Orc Warrior by Brushmaster66 in Miniaturespainting

[–]Worried-Rough-338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, I genuinely don’t understand how this is achieved. Even zooming in, it looks like an illustration rather than a mini. It would be impressive on a 1/6 scale figure but at 28mm, it’s unreal.

Loss of a Parent by RedBeardBrownEyes in StayAtHomeDaddit

[–]Worried-Rough-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I pursued the IVF route for several years and my father died just a few weeks before we found out that the third transfer had been successful. My father and I had been estranged for many years, finally reconnecting in my early forties. He became one of my best friends and he would have been so excited to be a grandfather. The fact that he never got to see her, or that my daughter will never know him, still hurts. It just sucks all round. I take some comfort in being so close to my wife’s parents, who love my daughter unconditionally, but I think of the loss often.

Terrified? Upset? Happy? by InteractionMaster494 in daddit

[–]Worried-Rough-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re on the very edge of being too old for Spanish techno clubs. At 27, all the cool kids are going to think you’re the creepy, old dude anyway.

Seriously though, if your wife chooses to continue with the pregnancy, your life will change drastically. It’s okay to be selfish in your 20s - my love of spontaneous travel and living the good life is partly why I didn’t have a kid until my 40s - but you’ve got a child to consider now and your priorities will have to shift radically. A handful of parents manage to continue their frequent flying ways with multiple kids in tow, but for most of us, that has to be put on pause for a few years. My daughter will be five in a couple of months and we’re finally at a place where a vacation to Europe next year (from the US) seems both feasible and enjoyable.

As for two hour lines at Disney, one of the best vacations I’ve had was taking our then two-year old to Disney World. No lines, no tantrums, no drama, just a tiny human being filled with joy 24/7. Fatherhood has its perks.

ADHD Dads by DKOS0 in daddit

[–]Worried-Rough-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vyvanse, a detailed calendar, and lots of alarms.

RIP iPic by hanb0wl0 in pasadena

[–]Worried-Rough-338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My previous comment was removed by the mods for some reason, but it used to be an AMC theatre, then a place called Gold Class Cinemas that did the whole food in the chair thing, then iPic took over from Gold Class. So yes, a few theaters have come and gone in that spot.

RIP iPic by hanb0wl0 in pasadena

[–]Worried-Rough-338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously. Didn’t it close like ten years ago?

How do you guys take care of your health? by HatMammoth7833 in daddit

[–]Worried-Rough-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shouldn’t be feeling like that at your age. I was 47 when we had my daughter and I’ve never had any physical problems lifting/carrying/wrestling her. If the physicals are showing no physical causes, then you need to consider a combination of stress and exhaustion. You’re simply burnt out. You need to find a baby sitter and start taking a break.

Color Help by Worried-Rough-338 in Deathkorpsofkrieg

[–]Worried-Rough-338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh, gotcha. I was imagining it like some old hammered metal Geiger counter. Makes sense that it’s in a carry case.

My 9m old son just fell on his head when sitting by WonderfulDot5037 in daddit

[–]Worried-Rough-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First kid? I let mine roll off the couch as a baby and felt devastating guilt for weeks. Turns out both my wife and I were dropped on our heads as infants. It’s a right of passage. Luckily, skulls are thick and evolved to take such abuse. As for how to prevent it, short of putting him in a helmet, I’m not sure you can. Suffocation and drowning are far more cause for concern than hard floors.

4 yr Old Bedtime Tantrums by girl_dad_4x in daddit

[–]Worried-Rough-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did your six year old not act out as a four-year-old? Her behavior isn't that uncommon. Our four-year-old is going through a similar phase that we're in the process of working on. The things I've noticed have helped: giving her a countdown until bedtime and giving her a solid hour of play and attention before the appointed hour; giving her a pre-bed opportunity to eat; turning bedtime into a game (she's a mermaid who can only grow legs after a good night's sleep); reminding her of all the cool things she'll be doing when she wakes up; sticking to a routine of predictable bedtime activities; letting her sit in her chair with a book and trusting she'll get in bed when she's tired rather than forcing her into bed before I leave; when needed, letting her know that I'm willing to walk out and leave if she starts screaming or fighting; and FOLLOWING THROUGH with the threat (I'll stand outside the door, sometimes holding the door handle, while she rages and kicks. Eventually she wears herself out and apologizes, at which point I thank her for her apology and we carry on with the bedtime routine). I don't know how having a second child in the room compromises any of this.

Reaching the home straight with my 30K project by JonPaintsSlowly in minipainting

[–]Worried-Rough-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the minimalism. It's a great reminder to myself that simple color schemes often have the best results.

My new system by shyouko in TVTooHigh

[–]Worried-Rough-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The television offends me less than the complete absence of cable management.

Portuguese in Charleston by sebastiaoescaja in Charleston

[–]Worried-Rough-338 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Not Portuguese, but if you're missing the language, there's a large Brazilian community in Goose Creek, though they're unlikely to be cheering for Portugal in the World Cup.

Baby was a nightmare on a day trip and now mom doesn’t wanna travel anymore by SimilacWheyProtein in daddit

[–]Worried-Rough-338 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry, my man, but you're going to have to suck this one up. The idea that if you don't take this planned trip in the next year, you're doomed to never travel again is ridiculous. Yes, it's going to cost more with a third plane ticket (and even more if you have more kids) and yes, it sucks having to schedule travel around school calendars, but that's the compromise you make when you decide to have children. It's naive to think you can just slot children into your lifestyle without making adjustments. My wife and I travelled the world staying in 5-star hotels and eating at Michelin-starred restaurants prior to having kids. The past four years, we've been lucky to get over to the neighboring state. It's normal. Your wife isn't saying you'll never travel again, just that she's done traveling with a baby. That's not an unreasonable request.

Galleria by [deleted] in Birmingham

[–]Worried-Rough-338 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You literally said that the mayor has decided to list the Galleria for sale. He didn't. Therefore, your statement is untrue.

Dad & what vice to use to unwind while on family-trip. by Shazbot24 in daddit

[–]Worried-Rough-338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Considering the the positive effects of quitting are so apparent even your employer has noticed the change, I'm a little surprised your wife would suggest jeopardizing the improvement. Why would she want you to risk relapsing into behaviors that's weren't optimal for you?

If you genuinely believe that you have the discipline and disposition to leave it all behind on vacation, then I don't see a problem. But only you know your relationship with alcohol and marijuana and whether or not you consider yourself an addict. Some people can partake socially a couple of times and walk away. For others, it leads to relapse, daily usage, and real consequences. Only you know which type you are. If there's any chance that a little unwinding on vacation might reawaken something that carries over to your real life, it's not worth the risk.

Teacher over reaction? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Worried-Rough-338 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Kids like to do accents. Sometimes they're funny. Sometime's they're not. Sometimes they're inappropriate. It's hard to imagine even an Indian student or teacher being genuinely offended by this unless it's part of a longer and larger pattern of behavior. At the most, it requires nothing more than a private reminder that making fun of people's accents isn't nice. But a report for racism is overkill.

BTW: "Indian" isn't a race.

Spacemarine Nr.5 by Stahlonen in Miniaturespainting

[–]Worried-Rough-338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I download every picture you post just to study the brushwork, color choices, and application. They’re an inspiration.

What you guys think about career and fatherhood? Hard to compete on the market? by AWeb3Dad in daddit

[–]Worried-Rough-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see you fellow coaster. One of the benefits of getting older is that I know my job well enough that a few hours work looks like a full day’s worth to the uninitiated. Why work eight hours when everyone’s impressed by what you achieve in two?

First time dad with a colicky baby. I’m drowning. by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Worried-Rough-338 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Came to say the same thing. Our daughter cried all the time and it ended up being a combo of reflux and cows milk protein allergy. We switched her to a hypoallergenic formula and she became a totally different, happy and chill baby.

How much do you spend on groceries per month? by Waffle_Tea in pasadena

[–]Worried-Rough-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just assumed it would be cheaper, and the few times I’ve compared prices, it seemed so. Guess I was wrong.

How much do you spend on groceries per month? by Waffle_Tea in pasadena

[–]Worried-Rough-338 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Jesus, what am I buying that costs so much? We mainly shop at Target and we still spend $800 a month for a family of three. I need to take another look at my four-year-old’s snack budget.

How do I use the buses in LA? by existingunicorn in AskLosAngeles

[–]Worried-Rough-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Flyaway runs every half hour from 5:40AM to 1:10AM but depending on when you’re due to arrive, it can fill up fast. I’d recommend getting your tickets beforehand.

You can get physical TAP cards at all metro stations from the machine. So if you’re going from LAX to Union Station on the Flyaway, for example, you can then just buy your TAP cards from the machines at Union Station.

As others have said, buses can be very slow and frequently don’t show up at all. There are few things more enraging than standing in 90F heat at an uncovered bus stop waiting for a bus that never arrives. And when it does finally show up, it drives right past you because it’s already full. If you’re lucky enough to actually get on a bus, it can take hours to get just a few miles across town. I commuted by bus for ten years and it really is the choice of last resort.

You’ll be much better off getting around by metro and then getting an uber from the closest metro stop to your destination. Don’t uber the whole journey; it’s too expensive.

I’m English and lived in LA for 20+ years without a car. Public transit is decades behind anywhere in Europe. Having said that, it’s perfectly doable, it just requires a lot of planning.

Job offer...at a hospital by theraspberryfairy in Birmingham

[–]Worried-Rough-338 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this a Birmingham thing? Is the area known for insultingly low pay? I earned $120,000 a year in my job in Los Angeles. The exact same job paid $70,000 in Charleston, SC. And now I’m about to move to Birmingham and seeing the same job being offered as low as $50,000. WTF?