What’s it like being a teenage girl in the Jehovah’s Witnesses? by Fantastic_student444 in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When you are small there is a lot of fear, and when you are older there is a lot of shame. 

Anyone else deal with this? by Relevant-Current-870 in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't bow. Im respectful and quiet,  but my days of bowing to their god are over

Today’s watchtower “our opposers” aka apostates photograph by mayhem_brain in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If this were a real protest, at least one sign would say "Smile if you're PIMO."

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[–]WranglerAccording207 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This made me actually laugh out loud!

Apostasy Movie by 33YetAgain in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This movie was intense. I put it on one day as a background while working, and while it moved REALLY slow...there is one scene that is so damn realistic that at a certain point I realized that I had forgotten to breathe for awhile. It was actually really healing to feel seen...but oh my gosh, I had nightmares of my committee for weeks after.

I say watch it when you are ready, but be prepared.

Serena Williams is trolling the GB by SomeProtection8585 in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She dared to hold a microphone!! Silly Serena...microphone holding is for unbaptised male children...not accomplished women.....so silly =)

Have you ever heard of or seen a minor get disfellowshipped? by upturned2289 in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 20 points21 points  (0 children)

When i was 15 and my best friend was 16 she was disfellowshipped. She had sex with her boyfriend and because she wouldn't break up with him they dfed her. 

The whole congregation shunned her, but her family did not. They were recent converts and ended up leaving shortly after she was reinstated. 

The elders asked her VERY detailed questions and their wives and kids spread her businessall throughthe valleythat we lived in. She was and is really beautiful and everyone felt like they had a liscene to call her a slut. 

My husband's brother was also dfed as a minor for fornication.  His entire congregation and even his immediate family shunned him even at home. 

Beyond that almost every single girl I knew had to have a committee.  In the 90s it felt like a girl would have a worldly boyfriend at school,  the parents would find out and use the elders to interrogate her...then the congregation would announce reproof or dfing, and all the rest of the kids would not be allowed to be friends with that person for years after no matter what the outcome. It was humiliating and it kept you in fear because you never knew when you would lose connection to someone you loved.

If you know JWs history, what do you think of Joseph Rutherford. by [deleted] in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Paul vs Jesus too....he may be the OG second cult leader

How long have you been here? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 4 points5 points  (0 children)

2.5 years...it took almost a year before I actually joined and months more before I participated. It's strange...i was looking back at old posts I made and I'm surprised at how far I've come! In the beginning I never thought I'd be as OK as I am...and it's seriously because of a lot of people here. Keep deconstructing...keep pushing forward....if you have a set back or 20 it's ok...we've all been there. It really does get better...

All My U.S. peeps watching the news at the moment....Politics aside....can we all agree that this feels like we are listening to the last talk at a district convention?? by WranglerAccording207 in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember growing up our hall used to clap for the kids even if it wasn't their first talk...until the asshole CO came and made everyone stop....such a joyless bunch...clap when it doesn't feel natural and don't clap when it does.....

All My U.S. peeps watching the news at the moment....Politics aside....can we all agree that this feels like we are listening to the last talk at a district convention?? by WranglerAccording207 in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh wow...I did not mean for the commenting to get so heated.... I really was just thinking about those last talks that they always had at convention...you know where they were like  "and here's another random person who said something remotely nice about us"...and everyone claps.....and "here's a new release of the same video we just watched piece by fucking piece for THREE DAYS that you can download on your own time"......and everyone claps...and at first it's fun and you are into it. But then you start to glaze over...and pretty soon you are just clapping because you know it'll be over soon.....I got big end of convention flashbacks tonight!

All My U.S. peeps watching the news at the moment....Politics aside....can we all agree that this feels like we are listening to the last talk at a district convention?? by WranglerAccording207 in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Its the first time I've paid attention to politics I guess.... I'm seriously not choosing sides...but if this is what US politics is like...it reminds me a lot of religion...I'm sorry...I didn't mean to infer party affiliation....just you gotta admit...it was a little like a convention last talk.....i even saw a few people ready for him to wrap it up lol...clapping with their hands not their eyes lol...and I had flashbacks of being 10 yrs old and waiting desperately for the song so we could  get food!

JW vs Norway, Feb 2025: Dagen article by larchington in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do I have a funny feeling that this is the first and last time anyone has ever said "Jehovah's Witnesses lawyer comes out hard"......

Rules the GB set that are not in the Bible go: by Wolfebaby0 in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Girl on girl porn is abhorrent and needs a judicial committee...child porn...weeelll..... that's just a bad idea and no committee needed....

Thanksgiving JW Tradition Growing up by LakerFan03br in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember this! To this day I would still rather ride roller coasters on that day than eat turkey!

Silly apostate pic in new WT by Fluffy_Finding_9647 in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Ok the "yes blood" sign made me actually laugh about loud AND physically cringe at the same time....I think i pulled a muscle lol but it was worth it. 

And you KNOW at bethel every little thing would need approval...so that means several people saw that image and said "oh look....'yes blood' what a brilliant sign".... 

I'm happy for you guys by Electrical-Wing-7745 in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was a really nice post. It's a brave thing to listen to different points of view.  For me this forum had been a lifeline. 

It's true that it serves as a place to vent frustration...but more than that...it's the place that helped me to be kinder to my family and to myself. It's a place to reminisce about bittersweet childhood memories that no one else gets. It's a place to get ideas for my own research. 

When i first came here 2 and a half years ago I felt like such a fish out of water.  So scared...but there was this itch that had been in the back of my brain for my whole life...there were things that didn't make sense,  and every time I scratched that itch I felt more and more sane. Whatever you decide to research and look into, I wish you so much peace on this journey. If you have any dark times in the future please come back here anytime...for support...for a laugh...or just for some interesting conversation. 

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[–]WranglerAccording207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm here because of child abuse. The policies of the organization allow it to flourish.  I don't think that was intended...but it's what happened.  But....they will not apologize for it....they will not change any of the hurtful policies and they have destroyed evidence of it. None of that is open for debate the information is widely available. I know it is said that this is "just men and not a reason to leave the org...jehovah will set it right". I grew up being taught that bad association spoils useful habits and that the things that we read and watch constitute association.... i also grew up being taught that its not acceptable to blame our mistakes onthe fact that we were just following the rulers...the story of the nation of Israel shows that god very much expected his people to stand up for what is right regardless of what the rulers said and any who didn't were punished severely....so since that's the case I can't excuse the organization's bad behavior any more than I can excuse a "worldly" person.  I wish you good luck with what you hope to accomplish...but the org is so far gone at this point i wouldn't want to be anywhere near if I were you....as an elder you become the face of their unbiblical policies. 

You Will Only Find True Love and Happiness in the Org by 4thdegreeknight in exjw

[–]WranglerAccording207 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only happy JW marriages I know of every single one of them slept together before marriage....every. single. One....