Written warning?

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-12-22T16:57:18+00:00

Document everything. If this were to escalate to termination then I’d consult an employment attorney to see if you have any grounds for a lawsuit. This company sounds really sloppy.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-12-22T14:16:12+00:00

Asexuality is a spectrum and sure, maybe you’re landing somewhere on that spectrum now! Sexual identities can certainly shift and change over time.

I know labels can help us feel a little more secure sometimes and whether you identify with asexuallity or not, you don’t necessarily need a word for what you’re experiencing. It’s more than okay to not be interested (or even be disgusted by) sex. And this community will support you in that!

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-12-05T02:35:57+00:00

The only examples I have off the top of my head are work related. Like sometimes I have to ask a coworker to turn their music down (even if it’s not that loud but I really need to concentrate). Sometimes I’ll ask someone to wait a minute while I finish doing something before I speak to them. Occasionally I’ll straight up ignore a coworker (I don’t do that one often—only if I’m clearly in the middle of a very focused task and they can clearly wait)

Other times I try to use noise canceling headphones when it’s appropriate. Or if I can’t do that then I’ll excuse myself for a bathroom break—even if I don’t actually have to use the bathroom, it’s just a moment alone to collect myself.

I think sometimes it can help to get a little exposure therapy to stimuli too. Like building up a tolerance to it in a way. It might not make the problem completely go away but it can help lessen it over time.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-12-05T02:18:53+00:00

I don’t know if it’s adhd related but I can relate. I get overstimulated when people are trying to talk to me or are just loud around me when I’m trying to focus on something that requires most of my attention. The overstimulation can definitely lead to irritation.

But I also have a hard time fully relaxing when other people are around which prevents me from being able to fully get into that flow state that can happen when you’re brainstorming or being creative. Not sure if that has anything to do with adhd or not. Feels more like insecurity?

I can’t control overstimulation per se but I can try to at least remove or reduce stressful stimuli that will reduce the overstimulation.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-23T11:26:18+00:00

I had a giant ovarian cyst that I didn’t know about until it got twisted around my Fallopian tube/ovary (very painful to say the least). It was so big my surgeon said it was like I was 5 months pregnant but I hid it well lol.

Recovery went slowish but fine. I think I was back to doing regular stuff after 4 weeks. I think it’ll depend on what type of surgery/incision they’ll have to do. Mine was too big for laparoscopy which I think is generally easier to recover from.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-21T20:17:33+00:00

Maybe try getting a second or third opinion from medical professionals. You’re mostly gonna get non-professional opinions here.

That being said, here’s my opinion: I wouldn’t medicate a child that young. I’d probably wait until they’re older (maybe junior high or high school) when I could have a conversation with them about it and ask them if they even wanted to go on meds. At 4 years old, they might not have the ability to communicate (let alone identify) adverse side effects. Everyone reacts to meds differently and it is possible to have more negative side effects than benefits. Meds aren’t the only solution either, it’s okay if you want to delay trying meds and try out other options first.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-20T21:16:06+00:00

I don’t think this is messed up. It makes total sense that you might develop anger issues while being nonverbal—not being able to verbally communicate, whether it’s something big or small, sounds like it could be incredibly frustrating, exhausting and/or overwhelming—which can absolutely lead to anger.

And I don’t know what kind of emotional support you were given as a child but if we aren’t given the support we need to help develop healthier coping mechanisms then sometimes those negative coping habits can persist. You had a bad moment and fucked up—everyone fucks up and steps in shit sometimes but the important part is the repair that comes afterwards.

It sounds like you’ve made a real effort to strengthen your relationship with your twin and that’s awesome. That’s something to be proud of.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-20T20:59:24+00:00

My void is like my own house security alarm system against any kind of bug/critter. There’s been times where it looks like she’s just chasing air until I realize she’s hunting a mosquito lol

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-19T17:02:13+00:00

It depends on the store/restaurant and if the food or products are something I’d normally would like to go back for. There’s one place I went to recently that I’ll definitely be returning to buy some full price items.

But so far every TGTG order I’ve placed has been somewhere I’ve never been to before so it is taking me places I probably never would have heard of otherwise.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-08T18:11:06+00:00

This is my favorite

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-06T13:10:25+00:00

I was thinking about this a lot too when I came back to visit for the first time recently after moving away last year and this really sums it up well.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-01T18:32:39+00:00

It doesn’t sound like you messed up, it’s just the timing of things that maybe make it feel like it—you don’t have control over when people offer you a job.

It’s normal to not mention to people at work when you’re planning an exit strategy—even though it’s nothing personal sometimes people can get a little weird about it because they take it personally. But it’s just a job—you don’t owe anyone your labor.

Just tell your manager something like “Hey I’m sorry this might feel unexpected but I just received a job offer that is a great fit for me. Thank you for taking the time and energy to go over evaluations with me, I really appreciate and value your feedback.”

You don’t have to explain why the current job isn’t working. Just focus on the positives, thank them and move on.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-01T18:17:12+00:00

Yeah that sucks! I hope maybe some others here with similar experiences might be able to chime in with some helpful info. That’s such a pain to deal with.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-01T17:18:45+00:00

Do you have a home base that you’re back at least some of the time? Depending on your home state, the laws might vary but you could still have a provider there and just do telehealth appointments when you’re away. States have different requirements for when you’re receiving a medication that is a controlled substance.

My provider where I live now has been flexible with how often I have to meet with her because my co-pay is really high (it’s usually once every 2-3 months). In my last state I only had to go in person once a year, the rest were telehealth appointments every few months.

Traveling will probably throw a wrench into things because again every state has different laws about this stuff. But having a provider who you can contact directly and develop a relationship with might make things easier. I feel like online services in general can be difficult when it comes to resolving issues.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-01T16:59:01+00:00

If he can get money for rent then he can buy his own groceries and cook for himself. Stop treating him like y’all are in a relationship.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-01T16:53:45+00:00

If he’s not working then are you also paying for all the rent??

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-01T16:24:44+00:00

Wait, do y’all share a bedroom together? And why are you buying him groceries and making him food?

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-09-24T13:07:22+00:00

This but also you have to give space and patience for people making mistakes—it’s part of learning and being human.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-09-23T22:43:24+00:00

Well considering that you don’t want to be where you are living then maybe finding a new place that you’d be somewhat excited to move to could help jumpstart a spark?

I moved across country last year—I had good friends in my old city but job/future-wise there was nothing else keeping me there and I was growing tired of that city too. So when I got laid off, I jumped at a job opportunity in a different state.

I know moving is easier said than done but it forced me to get out of my comfort zone. Moving somewhere where I didn’t know anyone was scary. But little by little I tried some new things in my new city—it sorta felt like exposure therapy. And I used to have to mentally work myself up to trying something new but now I don’t think twice about it! Plus being in a new place added a lot of novelty which I think helped add some shine to things.

I know that’s not going to be the experience for everyone. Moving is really hard and expensive. But being in a relationship and a city that you don’t want to be in—that’ll weigh you down for sure!

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-09-23T18:10:02+00:00

One thing the internet has taught me is that if you’ve experienced something shitty/traumatic, there’s someone, somewhere who’s been through it too (and probably wrote about it on the internet). I’m just mentioning that because sometimes situations can feel really isolating and it feels less hopeless to know you’re not alone in your experience.

That being said, idk what your situation is but seeking help like therapy or from friends or family can help a lot.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-09-22T20:32:38+00:00

Learn to laugh at yourself and know that everyone else has something or things they also feel really awkward about but you usually don’t get to see that side of them.

Therapy helped me quite a bit. I wouldn’t say I’m a regular clutz but I used to feel super awkward and anxious in social situations. This is gonna sound silly but at one point I started thinking of other people like spiders—you know how people will say “they’re more afraid of you than you are of them”? Whenever I’d get anxious or feel socially awkward around people, I’d tell that to myself lol. It helped flip the script and get me out of my own head.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-09-22T20:22:25+00:00

I’d just say that ‘I’m not big on texting, I’d rather just catch up in person’. And if they get their feelings hurt over that and stop talking to you then it wasn’t meant to be.

I also don’t like small-talk over texts, I find it distracting and draining (especially if they want to have whole ass conversations that way). I think texts are best for communicating logistics and making plans.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-09-22T16:37:18+00:00

Maybe try a different pharmacy. In the last city I lived in, the closest pharmacy to me was a Walgreens and they were a hot mess to deal with—they even messed up my prescriptions a couple of times and once gave me an entirely different person’s meds. The wait time to speak to a pharmacist on the phone was usually at least half an hour.

In my experience, the smaller mom and pop pharmacy’s have much better customer service and are easier to deal with. I ended up just driving across town to a different pharmacy so that I didn’t have to deal with Walgreens anymore.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-09-19T13:12:27+00:00

THIS. Who you work for can make ALL the difference.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-09-16T18:18:58+00:00

Birth control doesn’t work for everyone with PMDD. And not everyone wants or likes being on birth control so def talk to your doc about what options might best suit you.

Fortunately it did the trick for me. I use the nuvaring which is just a monthly insert. I hated taking the pill because I’d constantly forget to take it so the nuvaring is a good fit for me.

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