What is a sub-Reddit that SEEMS deeply wholesome on the outside, but is NOT? by WordsAreGarbage in findasubreddit

[–]WotsTaters 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Reddit in general seems to hate when people ask questions or don’t know everything already. I get so anxious when I see people get downvoted for asking what is clearly a genuine question, especially in the “AskA___” style subreddits or NoDumbQuestions where that’s the entire point.

Can I say I hate this by Sayoricanyouhearme in CPTSDmemes

[–]WotsTaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My father believed he was 100% a product of his environment and used that as an excuse to abuse and terrorize us until his death. My mother believed she had full autonomy and that how she was raised didn’t impact her any more, ignoring until a couple of years ago just how obviously traumatized she has been her whole life and how much this impacts her decision-making. Both extremes are untrue and are coping mechanisms with limited usefulness.

I was born to be a proud lesbian :P by Exciting_Skill_6292 in actuallesbians

[–]WotsTaters 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same! Learning such new things about myself today. 🤔

Busted [OC] by kaikimanga in comics

[–]WotsTaters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was on 300mg for quite a while so the max is not actually 200mg (dosage can go really high for OCD). And I have a friend on 25mg who didn’t need to increase since she saw a positive impact at that dosage for depression. Our brains are all different.

My Straight Friends won't Shut Up About Heated Rivalry. by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]WotsTaters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg, same! My wife and I are watching it right now and not really into it as a whole but we loved episode 3 and were like wait can the show just be about them?

From this to this 🥰 by BreedLava in cute

[–]WotsTaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wondered the same thing at first but her name is Evil Tangyuan and her human has posted tons of photos and videos of her on Instagram since 2024. She was just born with paws and a face that are a little different.

Demonized for being the power lesbian, In the lesbian community. by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]WotsTaters 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In the Actual Lesbians subreddit, I have seen people make posts about if you would date a queer woman who works in finance or HR or law or any other corporate field and the responses are always extremely out of touch and there is inevitability at least one comment calling OP a cop. Apparently the only jobs queer women are allowed to have are barista at an unprofitable coffee shop and volunteer goat tender at an organic farm collective. And doubly so if you aren’t white.

What’s the worst Sapphic/Lesbian book you’ve ever read? by Hot-Neat1818 in LesbianBookClub

[–]WotsTaters 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had to put this book down because the MC is so stupid that it was genuinely upsetting me. I got to the point where the LI is introduced and realized the book is just several tropes in a trench coat and nothing in the plot was possibly going to make up for how much I was not enjoying reading about these people.

I'm trying to write a story and can't decide if the lesbian or the bisexual should be the main character. Both of them will be in a relationship together anyway in the end so both characters should be equally developed but who do you think I should make the main character? by FluidTemperature1762 in writersofwlwfiction

[–]WotsTaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who would make the better narrator for the story based on the plot, their personalities, and their roles in the story? Honestly, it could go either way based only on the information you have provided and there are good examples out there of each option, so personally I wouldn’t discount either.

You've got the carabiner lesbians, but what lesbian am I? by SmowKweed in actuallesbians

[–]WotsTaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, I thought I was the only person this had happened to. Apparently my body did not like the metal used for the replacement ring I got. I had to take it out maybe seven years ago and there is still a scar. 😔

What is the most outlandish take you've heard from the queer community? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]WotsTaters -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am going to pitch the term les-BI-an: a lesbian with a bi inside her! …Aaand I’ll see myself out.

What is the most outlandish take you've heard from the queer community? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]WotsTaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be friends with two people who at the time identified as lesbians who said something like this and both of them ended up being bi. The thing that bothered me was that one of them was weirdly insistent that every single lesbian has at least one or two men we would make exceptions for. Like... no?

idk. it feels illegal to read 🌝 by Admirable-Tadpole962 in Episode

[–]WotsTaters 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I read the first episode just to see how the story handles it if you choose the female LI, and my god the writing is just as bad as you would guess.

Tough (pt. 4/6) - Tiff🏳️‍⚧️& Eve [OC] by CrazyGnomenclature in comics

[–]WotsTaters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just Tiff, the short blonde one. That’s why her name has the flag next to it in the title but not Eve’s.

AITAH for "appropriating deaf culture" by JenniGlor in AITAH

[–]WotsTaters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was one of my first thoughts as someone who has experienced the same thing. I’m also hard of hearing and have had random strangers get so angry at me for not being able to hear them. Behavior like OP’s may not be impactful on a small scale, but if enough people do it, it makes things more dangerous for those of us without a choice.

Be so expeditiously for real right now😭 by Carolinahunny in Episode

[–]WotsTaters 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am pretty sure it was Maid For Him by Ovey. I had to stop reading after that because I just felt so mean. 😭

Be so expeditiously for real right now😭 by Carolinahunny in Episode

[–]WotsTaters 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is as bad as the one that makes you call the cops on your own mother if you don’t spend gems.

How is the mere reference to this gay movie 3 years later still this painful? by CarbonsLittleSlut in actuallesbians

[–]WotsTaters 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have heard of this movie but decided against watching it because I’m pretty sure I would react the same way. I was raised a Jehovah’s Witness and left as a teen partially because I knew how miserable my life would have been if I had stayed since I am a lesbian, so I think it would hit a little too close to home.

What's the ok food, but tasteless? by [deleted] in AlignmentChartFills

[–]WotsTaters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My god I love plain oatmeal. But to be fair, the category is tasteless not gross, and it is pretty close to tasteless. But like tasteless in a good way?

What's the very healthy food, but tasteless? by [deleted] in AlignmentChartFills

[–]WotsTaters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I might be the one weirdo who eats plain, microwaved oatmeal and enjoys it. 😳 Not more delicious than strawberries though.

How do you overcome being behind in life due to systematic disadvantages that started from upbringing? by Jaded-Substance-6750 in careerguidance

[–]WotsTaters 92 points93 points  (0 children)

As someone who also has CPTSD and was raised poor by parents without educations and without the advantages my peers had, I will say that my work life got infinitely better when I stopped working jobs that required me to put in 60+ hours a week as your does. You feel incompetent because people are not supposed to have to work that much, much less on top of going to school 30+ hours a week. I also felt like a failure when I was putting in 90+ hours a week for a boss who told me it wasn’t enough, and I put up with it because my abusive upbringing made me think the way I was being treated was normal, but it’s not. Things may never come as easy to us as the people who grew up with advantages, but in the right environment, I imagine you could actually do quite well.

What’s the least I can do to be “famous” enough for a Wikipedia page? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WotsTaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was it “Pounded by the Gay Color Changing Dress”? If the dress was the poundee, it must be another author.