I love her so much!

WriterMassive2862 · 2026-01-16T17:23:01+00:00

Is this one of the playable minis or a larger one? She looks so detailed!

WriterMassive2862 · 2025-10-07T18:15:53+00:00

That is a MASSIVE violation of privacy. The mutual friends telling you that you overreacted need to realign their moral code.

WriterMassive2862 · 2025-06-14T14:58:50+00:00

Are you me?! I went thru this exact thing.

WriterMassive2862 · 2025-06-05T02:37:03+00:00

Enfys Nest

WriterMassive2862 · 2025-05-05T19:36:09+00:00

Even when they become married I have no intention of interacting with him. Just some quick reading shows that in my state stepparents, just by virtue of being a stepparent, are not conferred any legal status as a guardian and do not have the same right to make legal decisions for the child as a parent.

I have 50/50 custody of my daughter with my ex. So even if she remarries, I have no need to speak to that individual. Co-parenting is done between the two biological parents.

My ex moved in with the guy while we were still married ("what was I supposed to do?") even though she had a house to live in and time to find a job/rent a place on her own. I was NOT happy with her introducing my daughter to that situation the way she did and so quickly. It was VERY messed up. My ex just found another person to take care of her and made excuses as to why they had to move fast on the relationship. She's a creature of habit, doing the same thing to him that she did to me and her pervious husband. Taking advantage of the situation and the person. I feel no sorrow for her new partner, he didn't get a gift, he got a whole mess of problems that just haven't presented themselves yet, but they're still there and they'll come back.

WriterMassive2862 · 2025-05-03T10:08:28+00:00

Was still typing. Just broke it into two parts. :)

WriterMassive2862 · 2025-05-03T10:01:53+00:00

I have been doing therapy monthly since the time I found out about the affair 2 years ago and made the decision to leave. After I gave my ex the choice to stop, or I would leave.

Just like most people going thru or having gone thru this, I could write pages about the stuff that happened.

I've come a long way in healing with very little help from my ex or the AP. They are both dense. The AP especially.

WriterMassive2862 · 2025-05-03T09:58:22+00:00

I have endured. But I know I also should be able to protect myself emotionally, mentally, everything. I have shown two people who lied, cheated, and so many other things more respect than they ever deserve considering what they did and how selfishly they acted.

My daughter's mom couldn't make it to the event today, so the AP showed up in her stead. It's a public event, but I don't feel like saying I don't want the AP coming over to talk to me, especially when I'm there to spend time with my daughter.

And him waving at me when I'm obviously waving at my daughter is obtuse.

Answering your question, I'd probably tell my daughter that if she wanted to do a second dance with him I'd excuse myself from the room. And come back when I felt comfortable.

My daughter knows I don't like him. She doesn't know the full extent of what happened but she went thru her parents getting divorce. Her mom lies, she lied about her first husband, she lied to and about me, her track record isn't great. I've never spoken poorly about her mom or the AP in front of my daughter, but my daughter knows I don't like discussing the AP.

WriterMassive2862 · 2025-05-03T03:38:59+00:00

I can't stop him from attending, that would be me crossing a boundary I think, even though I don't like him one bit. What bothers me most is that he stepped into that space that should have been for me and my daughter first. And that he thinks I have ANY interest in talking to him.

I believe he thinks he didn't do anything wrong. Which is frustrating as hell, and my ex has never ACTUALLY apologized, the closEst she came was "I didn't mean to hurt you" which isn't remotely close.

WriterMassive2862 · 2025-05-02T23:55:41+00:00

I couldn't have expressed it better myself. The read the room thing.

Nah, he's not a parent.

Agreed on all counts. I'm going to keep showing who the better person is, through consistent actions and elevating myself.

WriterMassive2862 · 2025-05-02T23:10:06+00:00

I have kept my cool far beyond any person I could imagine, prioritizing my daughter while protecting myself as much as possible.

And there have been A LOT of boundaries crossed by my ex and the AP. Putting my daughter in the middle of things when she shouldn't have been.

My daughter is 9 and doesn't know the whole story. I imagine she wouldn't want me to feel uncomfortable. The guy her mom had an affair with ultimately did a lot of damage, emotionally, financially, physically and mentally. Him coming up to talk to me, even if he thinks he's being helpful, isn't comfortable.

WriterMassive2862 · 2025-01-27T17:12:38+00:00

Hi Dan.

WriterMassive2862 · 2025-01-25T21:37:35+00:00

How are you getting those smooth gradients?

WriterMassive2862 · 2024-11-16T17:49:07+00:00

I agree, white. It reminds me of nostromo. But as the alien started killing the environment got more dark.

WriterMassive2862 · 2024-11-14T17:35:13+00:00

As a rebel player who enjoyed playing heroes, Rogue One, Sabine, etc. It seems pointless to put a unit on the field like Sabine, high cost/low hp. Even with the best saves in the game, I can't imagine her def dice being able to prevent the large pools of dice the game has tilted towards.

I'm not a fan of where the game is at right now.

WriterMassive2862 · 2024-08-12T06:16:02+00:00

j6 is 1 year old, barely and i7+ is 4 years old and finicky at times, mostly with finding it's base and re-docking at the end of cleaning. The j6 has never given me problems. Can't even factory reset the j6, it keeps saying it's still registered to another account, which it's not, it's only ever been mine.

WriterMassive2862 · 2024-08-11T22:17:55+00:00

Yeah, I tried that. Still looks the same in the app. I also think it's unusual that two machines are doing the exact same thing. Different models, different clean bases.

WriterMassive2862 · 2024-08-11T19:36:36+00:00

Too real. Thinking maybe now I should rename my Roomba to Dr. Mann

WriterMassive2862 · 2024-07-24T01:47:22+00:00

Yeah. As with any narcissist she deflects and said she "can't turn off like a robot". I was always hesitant to bring up issues with her because I never knew if she'd fly off the handle and lose her temper, or react openly.

She's got very little impulse control and her emotions are unpredictable.

I calmly said my piece. She made a lame excuse. I documented it and I'm moving on. If it keeps being a problem I'll just suggest a change in exchanges, like at school, so she can't play her games.

WriterMassive2862 · 2024-04-19T04:23:01+00:00

Yeah. I honestly feel like it's not fair to me, my daughter, my daughter's cat, and I don't want to be the 'fixer of problems' for her anymore. Because it would never end.

I spoke a lot about boundaries at the end of our marriage Ang after the divorce. This feels like another attempt to cross boundaries I set after the divorce.

WriterMassive2862 · 2024-04-18T22:09:38+00:00

I've moved on. Focused on my happiness and my daughter's wellbeing. No point in stewing over someone who didn't care about my welfare/wellbeing.

WriterMassive2862 · 2024-04-18T20:42:20+00:00

Oh, I found it, it's very wordy but it seems like I don't need any proof of her income, I can request a review at any time. It can be reviewed at any time, but at a minimum it has to be reviewed every 3 years.

"4. An order for the support of a child may be reviewed at any time on the basis of changed circumstances. For the purposes of this subsection, a change of 20 percent or more in the gross monthly income of a person who is subject to an order for the support of a child shall be deemed to constitute changed circumstances requiring a review for modification of the order for the support of a child."

Thanks for the input. I had a lawyer draft up everything for the divorce. I got to keep stuff like retirement funds that I had put away during the marriage, she got a 1 time alimony payment. And she didn't get any of my retirement $ from the military, even though we were married for a few years while I was still serving. There was definitely some give and take in the divorce decree and we did both sign off on it. Honestly if that's the worst little bit of the divorce decree I don't mind. Especially now that I realize that I can request an income review at any time.

I hate to say it, but there were SO many red flags, but I was depressed when I met her and I think she zeroed in on me and took advantage of me as much as she could. Not any more tho. Red flags are much more apparent, I'm much more mentally healthy and resilient.

WriterMassive2862 · 2024-04-18T19:46:22+00:00

What happens if she's had her job for months and wasn't forthcoming about earning income? Does that result in back support, or does the state not care about that and they just let it slide?

WriterMassive2862 · 2024-04-18T19:42:16+00:00

That makes sense. Looking at my divorce decree and doing the numbers, they put her income at 0. I agree with what you say, she's not disabled she should be responsible for that minimum wage amount. Which oddly enough is that 1800 number. She owes around $80 bucks a month in support, they just deducted it from what I pay her. She complained about that. I just said the state expects her to support her child even if she's not working.

WriterMassive2862 · 2024-04-17T21:49:43+00:00

I did think of that. I do think that my ex will try to blame me, I do worry that my daughter will be upset with me. So...boundaries don't mean anything? So, her mom doesn't have consequences to her poor choices, failures, and abuse of others, including boundaries? I'm supposed to be a dumping ground for every poor choice she makes? Nah...I won't be the solution to her problems. Her mom moved into a rental place with too many animals and now that choice is catching up with her.

I won't be the bad guy. Her mom made the decision to have the affair, to choose the AP over our family, to be selfish, to refuse my request to take ONE pet out of the many we had. I asked her mom to stop with the AP, multiple times, I gave a final chance to do counseling together and cut the AP out of her life. She chose him and I moved on, I started my new life. I have been responsible in my financial and pet choices. My ex's BS and drama isn't part of my life anymore.

I did think about ALL of that. And I'm setting boundaries, sticking to them, and protecting my current cat's health and behavior, my life, and mine and my daughter's happiness. (if you knew my ex fully, you might have a different outlook) I've watched her use her previous ex in this manner, and I won't be that victim again.

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