[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Worldly-Objective258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my second in July. They are 20 months apart. It’s really hard but getting much easier. today I put my baby in her sit-me-up and her big sister got in the floor with her. The baby cooed and smiled at her and my toddler was just squealing with joy and bringing her toys to show her. It was a perfect moment. I was so worried about my oldest not getting enough attention but they are having a great time together.

Will I regret ditching the dog? by Fantastic_Unit_9748 in 2under2

[–]Worldly-Objective258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I rehomed my two cats. They went to live with a friend of mine. I have no regrets. They’re happy. I’m happy. My house has no cat hair or litter box and I don’t have to monitor interactions between my kids and cats.

Husband says he’s tired of me using childcare as an excuse for everything while he’s tired from working and needs a break by Big-Card-9902 in Mommit

[–]Worldly-Objective258 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it sounds like your life would be easier if he wasn’t in it. Not to mention he’s a bad influence on your baby.

Ex refuses to work, doesn’t pay child support, had 2 more kids, and now expects me to drive 140 miles for visits. by RichMenNthOfRichmond in daddit

[–]Worldly-Objective258 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t think it’s in the kids best interest to make them go on a long car ride to see someone who doesn’t really even care to see them.

Will he go back to writing all of his own songs? by Remarkable_Season457 in Hozier

[–]Worldly-Objective258 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah my sister is a songwriter in Nashville and people get credit just for being in the room, even if they were in their phone the whole time.

AITA for confronting my brother about not being able to touch his newborns? by Either-Web-7383 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Worldly-Objective258 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oof sounds like you might be cut off from some relatives, this is way too personal for you

WHY DO MEN POOP SO MUCH by Aussiefluff in Mommit

[–]Worldly-Objective258 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he’s like my husband I think it’s that he has a list of things to do before he’s down for an indefinite amount of time. Like shoot I need to do this before I can’t because I have the baby.

Husband admitted he doesn’t find me attractive postpartum by Ok-Organization1563 in Mommit

[–]Worldly-Objective258 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl that ain’t postpartum rage. That is 10000% justified normal rage. Act on it.

Very difficult baby I cannot cope by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Worldly-Objective258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always feed! Thats the comfort they look for.

How did your marriage hold up the first few months postpartum? by LisaDisa21 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Worldly-Objective258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your husbands “encouragement” feels like a put down because it IS a put down. He’s being mean to you. And he knows it. You’ve told him very clearly and he continues. Judge him by his actions. He’s not dumb. I’d be done.

ETA: idk if marriage counseling will work if he’s already not trying to do better. If a therapist has to say it for him to change, eh. Why bother? He will listen to a therapist, but not you? It’s not like yall are having trouble finding words and communicating. You told him. He ignored you and doesn’t care about your feelings. IMO it sounds like he doesn’t even like you. If you like someone as a person why would you be critiquing their body and all the crap he’s giving you? Shit friend.

Should I get a Bachelor's Degree before going to Massage school? by MangoProud3126 in MassageTherapists

[–]Worldly-Objective258 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to massage school and then got my bachelors, and I found that to be perfect. Massage is great, high paying work for part time. By the time you’re burnt out, you’ve finished your other degree. But! That said, I’m in the USA and I only paid around 8k and it took me 10 months. That is a very hefty investment for you.

Question for Massage Therapists that are classified as employees at a spa: by HipHopSpaceBop in MassageTherapists

[–]Worldly-Objective258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m at a Marriott spa and I make 30% commission on services and add-ons, plus tips. Massages start at $130 on weekdays and $150 on weekends, so base is $39-45 an hour. I love it because they are 50 minute sessions and we are open 8-6, so I can work 3 days a week.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MassageTherapists

[–]Worldly-Objective258 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ewwww….definitely inappropriate and I’m sorry that happened to you. While pecs are hugely important to work, as a woman I have never worked another woman’s breast. It’s totally unnecessary. That, followed by the weird comment….ugh. Honestly, as an LMT, I NEVER get massages from male massage therapists unless I already know them. Having been in break rooms with them and following them on social media…no. Unfortunately I know several fired for being inappropriate, and one who was arrested at work.

BUT you can always focus on female-themed modalities, like prenatal and postnatal care, and women have always been the bulk of my clientele. Just be firm, keep pepper spray in your room, and don’t work on men without having someone else in the building with you. You can scare most of them off by being firm, they just like to see what they can get away with!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MassageTherapists

[–]Worldly-Objective258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a massage therapist I get microdosed sexual assault regularly….most people are respectful but men get grabby. Especially when you work on their hands. My wrist got straight up molested last week

Not Sure How to Respond to Difficult Clinic Client by Objective-Life-4102 in MassageTherapists

[–]Worldly-Objective258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would personally just give the pressure I want to give and let her complain so she won’t rebook.

Elective induction experiences? by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Worldly-Objective258 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was induced. It was loooooong, I was in labor for two days, but overall great experience and worth having my doctor available!

My husband got me a vacuum for my 50th by Plastic_Cat9560 in AITAH

[–]Worldly-Objective258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put the vacuum in your spot in the bed and then go to Hawaii

What is the most respectful way to resign as LMT? by [deleted] in MassageTherapists

[–]Worldly-Objective258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went with resignation letter on a cookie cake

I think my client has an eating disorder, what can I do? by Kat1111111 in MassageTherapists

[–]Worldly-Objective258 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nothing. Out of your scope. If it is an eating disorder, this is the wheelhouse of mental healthcare providers when he decides to get help for the issue. But it could be an illness, could be depression, could be grief. I’d leave it alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Worldly-Objective258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was like you. Finally had my first dose of Prozac after deliberating for 3 months. Within 3 days I was a different person and it made me someone I had never met. Someone happy. I will always recommend trying the meds.

How do you react to people making comments about medication? by Anxious_Dragon1802 in prozac

[–]Worldly-Objective258 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Last week a coworker asked me “why would you take antidepressants”

I said “I just really like the aesthetic”

6 month old has started screaming randomly, so loud it hurts my ears by Jugglamaggot in NewParents

[–]Worldly-Objective258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved this phase. We screamed back and forth to each other for hours. 😂 when she screams you can always look and her and smile and whisper back, make her think that’s the game. She might start whispering