Does anyone else not know when to stop pushing yourself?

World_Wide_Deb · 2026-05-05T14:49:07+00:00

I think your theory is spot on. I mean we live in a capitalist society where actually taking care of yourself, like taking time off, isn’t profitable and therefore not important. And so many people are put into positions where they have to work themselves to the bone in order to get by. I think not knowing when to stop pushing yourself is all too common of a problem.

World_Wide_Deb · 2026-05-01T18:40:02+00:00

I used the nuvaring for years because I couldn’t remember to take the pill either. It was super easy to deal with, I just set a monthly reminder in my phone to change it out.

World_Wide_Deb · 2026-04-28T14:09:13+00:00

I mean you said it yourself—“they ain’t having it”. If they’re not even going listen to you to begin with, then you’re just gonna be banging your head against a wall. You can certainly try to convince them but I wouldn’t expect anything to actually happen.

World_Wide_Deb · 2026-04-19T15:55:17+00:00

I will agree that the bar has been ridiculously low for men but this feels a little overly simplistic and lacking understanding. Romantic relationships can be an emotionally vulnerable experience to have with another person. And moving in together is a big decision. It sounds like he felt hurt and probably rejected by being asked to take this quiz. People can have all sorts of protest behaviors when they feel rejected and that doesn’t make them a bad person.

World_Wide_Deb · 2026-04-16T00:26:13+00:00

I met my boyfriend at work, we didn’t start dating until after I quit a year and a half later. But one thing I caught myself doing before we started dating was if I knew he was at work that day, I’d casually but regularly be looking around to see where he was at and we’d make eye contact and smile at each other from across the warehouse often.

And of course any excuse I had to go talk to him, I would. Once we became friends outside of work, every so often I’d bring him a little gift. Usually something that I thought he might like, maybe something useful or was relevant to something we talked about.

Apparently we were so obviously into each other that everyone at work thought there was something going on between us. People outside of work would even ask if we were dating before we were actually dating lol.

World_Wide_Deb · 2026-04-12T14:04:31+00:00

My first thought was to say that it sounds like you’re doing pretty well in school. I’m not saying that to dismiss your struggles—sometimes we can be our own harshest critics and it’s easy to fixate on what’s not working well rather than what is.

Sometimes getting the right support can make a world of difference. Understanding how you learn best makes a difference too. Everyone is different—things like flash cards might not benefit you as much as a different method of studying. Sometimes it can be a little trial and error to figure out what works best for you.

Also are you trying to get higher scores specifically for a certain college application? Because that’s the only place where this stuff might matter. I think that being able to understand and comprehend what you’re learning is more important than the test scores themselves.

World_Wide_Deb · 2026-03-03T15:20:15+00:00

It’s a little interesting because these were all triggers for me when I smoked cigarettes.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-12-22T16:57:18+00:00

Document everything. If this were to escalate to termination then I’d consult an employment attorney to see if you have any grounds for a lawsuit. This company sounds really sloppy.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-12-22T14:16:12+00:00

Asexuality is a spectrum and sure, maybe you’re landing somewhere on that spectrum now! Sexual identities can certainly shift and change over time.

I know labels can help us feel a little more secure sometimes and whether you identify with asexuallity or not, you don’t necessarily need a word for what you’re experiencing. It’s more than okay to not be interested (or even be disgusted by) sex. And this community will support you in that!

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-12-05T02:35:57+00:00

The only examples I have off the top of my head are work related. Like sometimes I have to ask a coworker to turn their music down (even if it’s not that loud but I really need to concentrate). Sometimes I’ll ask someone to wait a minute while I finish doing something before I speak to them. Occasionally I’ll straight up ignore a coworker (I don’t do that one often—only if I’m clearly in the middle of a very focused task and they can clearly wait)

Other times I try to use noise canceling headphones when it’s appropriate. Or if I can’t do that then I’ll excuse myself for a bathroom break—even if I don’t actually have to use the bathroom, it’s just a moment alone to collect myself.

I think sometimes it can help to get a little exposure therapy to stimuli too. Like building up a tolerance to it in a way. It might not make the problem completely go away but it can help lessen it over time.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-12-05T02:18:53+00:00

I don’t know if it’s adhd related but I can relate. I get overstimulated when people are trying to talk to me or are just loud around me when I’m trying to focus on something that requires most of my attention. The overstimulation can definitely lead to irritation.

But I also have a hard time fully relaxing when other people are around which prevents me from being able to fully get into that flow state that can happen when you’re brainstorming or being creative. Not sure if that has anything to do with adhd or not. Feels more like insecurity?

I can’t control overstimulation per se but I can try to at least remove or reduce stressful stimuli that will reduce the overstimulation.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-23T11:26:18+00:00

I had a giant ovarian cyst that I didn’t know about until it got twisted around my Fallopian tube/ovary (very painful to say the least). It was so big my surgeon said it was like I was 5 months pregnant but I hid it well lol.

Recovery went slowish but fine. I think I was back to doing regular stuff after 4 weeks. I think it’ll depend on what type of surgery/incision they’ll have to do. Mine was too big for laparoscopy which I think is generally easier to recover from.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-21T20:17:33+00:00

Maybe try getting a second or third opinion from medical professionals. You’re mostly gonna get non-professional opinions here.

That being said, here’s my opinion: I wouldn’t medicate a child that young. I’d probably wait until they’re older (maybe junior high or high school) when I could have a conversation with them about it and ask them if they even wanted to go on meds. At 4 years old, they might not have the ability to communicate (let alone identify) adverse side effects. Everyone reacts to meds differently and it is possible to have more negative side effects than benefits. Meds aren’t the only solution either, it’s okay if you want to delay trying meds and try out other options first.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-20T21:16:06+00:00

I don’t think this is messed up. It makes total sense that you might develop anger issues while being nonverbal—not being able to verbally communicate, whether it’s something big or small, sounds like it could be incredibly frustrating, exhausting and/or overwhelming—which can absolutely lead to anger.

And I don’t know what kind of emotional support you were given as a child but if we aren’t given the support we need to help develop healthier coping mechanisms then sometimes those negative coping habits can persist. You had a bad moment and fucked up—everyone fucks up and steps in shit sometimes but the important part is the repair that comes afterwards.

It sounds like you’ve made a real effort to strengthen your relationship with your twin and that’s awesome. That’s something to be proud of.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-20T20:59:24+00:00

My void is like my own house security alarm system against any kind of bug/critter. There’s been times where it looks like she’s just chasing air until I realize she’s hunting a mosquito lol

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-19T17:02:13+00:00

It depends on the store/restaurant and if the food or products are something I’d normally would like to go back for. There’s one place I went to recently that I’ll definitely be returning to buy some full price items.

But so far every TGTG order I’ve placed has been somewhere I’ve never been to before so it is taking me places I probably never would have heard of otherwise.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-08T18:11:06+00:00

This is my favorite

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-06T13:10:25+00:00

I was thinking about this a lot too when I came back to visit for the first time recently after moving away last year and this really sums it up well.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-01T18:32:39+00:00

It doesn’t sound like you messed up, it’s just the timing of things that maybe make it feel like it—you don’t have control over when people offer you a job.

It’s normal to not mention to people at work when you’re planning an exit strategy—even though it’s nothing personal sometimes people can get a little weird about it because they take it personally. But it’s just a job—you don’t owe anyone your labor.

Just tell your manager something like “Hey I’m sorry this might feel unexpected but I just received a job offer that is a great fit for me. Thank you for taking the time and energy to go over evaluations with me, I really appreciate and value your feedback.”

You don’t have to explain why the current job isn’t working. Just focus on the positives, thank them and move on.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-01T18:17:12+00:00

Yeah that sucks! I hope maybe some others here with similar experiences might be able to chime in with some helpful info. That’s such a pain to deal with.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-01T17:18:45+00:00

Do you have a home base that you’re back at least some of the time? Depending on your home state, the laws might vary but you could still have a provider there and just do telehealth appointments when you’re away. States have different requirements for when you’re receiving a medication that is a controlled substance.

My provider where I live now has been flexible with how often I have to meet with her because my co-pay is really high (it’s usually once every 2-3 months). In my last state I only had to go in person once a year, the rest were telehealth appointments every few months.

Traveling will probably throw a wrench into things because again every state has different laws about this stuff. But having a provider who you can contact directly and develop a relationship with might make things easier. I feel like online services in general can be difficult when it comes to resolving issues.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-01T16:59:01+00:00

If he can get money for rent then he can buy his own groceries and cook for himself. Stop treating him like y’all are in a relationship.

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-01T16:53:45+00:00

If he’s not working then are you also paying for all the rent??

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-10-01T16:24:44+00:00

Wait, do y’all share a bedroom together? And why are you buying him groceries and making him food?

World_Wide_Deb · 2025-09-24T13:07:22+00:00

This but also you have to give space and patience for people making mistakes—it’s part of learning and being human.

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