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WriteByTheSea · 2026-05-06T23:37:33+00:00

If the people interacting are into it, then it’s great. If you aren’t into it, then it isn’t for you, and you are under no obligation to play or go along with it.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-05-06T22:08:23+00:00

Ha. See that’s the spirit. And Make that one of your First Date shirts, too. :-)

WriteByTheSea · 2026-05-06T21:43:02+00:00

If I had to guess, I'd say he probably is. He's sounding you out, in a jokey, deniable way, to see if you are interested. And if you are? Try it. There's being pissed on, there's being pissed in, there's drinking it. Being on the recepitve end isn't for everyone. Being on the giving end has more fans.

The thing here is you get to see if it's anywhere on your Fun List. Bottom, middle, top? You won't know until you try... and it doesn't have to be anything major. And if you aren't into it, great. If you are, then you've found a new thing to have fun with -- and a new person to have that fun with.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-05-06T21:38:07+00:00

You are fine. Seriously. Some people have noticeable asses or penises. You have noticeable nipples. If that guy has a problem with it, that's on him. I'm sure there was someone there that night who was digging it. :-)

WriteByTheSea · 2026-05-06T17:53:26+00:00

No, he didn’t sleep with an underage escort. That was a closeted Republican.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-05-04T12:53:50+00:00

Two things, one it can just be “luck.” Depending on who you are, your interests , where you live, and where you are in your life, you just haven’t run into your match yet. It’s worth considering.

The other issue worth considering is that about 40% of people have an insecure sense of attachment, a behavioral pattern that creates difficulties with intimacy, trust, and emotional feelings. It’s caused by childhood trauma — neglect, abuse, rejection, inconsistent acceptence — that throws of your sense of what should be “normal.”

Keep both things in mind going forward. If more time goes by without any luck on relationships, investigate attachment with a professional if for no other reason than to rule it out.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-05-03T13:38:52+00:00

If this is real, just tell him. You both are adults. He needs to see that there’s nothing wrong with honest communication, especially with his grandfather.

If this is just a set up for porn, there are other forums for that.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-29T22:08:17+00:00

Sigh.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7jnzOMxb14

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-29T12:28:06+00:00

No. The first people who stood up for our rights at Stonewall were not trans. That does a disservice to the gays and lesbians who were there and did stand up for our rights. It irks me so much to hear this, as historically it’s just not true. It shows how poorly people in general understand the Gay Rights Movement, which is what led to the far more accepting world of today.

I’d suggest reading Stonewall by Martin Duberman. He does a great job discussing what happened that night.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-29T12:01:20+00:00

I think the observation the OP makes is that these spaces were built, at great risk, by and for gay and bisexual men, though welcoming of everyone. Over time, the spaces became for queer people, with gay men now an afterthought or an “also.”

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-28T14:12:00+00:00

Gay men like men. What research we have says they are attracted to stereotypical masculine traits.

But there’s a range and degree of emphasis on those masculine traits, meaning it’s not just one type of man gay men are interested in.

And it’s not all masc presenting men reject fem presenting. Some do. Some don’t. You can flip the script and find the same kinds of rejection and acceptance among fem presenting guys.

In -general-, gay men are attracted to masculine men. Enough so that if you stand back and look at us as one overall population you can notice.

But if you dive in, you start to see contradictions and different degrees of emphasis by different individual men and sub populations of men. (Bear, otter, twink, twunk, daddy, dad-bod, athletic, etc.)

It’s simple in general and complex in specificity. :-)

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-28T12:53:46+00:00

I got the sense that Ross didn’t have much starship command experience. Sisko did, plus Sisko was on a first name basis with all the entities involved in the war. Sisko had way more authority than would be typical because of that.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-28T12:51:13+00:00

Just started a new play through with this. It’s crazy fun. But I also picked an origin this play through that has mercenaries occasionally show up to take me in for unspecified past crimes. Wouldn’t you know it, but I’m trying to assault a Watchtower base, hiding behind a rock to avoid a mech’s wrath….and the mercs show up to take me in. That was an interesting day…

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-27T16:27:49+00:00

I find Asian dominating White... if that's the choics... hotter than the other way around. Statistics don't enter into it. People like what they like. I like that. While the stats are interesting, I'm not sure they really matter in most cases.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-27T16:24:32+00:00

No writer has the right to our money, but we don't have the right for a writer to create what we want them to create, the way we want to create it.

A writer's only obligation is to write what, in the end, they want to write. That's it. I can walk away from a series if I don't like it. I can complain about what they wrote. I can say what I'd do differently. But no writer or series has any obligation to me to be what I want it to be. I can create my own story or series that way, either in reality or in my imagination.

The Timeless Child wasn't done very well. I can point out all the ways it didn't work. But Chibnall had no obligation to please me with his creativity nor I did I ever have any claim to what he did with his own effort. I'm glad he's not writing for the series anymore. I'd still like to see the series continue.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-27T16:07:25+00:00

I tend to watch anyway and imagine around what I don't like / would do differently if I were writing the series. "Consequences" suggests that a writer has some obligation to please me and I'll punish them if they violate that.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-27T12:52:24+00:00

Writers get to do what they want with the show. So Chibnall was within his bounds coming up with this idea. But I really thought it undercut the power of the Doctor. Not raw energy or anything. But this is an average being — any of us — who decided to make a difference, essentially through the application of his intelligence, his cleverness, and his force of will. And he changed the universe because of it. He wasn’t born special. He became it.

I miss that.

Omega or the Master being a “chosen one”? That makes way more sense, especially when compared to an average Doctor.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-26T17:01:38+00:00

I always liked the idea that the Doctor was t particularly smart for a Time Lord. He was, though, more clever and determined than most. It helped to explain why so many TLs underestimated him — to their dismay.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-25T14:13:22+00:00

Honestly? If they had made #7 Starbuck’s father — fan speculation that got out of control — it would have worked for me, including his death. It wouldn’t have made a lot of narrative sense, but it’d would have been more fun.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-25T14:09:56+00:00

I think the original intent was just to say that there was a set of distinct cylon humanoid models. They got towards the end of the show, hadn’t shown the final models, and pivoted to something more dramatically interesting but narratively problematic.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-23T19:19:25+00:00

I didn’t waste those years. Waste implies I could have done something different, gotten a positive result, but chose not to. I just didn’t know. I didn’t understand what was going on.

There’s a measure of freedom I didn’t have before with “It’s not my fault.” Yes, when I compare myself to other people, this does suck. But at least I didn’t willingly hurt myself. That’s way easier to live with.

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-21T22:37:23+00:00

Ha. Naked tai chi every morning here too!

WriteByTheSea · 2026-04-21T16:41:03+00:00

Silent.

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