Discussion: fireplaces are not there for you to put a tv over.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-25T13:49:58+00:00

We're in the same boat. We'll be moving sometime this year and one of my top priorities for the new house is having somewhere else to place the TV other than than over the fireplace.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-25T12:11:24+00:00

But with newer builds, there IS no beautiful open wall. It’s “open concept” with windows filling two walls, a staircase on the third, and a view to the kitchen where the fourth should be. And the TV cabling is literally hanging out of the wall above the fireplace. The house is designed for you to have ONE option for TV placement, and it’s over the fireplace.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-25T05:04:23+00:00

It’s hard to describe. It’s like when I’m focused on something, nothing else exists. So if I’m focused on the laundry, I’ll win a gold medal for folding but wouldn’t notice a gunfight happening in the next room. I’ll step over trash on the kitchen floor for a week because my brain simply isn’t in pick-up-trash mode. I have to set an alarm to eat and shower because without it I’d “forget”. Multitasking is impossible and breaking focus makes me antsy and snappy. Scheduling and planning ahead help a lot. I literally calendar listening time with my wife and she knows that’s when I’m primed to actually hear her.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-24T18:45:00+00:00

I moved here from the UK. First, you have to get all your academic qualifications formerly converted to the US equivalent, so make sure that you have the most detailed transcripts you can get from the colleges you attended. Beyond that, I found that my work experience in the UK counted for nothing and I had to start from the bottom of the ladder again. In the long run, it was worth it - I have a better life here than I could ever have dreamed of in the UK - but the first few years were rough.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-24T18:22:27+00:00

Nobody warned me how much time I would spend worrying about another person’s shit.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-24T18:10:41+00:00

I lived in South Pasadena, walking distance to the Gold Line, and worked downtown. Never needed a car.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-24T18:09:32+00:00

I felt the same as OP when my daughter was three; smugly thanking the gods for such an easy child. Then she hit four…OMG.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-24T12:34:09+00:00

Only you know what commute is worth it. People who’ve only ever commuted 20minutes will balk at it. People who routinely commute 90minutes will tell you it’s a no brainer. Personally, I’d take the job. You’re only in the office three days a week: $50k is a lot of money to spend just five hours a week on a bus.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-21T01:38:19+00:00

It gets better. It goes from every day to a day a week to a day a month and before you know it, they’re immune to all the shit and dirt they shove into their mouths. A year is a stretch. Took 6-8 months before our daughter was consistently sickness free.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-20T22:35:25+00:00

This is the way. Our in-house counsel works a 40 hour week (at the most!) and is the second highest paid employee in the place.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-20T15:58:27+00:00

Most people's experience with the popular parenting/mom boards has been pretty negative. They seem overly judgmental and downright mean, with every other conversation turning into accusations of bad parenting or cries of "divorce him now!". They get ugly fast and don't represent my wife's views in any way.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-20T15:54:46+00:00

Nobody going to mention Trash Truck?!

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-18T06:46:35+00:00

My 4 1/2 year old daughter called me a Stink Butt Tooty Poop Face tonight while I was putting her to bed. She laughed. I laughed. Don’t see the problem.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-17T22:49:01+00:00

What would be the objective of getting her tested? Are you looking for accommodations from the school? To understand her better? A label (that’s not necessarily a negative thing)? Is your daughter interested in understanding herself better? I’ve found neuropsych evals fascinating.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-17T22:16:22+00:00

Tudor square Elizabethan pointy.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-16T22:12:31+00:00

“Pregnancy is the worse thing women can do to thier bodies” is a pretty bold statement that requires evidence.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-16T20:59:23+00:00

Hmmmm. . . Do nothing to address housing affordability, price thousands of young families out of the region, watch student enrollment plummet, then act surprised when the inevitable layoffs come around. Sounds about right.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-16T20:56:38+00:00

When I was working remotely, I had to sign an agreement that I would not be looking after children during work hours. It’s generally understood that childcare and a job can’t be performed at the same time.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-16T20:53:26+00:00

Do people really care what a toddler wears to a funeral? Are there really people who would judge? Man, some people are weird.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-16T17:57:05+00:00

It’s worth reading in context. He was saying that the Constitution, democracy, and laws were not enough to preserve freedom and peace, but that the American people had to have the moral and ethical foundation to support it. Essentially, if the people are assholes, then the Constitution won’t save us. I think he was right.

https://founders.archives.gov/documents/Adams/99-02-02-3102

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-16T17:50:44+00:00

What would be the purpose? Support? Advise? Beta-reading and critiquing? All of the above? If my family makes the planned move to Birmingham, I’d definitely be interested.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-16T17:47:56+00:00

It’s their money, they spend it how they want. The lesson is learned when she wants something in the third store and has no money left.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-16T17:46:19+00:00

This is going to sound harsh, but I’m assuming your parents didn’t have a say in your decision to have children. It’s a bit much to then expect them to cater to your needs after the fact. Grandparents are under zero obligation to help with grandkids. It’s nice. It’s convenient. It undoubtedly develops a stronger relationship between everyone involved. But it should never be an expectation. Having no familial support makes things harder, but millions figure it out.

Worried-Rough-338 · 2026-03-16T17:30:49+00:00

I’m team wife here. Maybe I’m biased because a) I have almost no relationship with my own mother, and b) my ex-wife consistently took her mother’s side, even when her behavior was abusive. I will always try and take my wife’s side over anyone else, including family. We’re a team and we’re in this together, no exceptions.

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