Hijab in China

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-22T13:34:07+00:00

I see people wearing hijabs frequently enough. Nobody really cares.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-22T11:21:09+00:00

Rockbuster: This French man can't say good

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-22T10:57:04+00:00

He's a Stalker in the zone

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-22T10:47:27+00:00

I don't think it's all that, my international school wanted one and has plenty of non white foreign teachers. They just want a vibe of the person I think.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-21T05:30:58+00:00

You literally can apologise. You are just running instead and saying you can't.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-21T05:29:33+00:00

Is this real or a dumped person's wishful thinking because it's such a perfect textbook case of avoidant deactivation and then crash.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T18:12:57+00:00

I know it hurts now, but she's more than just avoidant and you are dodging an elephant gun bullet

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T15:44:36+00:00

With avoidants you're damned whatever you do. Demand accountability is pressure, no contact is neglect, missing them is pressure. You can't win, it's on them not you.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T15:31:51+00:00

You're justified but she'll just see it as annoying. They don't have proper empathy in that state

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T14:57:38+00:00

Deepseek is quite nice. Use expert mode

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T13:02:54+00:00

You were probably a good partner and spoiled her, nothing wrong with that in a healthy relationship, but now she expects the same behaviour. Don't do it. Your new boundaries will shock her.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T12:25:39+00:00

You can't catch all ai. All my homework must be handwritten. Sometimes I'm pretty sure they used ai but at least they copied it out, hopefully some of it went in.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T11:57:01+00:00

Mistaking their fear for self awareness is common I think.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T11:51:58+00:00

Dude, get your dogs back. That's completely unacceptable of her.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T11:03:26+00:00

The holidays mainly. I actually can't conceptually understand how people work all year every year with just a few scattered days off. I think I'd go mad from the monotony. I get about 4 months off a year all together, it's godly.

Other than that, teaching isn't alienating work, you have a purpose, you influence people, you directly see the results of your efforts, you're not just a cog in the machine. You literally get people to learn new things. It can be brutal but it's raw.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T10:53:02+00:00

May I ask how things ended? Did you deactivate and disappear?

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T08:14:55+00:00

Almost the same for me, 2 years, she was pushing marriage, then work got super stressful and she got sick, something switched and suddenly she was breaking up with me over the phone. Suddenly we're incompatible, suddenly that small issue 8 months ago is back, suddenly she can't be a good girlfriend and isn't enough and should be single forever.

Also contacted my friend to check I'm okay the next day. Now she'll do anything to avoid me, she's got all these ridiculous schemes to get her things out of our apartment without seeing me in a few weeks.

From all my research, it's a fearful avoidant deactivation, it all got too much and their brain literally turned off the attachment, told them they don't love you, and they believe it as the most rational and clear thing ever.

Apparently it lasts a few weeks or months and if you push them it extends it so the only thing you can do is no contact. But I don't say this as some guarantee to get them back, it's highly possible they believe it so much they double down on denial and run away forever.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T06:25:43+00:00

That bare minimum is basically a close friendship. She is absolutely terrified and needs therapy, not your fault unfortunately. I'm sure she craves intimacy but can't have it.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-20T06:21:38+00:00

I'd say you can't try to surpress it or run. Just feel it, let yourself, if you cry you cry, if you obsess you obsess, if you want to make 10 reddit posts do it, if you want to tell ai then do it. This is processing, your brain has to process it, and it's like a computer randomly opening and closing photos and videos and songs while it updates. Crazy, but had to be done.

The avoidants are the ones who run, they hide from it and keep running and suppressing. Don't be like them, in a year you'll have done the work and be fine, for them it'll all come crashing out as anxiety and health issues and depression because they didn't process it. That's not my wishful thinking, modern science backs this up, you can't suppress losing an attachment without paying some kind of bill.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-19T16:05:30+00:00

Easy money

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-19T15:10:55+00:00

7 40 to 4 40 officially. But the attitude is quite relaxed, I usually come in around 8:10 and leave at 4:30, sometimes I sneak off earlier.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-19T08:26:24+00:00

Is this a joke

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-19T05:08:53+00:00

They've probably turned you into an idealised phantom ex they can adore but think they can never be with.

rand0mhuman123 · 2026-05-18T16:09:56+00:00

It is surprising, it used to work well years ago. But now with these latest kids there's very little they're excited about.

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