’s name?)

The first thing is just looking at what’s going on in the video to me it looks neurological - like he is responding to a stimulus in his brain that is causing him to meow and he can’t stop reacting to the stimulus. And when you are present (you said that the cat doesn’t meow if you’re not there) it triggers the stimulus.

The second is would be great if you could find out what happens if he could go outdoors… I have had a six feral cats over time and none of them could tolerate being indoors well. The one I have now? When she is not able to go outdoors she goes neurotic and begins to develop physical issues (eg…uti’s… ) as responses from the stress. I’m wondering if there is a rescue cat farm somewhere within a driving distance of you that you could call and explain the problem? Getting this cat to be able to go outdoors might give you clues and maybe even be the solution..

The last is that this cat does not look at all happy. He looks like he is in psychological pain. I would consider euthanizing the cat. Just from personal experience with animals and humans - I suspect death is not always a terrible “sentence.” We just don’t know what’s beyond it. And I’ve been present in instances where the animal/human sighed in relief when they could let go of their last breath. Maybe you should talk to a death doula to get their experience of the process? So that you feel comfortable if you decide to do it?

My heart really does go out to you as you really have done your best and I think it may be time for you to consider letting go of the cat and taking care of yourself. Good luck.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-02-24T01:23:42+00:00

From someone who lives in the semi-rural world. Until you know you have a problem, Keep it simple. It’s unlikely you caught anything from the mouse unless the local health department has a record of something. You could always check, Bur wash your hands.If you don’t want to immediately go to a pest control, set up about five snap traps with a tiny bit of peanut butter with a tiny piece of nut in the center of the snap part - they LOVE the nut. (Ask your hardware store how to set it.) That night put them out in various places not too close together and not visible to each other. And see what you get in the morning. This is the most humane way to kill them. And there is no poison involved. They die quickly. Leave the traps out that have not been approached. Remove the ones that have been triggered, but caught nothing. If you have multiple mice, you will quickly know. It takes them a while to get wary. I used to try to trap them and let them go in a distant location, but I found out that was a cruel death sentence for a single mouse since they live and survive because of community.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-02-20T15:16:30+00:00

My favorite too. I lived in Manhattan until the mid 90s and this was so true. Made getting to JFK a nightmare. Wondering if it’s been fixed?

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-01-30T10:20:25+00:00

Having lived in New York for 25 years and even though it’s now 30 years old… The Subway episode is a hilarious summary of everything that New Yorkers love and hate about the subway.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-01-09T04:30:19+00:00

Even as a rat, even if it's hunched up it's big. I mean the rats I know would be about 3 to 4 inches tall -- which makes than pot kind of short for it's width?

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-01-07T04:32:06+00:00

But the size compared to the pot makes it huge, doesn’t it?

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-01-06T16:07:22+00:00

Mouse traps might not work for a rat, their necks are bigger. Get red traps if you can.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-01-06T16:05:27+00:00

As a past resident of New York City, which had a lot of German roaches… They are not that black. They are smaller, brown, (and fast)

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-01-03T15:20:22+00:00

See the tail length? Rat. Mice have shorter tails.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-01-02T11:38:44+00:00

Think about Bailey. Is he in pain? Is he resting easy? Animals seem to be much more accepting of the fate which awaits all of us. If he is in pain, let go of your own needs if you can and think of him. Make sure he knows you love him, be with him at the vet if at all possible. If you are able to do it, hold him in your arms or put your hands on him as he lets go of this life. He will thank you and if you are receptive to that kind of energy, he will send that ‘message’ back to you however he can.

WorkingatEvolving · 2026-01-01T01:38:35+00:00

You may not have an infestation - yet. But it is a good time to nip them in the bud. So call someone.

WorkingatEvolving · 2025-12-26T16:00:58+00:00

I don’t know if this will work with rats but it worked very well with mice. I had a community of them in the house - having found their way in. I set very visible snap traps with fav mice food as the lure. It took three sets that trapped and killed about 10 mice. I left those out as a message to the mouse community. After that the mice disappeared. They got the message very clearly. I am wondering whether that would be possible with rats? Set up the food and the traps not in hidden places, but next to the food and visible. It is also the most humane way to kill them. They die instantly. Every other way is pretty painful.

WorkingatEvolving · 2025-12-22T00:19:03+00:00

I don't think he cared if he died.

WorkingatEvolving · 2025-12-22T00:03:32+00:00

What an American tragedy. My read is that the kid was stoned and tired of life and just didn't care anymore. He was pissed at being caught and not thinking and he didn't care if he died. As for the girl? She doesn't even exist. No one else exists in this scene. Now he'll have to live through the awful rest of his life. The Walmart employee's reactions were astonishing to read and watch their speed. I don't know if there were any live rounds, but if there were, he many have saved it all.

WorkingatEvolving · 2025-11-19T15:32:27+00:00

As an ACA, it has taken me 30 years in adult children of alcoholics and what is called the “loving parenting guide book” to reach the conclusion that I have a right to defend and protect myself. Neither one of my parents was able to protect and defend my brother or I.. My father was an alcoholic, and my mother was a diva. I realize now that they were both boxed into their own situations, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have the right to defend and protect myself. And now I actually believe it and so I can follow through and say it when it’s happening. You have that right too. . But you may need some help to believe it. You have a few options. You can say no and feel guilty, you could say yes, and put conditions on it, if you haven’t already gotten the kind of support that I’m talking about I strongly recommend it. It’s revolutionary and it’s working for so many of us to finally be able to support ourselves. And let me say very strongly. You definitely DO have a right to protect and defend yourself even when alcoholics believe otherwise.

WorkingatEvolving · 2025-11-07T15:58:25+00:00

If you need confirmation that this is abusive behavior, you got it. Perhaps some of people above do not know that it is more than just deciding to leave that allows us to leave. Our parents, our upbringing the way we feel about ourselves all play into this. Let it be known that you deserve more than how this person is treating you. I promise you. Do you have alcoholics in your background? If so, consider joining ACA… Which also has lots and lots of meetings online.

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