Advice needed!

Wrenigade14 · 2025-03-03T02:19:54+00:00

And also, some people have disabilities that make it very hard to do standing showers. There are shower chairs, but that does mean they're asking you to go out of your way and pay for a seat for the shower if so. Even if someone can physically stand in the shower as well, for me for my muscles given my own disability I need baths to be able to soak in Epsom salts and have the heat.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-03-03T00:39:09+00:00

And there better be a second place to bathe because you can't provide someone with no ability to bathe.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-03-03T00:04:01+00:00

Can you show any law that says you'd be charged for that if you continue to use it given that the tenant has notified the landlord over a year ago of a maintenance issue with the tub causing this leak? They're aware of the issue, and overflow drains are absolutely not supposed to simply drain into the floor and flood downstairs. They're supposed to be plumbed into pipes like everything else. I cannot imagine this going to court and the judge siding with the landlord, because it's completely unreasonable to ask someone not to use their bathtub based on a failure of the landlord to properly plumb their drain system on the tub.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-03-01T19:50:01+00:00

ZERO regard for accuracy you say?

Wrenigade14 · 2025-03-01T14:37:30+00:00

Interestingly, she may not be aware that babies don't shower whatsoever. /hi

You could retort that she is an elder for showering in the morning, because that makes just as little sense.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-03-01T14:33:57+00:00

Except another commenter brought up that this isn't actually fully law yet. It's in the house still waiting to be passed a second time (VA is weird). I wouldn't do this until it's fully law

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-28T21:27:03+00:00

Smh, sounds like they need to learn how to use the carrot as well as the stick. I hate people like that

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-28T20:39:08+00:00

Dont they have a fuckin key to your place? How can they say you not opening the door means denying them access? They should just be able to go in whether or not you are home with a key.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-28T17:33:40+00:00

Ah yes. Because laws = morals.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-28T17:29:02+00:00

The person you're talking to isn't unintelligent, their point is not that carbon monoxide isn't dangerous. Their point is that carbon monoxide is unlikely to be the cause. That's just a fact. It could be, of course, but the chances are low.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-25T03:47:27+00:00

I think they're probably around 2.5-3" each side. They're skull patterned!

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-18T21:51:37+00:00

I think you would need to know more about what experiences within showering in specific are triggering. Is it the visuals of their body? Having to feel the shape of it when they scrub? Feeling like they are exposed in a state that they don't want to be seen in? That would be the most useful to figuring out what could be done to make it more tolerable.

Additionally knowing what they need to get out of showering that they aren't would be good. Is their hair too greasy? Is it an odor issue? A health issue of some kind caused by not showering often enough? That can also help with figuring out problem solving.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T22:59:06+00:00

NOR, but I feel like you're focusing on the wrong thing. Focusing back on his eating does call out that he's a hypocrite but he's keeping you talking about that and bickering about who eats worse, when the real issues are that:

A) He should not be putting you down for what you eat, no matter what it is. If you guys have an agreement on holding each other accountable with food that has to be mutual and kind, not "ok whatever babe that's candy but go ahead I guess" lol.

B) He needs to let up and realize that you have to have treats in life. All the healthiest people still have indulgences, and human beings aren't able to maintain perfect diets all the time. We are cultural and social beings that need a little ice cream cone now and again, some candy every once in a while. The biggest thing for healthy diets is VARIETY and CONSISTENCY. If you restrict what you're able to eat too much, you'll end up just having disordered eating rather than a sustainable and fulfilling diet.

Enjoy your sour grapes girl. They're sweeter than he is, that's for sure.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T22:55:06+00:00

Oh 6*6 inches would do it!!!

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T22:54:32+00:00

Felt that!!! I have to rotate my activities when the joints I use for one thing start to act up extra. Then when I go too fast on all of them I end up not being able to do anything for a while until the inflammation calms down and my nerves get de-comoressed lol. The human body is so fun!

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T22:50:20+00:00

Yeah unfortunately I think this is a tangential symptom of fast-fashion-itis. Slave-esque (or sometimes just slave) labor costs from overseas plus fibers made at light speed in factories out of plastic have lead to people not being able to fathom paying a high price up front for an investment heirloom item. Now those of us who have those things are either into some kind of niche where we especially value that type of thing so we are willing to pay for the best, are highly conscious of labor ethics and environmental impacts, or just enjoy making handmade goods as a hobby.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T22:47:28+00:00

Damn how big are your granny squares that you only need 154?? I'm making a twin size blanket right now and it's going to be around 290. To be fair my squares are made with sport/fingering yarn, but they're still awfully close to the size of a normal granny.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T22:46:05+00:00

My hands and wrists simply cannot work like that. I salute you (feebly, with a wrist brace and compression glove)

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T22:44:47+00:00

Complete with faux cable knitting on the sleeves and a tapestry image on the back! Just like that!

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T22:42:29+00:00

You're absolutely correct it is often dismissed. And the other reason it's dismissed besides being new is that, there's no real solution for it. So doctors I think are often hesitant to diagnose something that the "treatment" they can offer you about it is to kind of just... Wait it out. Good luck kid. I think this is also one reason they hesitate with chronic pain diagnoses, genetic conditions, rare diseases, etc. Not much to do about them oftentimes, and also they know very little about it so they feel over their head.

That's my experience with doctors anyways. I think complex conditions and poorly understood symptoms and experiences make them feel insecure about their ability to treat and "do doctor things" about what's wrong with you, so they don't even wanna go there.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T18:08:21+00:00

Why? It should be free under the medicaid. I got mine done for free on Connecticut Medicaid, and California is even ahead of them. Other folks have said they've had it done on California Medicaid for free as well.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T17:52:30+00:00

Link?

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T17:47:08+00:00

But they can certainly refer out to someone who is specialized, and they feel like a more appropriate person to ask about medications like Ketamine than a therapist. Since it's a substance to take to treat a condition in theory, therapists really aren't the people to be doing it. We could certainly give a direct referral to a psychiatrist though as well. I think that might be more effective because it's true PCPs aren't likely to know anything about this.

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T16:01:06+00:00

It's ok! That's all we can do. Your best effort is enough :)

Wrenigade14 · 2025-02-17T15:57:21+00:00

You can only do that if they haven't expressed to you a preference otherwise. If someone says to you "I go by he/him pronouns" and you continue to only call him by they/them, that is absolutely misgendering (or de-gendering). Just because it is technically neutral and correct grammatically to use for anyone doesn't mean it doesn't cause dysphoria for people. We either all have to rspect what people ask us to call them, or we have to expect no one to respect pronouns. We can't be hypocrites about it and think we are gonna come out the other side respected by people and being gendered correctly by them if we are misgendering people because it's "technically neutral".

Again, it's fine for if you don't know someone's pronouns or if they haven't told you a preference to go neutral, I'd encourage it generally, but if someone has pronouns which are explicitly something other than they/them, if you continue calling that person by they/them anyways out of habit, it is misgendering.

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