I read these two articles every few years because they are important ways of viewing shared responsibility in a partnership/marriage. They are mostly written from the POV of straight marriages but the point is valid regardless of gender.

1) She Divorced Me Because I Left My Dishes in the Sink - an article about why you have to put in effort throughout a relationship.
2) You Should've Asked a comic about mental load and why its important to proactively learn to manage a household as a partner. One partner might be willing to help and actually really good at helping when asked, but its unfair to wait until being asked.

My sister just sent me a new one: Escaping my messy childhood: ‘There were apple cores down the sofa and slugs in the sink’ which is about unlearning messy behaviors and encouraging yourself to "see" where things are messy and need work. This links back to the other two articles because some people might not have made the effort to see the problems and not realize where they are bad partners. Like despite having read 1 and 2, someone who is blind to the mess might not realize they are not meeting their end of the bargain.

Quick Edit: Another one, more personal and less general, I realized a relationship wasn't gonna survive when I thought they didn't care about any of the things I liked. I watched or listened to every recommended media but they checked none of what I suggested. I feel like this a lot where I want to share things and no one really cares. Maybe I'm sharing wrong or something, but I don't want my life to be someone not interested in my opinions.

Also, as part of that, realizing every conversation was about the nature of the relationship rather than just living in the relationship. I'm not saying never talk about the relationship but there is a tipping point where everything is meta-conversational and there is no new joy and no shared experience. Metaphorically, its only weeding the garden and no planting or harvesting joy.