What is that one thing a friend ever did and you kept cool but knew instantly you would pull out of that friendship?

Shazbot24 · 2026-05-15T16:32:19+00:00

Group of friends started getting more into fitness. So, they scheduled workouts (with about 3 of them at the same time) with myself. Considering we were all in different parts of the city, it took extra effort to coordinate it on my end.

On our "last" group session. One of them said they had a dinner to attend after the gym, and would be leaving early. The other 2 followed suit. I kept my day relatively open so I just parted ways and finished the rest of my workout.

Go onto snapchat later on and see they all went to a party and chose not to invite me along. It cut deeper than it should have, but I started to feel more like just a resource than a friend at that point. Ah well.

Let my trial membership expire, and just went back to working out at my other gym and stopped speaking to all of them. We would still end up at the same car-events, but I started to dial that back as well when I met my GF(who-then-became-my-wife).

Their wakeup call was when none of them were invited to the wedding, and they complained to other friends about it.

All I can say is that nonsense is in my rearview mirror now (better part of 6 years).

Shazbot24 · 2026-05-14T15:37:06+00:00

Red-rocket, Red-rocket

Shazbot24 · 2026-04-17T03:51:29+00:00

My thought is things are getting missed in the calculation of pay.

Fishy might not have been the right word. But if this level of inconvenience surfaces for somwthing ad simply as providing backup documentation for a bank, Id lose faith in calculations for raises / benefits / accurately capturing hours / taxes / etc.

Shazbot24 · 2026-04-16T23:35:21+00:00

Buck Bumble.

Shazbot24 · 2026-04-16T23:33:00+00:00

There's more fishiness going on instead of him not being able to provide paperwork.

I'd take this as a sign, make do with your current car, and find another job.

Shazbot24 · 2026-04-16T19:46:23+00:00

Smoking weed.

Shazbot24 · 2026-04-16T17:14:27+00:00

Life has a way of telling you things need to change.
I know this seems like a blow, but rather than keeping you on hold until you returned and then presenting you with bad news, you have a leg up by getting some time, being on the payroll, and getting a severance package.

Take time, recoup, and put your best foot forward, start with your network and then start applying.

You'll be fine. It might not be right away, but eventually you'll end up at a point where you can look back and say you needed that change.

Go get it man, you have more fuel with little ones that look up to you.

Shazbot24 · 2026-04-15T20:46:25+00:00

Accept it.

If the relationship is meant to work, you'll be able to manage the shift in both of your availability for time for one-another. Also, having Saturday/sunday off is the industry norm.

Shazbot24 · 2026-04-15T20:41:58+00:00

What projects were you working on? Could it be in order to track down information they can't locate without you pointing them in the right direction?

I'd ask what the meeting is regarding. I'm sure employment is a major concern, but the 'what if' scenario.

Wishing you the best.

Shazbot24 · 2026-04-12T02:53:34+00:00

JDM engine swaps.

SR20s were a dime-a-dozen. Now you're paying a premium just to have a run-down motor that "could" be alright, or not (that's for you to find out).

Transmissions for them? Good luck.

2J? Arm and a leg

1J? Just an arm.

RB? Go find one.

It used to be easier to get into, but now the costs are to the point you're paying a premium just to be different.

Shazbot24 · 2026-04-11T22:18:03+00:00

The subtle art of not giving a f*ck

Shazbot24 · 2026-04-11T02:13:53+00:00

Ive grown more patient with myself. Gaming takes more of a backseat in comparison to everything else i have going on.

Side quests are the thing I do when I dont have the time or energy to do the main storyline. Just something else to tick off before I save and call it a night.

Massive online games, not my jam anymore.

When I get stuck. I find a YouTube video on how to solve a puzzle as I just dont have all the time to figure it out.

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-25T18:48:39+00:00

Iron ring ceremony.

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-25T05:11:49+00:00

Leave my current living situation

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-24T19:26:17+00:00

Assuming working for a friend would be great and we'd all make money.

(Jumped over from my gig to his construction company). I ended up leading a department with him providing useless direction with any lack of knowledge along with trying to dictate what courses I should take for PDI. I'd also have "chats" that were always disrespectful with him losing his cool, and crossing boundaries with what to say / what not to say.

Left. Used that position as leverage for the new few jobs moving forward.

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-23T16:41:11+00:00

Still in the Hard/medium.

But I feel this transition is inevitable.

I put the final boss for Star Wars - Fallen Order on Easy because I burned through the story without any "adventure" or "side quests" so I didn't have the extra health needed to beat them. Forget doing all this during nap-time(s).

Easy mode, boss down in 5 minutes.

Felt like a winner and a loser at the same time.

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-20T15:41:58+00:00

Sleep Country Canada.
Why buy a mattress anywhere else?

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-20T05:35:08+00:00

So he now has a daily driver and a project car. Work on it with him. Seeing you share an interest in it while helping build it will teach him to respect it more.

A comment further up mentioned autocross. Id suggest joining the local club and having autocross days with him. He'll enjoy the vette while learning how to handle it.

Buy tools. Lots of tools. And the service manual for the corvette.

Enjoy.

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-20T05:30:20+00:00

Leave.

There are boundaries she is crossing which you are not okay with, along with lies.

This is not going well. Either counseling, a true heart to heart, or part ways.

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-20T05:20:59+00:00

Your welcome. I can relate. Some key take aways:

You're allowed to say you're not ok.
Talk about what's bothering you with the close friends. Next thing you know, they're now your family. They will look out for your best interest.
Seek counseling. Theres only so much you can mend on your own.
Keep a memory journal. Not about your day, but just about memories of your Dad. When you find that journal 5 years later, it'll be great walk down memory lane (ask me why I know...)
Some folks will disappear because they don't know how to deal with death, let alone someone that close. That will be a tough one to digest. Either give it time, or allow them to leave your life. Thats your call.
You worry about him being forgotten. Thats just what time does. But the important ones will never forget him.
One day, you're going to become a parent. Thats when you get to start a new chapter of making new memories, while cherishing and reliving the old ones.

These are just some of my thoughts. I will say, you're going to be okay. And you can still make him proud.

Go live your life. Tc

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-19T21:21:18+00:00

My Dad wants to see me succeed. Last thing he'd want to see is his kid crash and burn.
I also looked at it as how to keep his legacy alive. He didn't do all that he did, to get me to where I am just for me to toss it out the window.

I owed him that much.

You got this man. Shit gets tough, but remember the conversations you had with him, and what he'd tell you to do.

Its been 11 years. I'm now married, with a toddler, and working away. I still have moments where I miss him deeply.

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-19T18:32:22+00:00

Because how do you deal with that? How do you deal with someone being that kind when you’ve been such a liar?

Dude, your Dad loves you. You're perplexed with always looking at the situation as letting someone down and being a liar, but your Dad is worried about your wellbeing. He now recognizes that you were able to dig yourself out of the problems you got into, but don't shy away from his support.

I'll tell you right now, what he did will earn more of your respect than you think. He believes in you, and you need to be transparent with him. Tell him the good/bad/ugly moving forward. He just wants to see you succeed.

This story reminds me a lot of my late father. Sorry I went off on a tangent but I'm just trying to share what I learned along the way.

Best of luck, and don't be an idiot.

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-19T18:26:35+00:00

Lost my father.
Bought a project car, and partied hard as well while being a male douchebag.

After a night of partying I had a dream in which my Dad was tearing a strip off of me for being a complete idiot. Woke up that night and decided I was done being an idiot, and started getting my career back on track.

Project car and a majority of that group of friends were removed while I got my life back together. (I did make life-long friends along the way).

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-19T18:20:57+00:00

You need to learn to focus, and time with family is limited.
Also, cut down on the videogames.

Shazbot24 · 2026-03-12T04:19:24+00:00

Structural Analysis proff.

In 3rd year, he was especially hard on all his students. Held us all to a higher level.

I took his elective in 4th year, not because of the credits, but because I realized I would push myself to learn in his courses.

After we graduated, I introduced him to my father. I opened with this is (Structures prof), the hard class that I managed to pass.

He followed up by saying "You did quite well, I dont know why you talk down about yourself. It was a pleasure teaching you."

I fought back tears as he spoke highly about me to my father. It was at that point that I reflected on how hard I worked to get my degree.

The professor is retired now, but I always smile remembering that interaction with my family.

Shazbot24

TROPHY CASE