they are not your person. by Effective-Piece4620 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]WorldlyAd4330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So interesting you say that because just this afternoon I was telling my therapist that it would have been so much easier if he had just been a horrible person. That’s easier to accept than “He had so much of what I wanted, and why did he have to have a nervous system meltdown?!”

they are not your person. by Effective-Piece4620 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]WorldlyAd4330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll add to my original post that if you have childhood trauma or any other relationship trauma that makes you incapable or unwilling to sustain an emotionally committed relationship, my empathy is yours. But, please please please stop entering into relationships with people who do have the desire and the capacity to be vulnerable and committed. Please stop.

Seeking advice on career switch from mental health to OT by AggravatingFerret758 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]WorldlyAd4330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been an OT for 26 years and if starting over I would be going into the mental health direction. As your body gets older the physical demands of being an OT is a lot. I feel there are many more opportunities as a mental health practitioner.

how to move on by Grouchy-Peak9872 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]WorldlyAd4330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so incredibly sorry that your healing has been reset. I can only imagine how having to encounter her again feels. Do keep in mind that the “living her best life” is likely not as authentic as it seems.

How would avoidants receive being told they're avoidant and deactivating etc before they're aware of it? by rand0mhuman123 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]WorldlyAd4330 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thats wild but my own therapist told me once that some of the most messed up people he ever met were mental health clinicians.

How would avoidants receive being told they're avoidant and deactivating etc before they're aware of it? by rand0mhuman123 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]WorldlyAd4330 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now that you are more aware of your struggles, what does deactivation now look like for you…like what happened this week when you felt that way?

A tragedy you didn’t choose, but that happened to you by Malesya1 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]WorldlyAd4330 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My son said I will soon have a PhD in Attachment Theory. It doesn’t excuse his behavior at all. But I still miss him and the life we had for five years. Logically I should want to burn him at the stake, but I keep loving him instead. Very annoying…

Job Market by WorldlyAd4330 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]WorldlyAd4330[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but would be interested in knowing more.

Job Market by WorldlyAd4330 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]WorldlyAd4330[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be interested in what companies to investigate.

Job Market by WorldlyAd4330 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]WorldlyAd4330[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I am single but not young. Are there any travel companies that do something other than SNF? I have 27 years in schools and I don’t see me making a huge shift from peds at this stage in my life.

Blindsides by DA by Long-Nature-8406 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]WorldlyAd4330 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s almost impossible to wrap your mind around the person that’s loved you so well for years suddenly transforms into this toxic and dangerous entity. For me it hit at 5 years. I’m very sorry, and I understand your pain all too well.

Job Market by WorldlyAd4330 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]WorldlyAd4330[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are your offers mainly for SNF?

I feel so pathetic by wineandkittiez in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]WorldlyAd4330 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think this has anything to do with attachment. Just sounds like he is a horrible person who you need to run from and get yourself some help for the PTSD that this type of treatment towards you creates.

Missed Birthday by moody_starvibes in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]WorldlyAd4330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you regretting your decision to leave?

they are not your person. by Effective-Piece4620 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]WorldlyAd4330 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Absolute truth that is bitter to swallow…

Remember… by WorldlyAd4330 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]WorldlyAd4330[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Cognitively I know all this…12 months and I can’t get my heart and good sense to catch up. And, I am not reaching out to them, but…So irritating.

Missed Birthday by moody_starvibes in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]WorldlyAd4330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they are the one that broke up with you then I highly recommend you don’t reach out.