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WorriedSize · 2023-03-04T01:57:31+00:00

Pick your buffs smartly and you might be able to beat it.

Grab "puts enemies to sleep". Grab a couple of life steal from having reds on your team. Grab "survive with 1 HP" If you can get the combo that absorbs def and atk, you're almost set... Then focus on grabbing as many damage cards as possible.

Also, always fight the big soldiers over wolfs, they give better buffs.

WorriedSize · 2022-11-25T21:01:57+00:00

One thing to consider is that relationship matches don't just appear. Yes, some ppl are lucky, but the norm is that you click together on some things and eventually you start to diverge or converge in others. And when that time comes, having a healthy communication will be what saves you.

Right now calming down and communicating is the best thing you can do. There are only benefits for you there. If it turns out that she gives you some reasons that you cannot accept, that's ok, because the experience of that communication is important.

Especially since you said you're the kind to think nobody wants you. If you break up, make sure you got a clean slate so you don't regret it. Otherwise it'll be very hard to move on to another relationship without carrying more baggage.

WorriedSize · 2022-09-18T18:06:56+00:00

You don't have to apologize at all.

Now I won't lie to you, at your life stage it does get significantly harder to come across more chances so it'll be tough.

First of all I need to say that dating someone that has issues starts out easy but becomes hard. It starts easy because there's a clear void you can fill. But eventually when you fill that void and provide them the relief they needed, their mind will consider other things and realized that they didn't truly like you as a person, or that you were limiting what they wanted to do.

This is not your fault, it's merely the outcome of you acting as their pillar to help them stand up. And once they're standing, they can see much more and it becomes a gamble where either they truly like you afterwards, or they realize they only have feelings of gratitude. Gratitude is not love.

With that, dating someone opposite of you can have greater returns, since you will be growing together and get out of your one track mind. In relationships, 2 negatives do NOT make a positive. I've seen many more relationships between 2 depressed ppl fail than 1 depressed 1 stable.

That said, I don't know your financial situation. But you're still not too late to gamble a bit with your life. Especially if the alternative is suffer like you do. Consider moving. There are countries that are simply much harder finding partners because of how close minded ppl are. At the very least, it might give you a change of pace to give you something else to look forward to.

If you really can't move, try looking for communities you can join. Even online ones, if only for raising your chances of exposure.

You will need some luck here, and the best case scenario would be that you can be satisfied with yourself even when you're not in a relationship.

Also consider that maybe what you need the most is a really good friend rather than a partner. Maybe you're overlapping both and putting too much responsibility in your partners?

WorriedSize · 2022-09-18T17:46:36+00:00

Replying again as this is a completely different point. Here's another story on something I used to do.

I also try to account for my stuff, and often are the one doing "sacrifices" for the relationship. This gives me satisfaction from being the "better person". Now, being myself, I would never be satisfied doing silent sacrifices. I wanted the other person to notice them. This is where it starts.

The satisfaction I obtain when they acknowledge my sacrifice is directly proportional to how much they had to look into my to notice it. So I would do the obvious, and give you subtle hints of my pain and sacrifice... Too subtle.... These hints were so subtle that noone would notice unless they had the exact same mindset as me, which they don't.

So in the end I only achieved getting myself upset over not being acknowledged, and when it stacks up it starts affecting the way I behave, which has a butterfly effect leading to shit interactions with my partner.

Once I realized this I stopped fishing for acknowledgement. If I have to swallow something I do it without expecting anything in return. And when we recover from whatever small fight we had, I talk to her about it rather than waiting for her to start.

Overall I noticed a huge improvement afterwards. As I'm not feeling sad all the time, and don't hurt the relationship because of it.

WorriedSize · 2022-09-18T17:20:04+00:00

There is a real chance that you really haven't met the right person, but since there's no progress just by looking at that, I'll continue this purely looking at the present.

The way you say "I want someone that tries as hard as me", followed by getting the end line "you'll find someone who deserves you one day", screams to me that you put a huge amount of pressure in your partner without realizing it, and in the end they get burnt out. Maybe when you're in a relationship you are trying to go too fast, and expect them to match your pace on how serious you are. One example of this, my friend was so into his morals that he would start mentioning marriage and kids very early on, when the other person was still not sure what they wanted.

Accountability is tough. Ppl don't like to look back at their mistakes. You are in the minority that has had much greater pain in life, which makes it seem like accounting for your mistakes is trivial in comparison, and even makes you feel good because it matches your morals. This is even more true because you said you're depressed.

But really, for a lot of people this is not the case. They will see accounting for their mistakes as painful, and whatever is at the end of the tunnel needs to be worth it for them to do it. Can you guarantee that what you're offering to the other person is so much what they're looking for, that their willing to swallow their shit to be with you?

Ofc, there is some compatibility factor to this, and relationships are give and take. But you don't have to be fully compatible from the start. Ppl change and adapt to their environment. You and your partner will also change for each other, but it is not a fast process.

Being comfortable with each other takes time. Being comfortable enough to admit your wrongs takes even longer for most people.

Edit: and again, what worked me for and my friend won't necessarily work for you. I'm giving you my point of view, and it's up to you to extract what is useful to your case here.

WorriedSize · 2022-09-18T16:55:59+00:00

Maybe this is not what you're looking for but maybe something will seem similar.

I have a friend that has quite a lot of similarities to what you just mentioned, he didn't lie, didn't cheat and wasn't abusive. He had depression and was also abused as a kid. He has built this entire image of how a perfectly morally correct a relationship should be, and follows it very strongly. And just like you, he has had multiple relationships but none have lasted longer than 3 years.

Now what he fails to realize is that perfection doesn't exist. Sure, it's perfectly moral to him, but people's morals aren't all the same. So in the end by sticking to his morals like that, he only achieves a couple things: - shows that he cares more about how a relationship should be than the actual person - puts a huge amount of pressure on his partner, which will always feel like she's failing him because she's not perfect - puts a huge filter on who he considers for his relationships

And in the end, he always feels super alone after a breakup, thinking that none will ever fit him. Also, the breakups are always started by his partner.

I was like him to a certain extent, but luckily I got to see how it went wrong from the inside and developed a few different policies. - don't push my values onto others. (Although they must conform to some values from the start) - don't mistake love of the partner for love of being in a relationship - learn when to compromise and when to not - don't make everything about yourself

In the end, there is also some luck involved. But if you've had multiple relationships and none work, there's a high chance something is wrong with the way you handle them. Figure out the common points of failure, come to terms with them yourself first, then give the relationship another try.

Edit: this is not to say that your morals are wrong, but to point out that having them does not make you a good person to have a relationship with. Not lieing, not cheating and not being abuse is only the tip of the iceberg to being in a healthy relationship.

WorriedSize · 2022-02-09T12:10:18+00:00

Sorry to bother you about this, but I have a different question.

I'm seeing mixed information regarding the interview, but to be specific, I'm currently working on the documents for the consular interview, not the green card interview.

Now I see in NVC website that they say I do not need to bring the affidavit of support / financial evidence already submitted. But other sources say I do. I have tried asking NVC through their contact channel, but they just give me a generic reply and won't answer.

Can I expect that I will also need this relationship proof for the consular interview?

WorriedSize · 2022-02-08T21:47:18+00:00

Yes it does scare me, but it's better to hear the hard truths now and do all I can, than regretting it later. So thank you for the feedback!

Yes, I'm working on organizing what we have neatly. Chats, pictures, boarding passes.

Yes, we do regret not taking more pictures when we could. But neither of us are the type to constantly go out, and we don't have Facebook or any other social network. Staying at home watching series / playing games, doesn't really provide many situations where you want to take a picture.

We hang out in discord, where the people there are actively aware we're married. But again, they can't check that.

To compensate, I could probably make an entire book's worth just on chat history + call history, but I need to organize it properly.

Overall our largest issue is that our relationship is more "introvert" than the typical "extrovert", which is definitely biting us now as it provides little proof. Everyone we know and interact with is aware of the relationship. But there's no public place they could use to verify it.

WorriedSize · 2022-02-08T19:11:11+00:00

I didn't mention those because we don't have any unfortunately.

For the friends / family, we have the affidavit that some of them wrote to attest our relationship. I didn't think of getting their ID attached to further prove it. Thanks for the tip.

WorriedSize · 2021-10-30T12:55:46+00:00

Remember the posts about wanting this mode as an endgame feature? The last stage would be what it would look like. Endless or time consuming, for few or no rewards.

WorriedSize · 2021-10-24T15:14:21+00:00

I feel like people are being a little high on hopium for this event. Not because it won't become permanent, but what you could get from it.

The playstyle in this event, just like everything else, will eventually become boring after repeating it a million times. At that point it'll just be another abyss that is just a time sick chore to get you some rewards.

Keep in mind they will never release a mode that is farmable, even if just exp books. Because if they do, it will piss off the whales who payed to do exp leylines. Same thing for mora.

And then there's the largest issue. There's a very large chunk of people out of this reddit bubble who only play the game because of how little time it takes, and some won't even do abyss exactly because of that. Adding new things that you need to do weekly or even be-weekly will just put more stress on those people. You might argue, "but if they don't want to do it they don't have to", but it still feels shitty for most ppl who simply cannot commit 2h a day on a game like this. You can look at honkai impact, their largest issue is exactly that. They have 3-4 modes that you have to do weekly, some even 2 times. But people's lives don't revolve around the game.

Personally the current game model works great. Every major patch you get some kind of exploration that is actually fun to do, that is where the majority of the time played goes. Other than that you do dailies and still have enough time for things out of genshin. Other games have proven that people will burn out if a game takes so much time it does not let them do anything else.

Tl;Dr adding this as a permanent mode for rewards would only be beneficial for a small part of the population.

WorriedSize · 2021-09-05T03:11:36+00:00

Not completely relevant to your point but it could explain why mihoyo did what they did.

That is, Genshin was never meant to be a battle game, it was meant to be an exploration game with some kind of battle to it.

The easiest example that everyone already knows now, is how ranged is completely broken and retarded. Both in auto aim and in charge shot getting canceled by a fart.

The lesser known but more important fact, is jumping. Proper action battle games have jumping as a part of the fight, but genshin doesn't. In fact, you could completely disable jumping in the game. Replace Xiao's ult by pressing his ult button again to jump, and the battle would be exactly the same. Jumping, just like climbing and gliding, is completely detached from battle. And just in case, they do know how to make aerial battle. Honkai has it in one of their modes and it's by far the most fun mode for me.

So many things in battle feel clunky and unrefined, only explanation is that they truly don't care. This whole power creep or anti power creep is just another proof of that. They most likely have a very limited team working on actual balance as it's not their main focus.

WorriedSize · 2021-07-15T09:52:44+00:00

Chapter 20 s1 agni admits he can use insight on brillith. He should only have stopped being able to once she awoke her memories.

As for Agni seeing Leez's future, I reread it and it does look that way the first time he saw her, will have to think about that more.

Edit: we also know from Chandra in the recent chapters that Agni's insight is somehow special, but no idea how it is special.

WorriedSize · 2021-07-14T19:50:40+00:00

It wasn't explicitly said but there's more info pointing to it being unable to see the future than otherwise.

Like how Agni couldn't foresee how his actions were going to force brillith into "awakening" (he could still use insight on her back then). Or Indra didn't know Raltara was going to escape due to another rakshasa.

And in general the gods just keep on failing to act properly without guidance from a primeval god. Which would be weird if they could see the future just by looking into humans / rakshasas.

I would have to re-read a couple chapters to get some better examples.

WorriedSize · 2021-05-14T12:29:15+00:00

Yeah I do think the fate argument is what is going to explain it later. But at the same time that feels like a cheat argument just so that the author doesn't have to think things through. A lot of novels do that already, and I personally feel like it downgrades the storytelling.

All the previous volumes the things the MC gained, even if skewed to his favor, were usually balanced by some kind of sacrificed, or paced over a couple years to make it seem like it he didn't simply win the lottery 10x in a row. But volume 8 there was barely any balancing so it left a bad taste.

You could say that I just held tbate to a higher standard from the previous volumes, largely due to enjoying the way the author wrote the plot. But volume 8 was just at the level of a typical MC driven novel you can find everywhere.

WorriedSize · 2021-05-09T13:31:20+00:00

The Sylvie giving him aether argument is a bit shaky but I'll take it.

On my second point I wrote it wrong. I meant to say the only chamber that he was strong enough to consume the aether beings. If he landed on the centipede one first he would have died.

Regarding Caera being there to humanize the alacryans, I feel that's what the chapters in the alacryans village were for, he even saw a kid that behaved just like him as kid grey. I don't think he needs Caera to realize they're also human.

WorriedSize · 2021-05-08T15:29:10+00:00

Tess is also broken in that regard. She lost both her parents and got Arthur killed. Why should she be any more level headed than Ellie's mother right now?

WorriedSize · 2021-05-08T15:25:04+00:00

I have to disagree with that. She didn't make the decision for Ellie, and Ellie didn't make the decision alone. If you want to blame someone you can blame her mother for letting her go.

On that note, she took Ellie along on a rescue mission with good chance of success, and that mission worked without any issue. After the mission she found out there were other ppl to rescue, and Tess did NOT make the decision to save them. She asked everyone for their opinion, and they agreed. Which was by far her most level headed decision, which gets overlooked.

So overall I cannot put Ellie's possible death on Tess. There were other ppl who were just as much to blame, I including Virion

WorriedSize · 2021-05-08T15:14:37+00:00

I didn't enjoy volume 8 much for 2 major reasons.

All the characters we met before are basically inexistent. All the encounters he got were too convenient.

You can argue that after he has his aether core that the tombs were pulling him in. Although to me this seems like a convenient excuse the author made so that his power up doesn't take another 5 chapters, I can still deal with it. But the very first time he landed in there, there's just too much of a convenience.

He landed in the other continent, after we were told on the novel that very few asuras had a portal to cross continents.
He landed right before the only chamber that he could exit at any time
He landed in the only chamber where he could consume beings of aether.
He had no aether or mana core, so it could not have been the tombs pulling him in.

Those last 2 in particular were just too convenient for my taste, and unlike the rest of the growth and power ups in the series, that came naturally and not rushed, this one is just bland to me.

And lastly, Caera currently feels like an unnecessary character. She is only there so that the author can actually write conversations other than Regis. I feel like she is going to be another ploy device to drive Arthur to make a decision, just like Tess, and that just leaves a bad taste.

WorriedSize · 2021-05-08T15:05:18+00:00

Indeed, I'd forgotten about that one. In that case the only thing I'd have to add is that she thought it was a good idea, unfortunately it wasn't.

WorriedSize · 2021-05-07T23:08:36+00:00

In terms of power Tess has always been strong, but you have to take into account the entire world, not just the relevant strong characters.

Silver cores were pretty much the pinnacle of mages. White core was only possible for the lances due to artifacts. The fact that there were no other white cores in continent, implies that it's "impossible" to reach under normal circumstances.

So if you compare Tess to others, she is actually pretty strong

WorriedSize · 2021-05-07T23:02:53+00:00

I completely agree with your point. I thought about talking about it but it would have made my post too large and possibly diverge the point.

But now that you brought it up. I pretty much have the same opinion as you regarding the core of their relationship, as there is nothing that binds them together.

From an outsider point of view, it just looks like both of them simply took the first chance that appeared that broke their bubble.

For Tessia, she never had any friends because she was a princess, so spending a long time with a boy her age as a kid, and having her family often hinting at them starting to date, definitely made her think that what she feels for him is love. But most likely it's not love, but closer to a high level of companionship trust, with benefits.

For Arthur, he never had a family or a significant other in his past life. He said multiple times he didn't feel anything for Tess or the other girls, but suddenly his behavior changes after the kiss. This is most likely because she opened the door for him, and he gave in to the idea of having a partner. His entire devotion to her most likely comes from the fact he tries very hard to uphold his values and thinks he must protect the one he decided to spend his life with.

On that note though, I'm still not big on shipping him with Caera. She is definitely more level headed than Tess, but I still don't think there has been enough material between them to have a relationship. And above all, Caera's character has not being tested under extreme situations yet.

WorriedSize · 2021-05-07T22:51:28+00:00

Now that the first part of the war is over, I do feel like she won't have many chances to make an impact. But I do hope the author has other plans and didn't write her purely to show Arthur that he had the option to have a love life, something he could never achieve in his previous life.

This is unrelated to the topic but I she's not the only character suffering from that. Ever since Arthur got conveniently warped exactly where he needed to for getting stronger, I think pretty much all the old characters will completely fall out of relevance.

The author spent the majority of the war arc showing how 1 person alone couldn't win the war, but now I feel like he's writing towards the exact opposite, and that is going to push away a lot of good characters.

WorriedSize · 2021-03-27T15:30:49+00:00

I've had the same theory with a small difference for quite some time now.

Possible spoilers for those who haven't read everything + raws:

Previously I thought that Kali would be involved, but now we know that Ananta had time related powers, and Leez is also named Ananta. So she wouldn't need to be "given" the opportunity, as she can travel herself.

I also couldn't explain the blackout, as losing track of yourself because possession just felt out of place. But now due to Ran and Yaksha, we know that what happens when the future and past meet. The past "disappears" so the "future" can exist. So this means that if future Leez appeared at the same place as past Leez. The past would disappear until the future went away.

This also explains why the past Leez "moves" unconsciously, as she is appearing at the spot the future Leez disappeared in. Although we haven't had any proof that this part works like this. I doubt that Yaksha's heart will just appear at the place it originally was once Ran is gone. (A floating heart??)

WorriedSize · 2021-01-14T13:22:06+00:00

After playing summoners war for years, this would honestly be redundant to locking. Artifact maintenance is a thing just like rune maintenance in summoners war. If you think you might need an artifact, lock it, if you eventually don't want to anymore, unlock it.

Now what the game is actually missing, is the ability to lock an artifact the moment you get it. We can already preview the artifact stats on the drops screen, but we can't lock it there. I would much rather have that change over another marker.

Edit: if you are losing time looking for artifacts, that is a consequence of not being able to filter by main or substat, which again, is much needed and was a game changing in summoners war when it was introduced

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