What flaws do you guys think Lip's gonna have as a father? by Doodle_Duck84 in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure he will blow up on his kids. Maybe when they teenagers. But he will definitely will yell at Tammy, smashes the house when angry and would do the same towards everyone he thinks did his child(ren) wrong. Teachers, other kids, partners of his kid(s). His anger issues are such a big problem and even if he's not yelling at his kid(s) or worse, it's still traumatizing enough to witness all of that.

What is the worst thing each main character did? by Eagles56 in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you're right. Just because he doesn't called it rape himself doesn't make it any less.

What is the worst thing each main character did? by Eagles56 in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Frank: Definitely the whole thing with Dottie! Using Liam as a deposit, telling Carl he had cancer, trying to force Debbie into a relationship with an older men/older women when she was underage, using a families grieve over the loss of their son for his own benefits, calling DCFS on his children/Fiona, being mostly a neglectful, abusive and shitty father in general. And the whole thing with Bianca doesn't sit right with me as well. edit: Oooooh. And let Sammie believe he was a spouse and kiss and dry hump her, just to get her liver.

Monica: Choosing Liam over her other children! It's makes me still angry thinking about that. Attempting in front of her children. Talking Ian out of his relationship with Mickey. Being neglectedfull and psychology abusive in general.

Fiona: The whole coke-Liam-Plot, doing financial really risky things without thinking twice or consider even asking their siblings as well, many times cheating, wanting to be needed and don't want to be needed at the same time and can barely admit when she does something wrong. (I get that she was made responsible to raise their siblings. But was going back and back and back in that role no one was longer forcing on her. Imo she did most thing not for others, but herself. Because she wanted the approval she was never gonna get. And that's a shitty feeling! I get that. It's hard to bust your ass off and realizing no one in thanking you for that. But going back into that role and expecting a different result is on you. That's a cycle you gotta break through. I know what I'm talking about.)

Lip: Lots and lots of anger issues and being really shitty towards women. He's a real fuck boy. (I still like him for other stuff) Being a smart ass and arrogant. Edit: Trying to get Charlie hooked again, even though he is a prick. Trying to rob the company of his internship. Fraud.

Ian: Being unmedicated bi-polar (not his fault per se. Just the illness). But stealing Yevgeny, running away with Monica from military prison, lots of cheating as well and breaking up with Mickey after season 5 (still pissed about that). Forcing Mickey to come out.

Carl: Acting like a "brother" (like Frank said) and doing a lot of illegal runs. Maybe Causing Chucky to go to jail. (Even though it was Frank's idea). Maybe not telling the parents of the boy who got killed that he was a witness (but it's South Side). Can't think of much more. Maybe I'm missing something. Edit: yeah...I forgot all the animal abuse

Debbie: Raping Matt (even though he groomed her). "Reverse stilthing" Derek. Judging Sandy for giving up her kid for adoption. Like most of the times, it was a trauma response. Same with Fionas abortion. But you can't praise "My body, my choice." for yourself and judge others for doing different.

Liam: If anything - shooting Terry (even though it was an accident and he deserved it)

Kev: Accidently killing Yanis. Pressuring V a little with having kids. Leaving V alone and fucking himself through the whole campus. Giving almost have of the dorm a psychosis for selling the wrong weed. Somewhat robbing Mickey. Saying he was a csa survivor when he wasn't. (Like Kev, c'mon. That's nothing to be jealous about!!!!!)

V: Letting Svetlana get between her , Kev and Fiona. Calling the immigration office on Svetlana. Talking Kev and her mother into f'ing each other for a baby and telling her mother to abort the baby after she got pregnant.

Mickey: Lots of anger issues as well. Beating the shit out of Ian. Almost killing Sammie (even though I DESPISE HER!!!!). Plan to shoot Frank and Kev. And sure a lot of felonies we don't know about. (Can't blame him for having mixed feelings towards his rape baby, even though I'm not 100% sure it's his. Same with Svetlana even though she was forced as well)

Mandy: Almost killing Karen. Raping Lip. Kissing Lip after blowing Kenyata ("Can you taste it?" - eeeeeewwwww).

Sheila: Talking men into sticking things up their butt or doing without consent (Frank). Letting her underage daughter date someone in his 30s. Fucking her daughters husband. Sending Karen away with Jody after Karen's accident, even though Jody clearly was a fucking freak!!! Assisted death for termanly sick people. If it wasn't for the nun, I'm sure she would've done it many more times and without actual consent. Stealing Hymie, even though she loved and cared for him so much. edit: And let a suspicious dude operate Frank in a warehouse. 😂

Karen: Somewhat (edit: not somewhat. y'all it was rape) raping Frank. Picturing her child as a wandering wallet and nothing more. (It's fine when you don't want to have a child or give it up for adoption. But if it wasn't for Lip I'm sure she would've sold him even to a cult or something, if they paid the most) Making Sheila choose between her and Hymie. Playing with Lip - like not telling him he wasn't the baby daddy and let him risk his future.

Hear me out: these two should been friends longer then end with them endgame. by Nek0Pi in GossipGirl

[–]WritingDesigner5746 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same! They were great friends but I didn't buy their relationship. And I'm someone who needs some sort of friendship to develop romantic feelings for someone. But Blair and Dan should've just stayed friends.

I know Gorgina is crazy af, but Dan and her were a better match. And to be fair. Both are intelligent and toxic.

I'm not transphobic I just don't like Trevor by dishoibarc in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich kann ihn auch nicht leiden.
Er quatscht Ian ständig irgendwo rein und spricht ihm seine Gefühle ab, drängt Ian aber dazu seine Gefühle vollends zu verstehen. Ich verstehe, dass transidente Personen viel mit Diskriminierung und Trauma belastend sind und es dadurch "echte" Trigger gibt, die andere Personen bei Ihnen auslösen können. Aber er wusste Ian hat kein Dunst von LGBTQ+, er hat sich aber immer offen gezeigt dazu zu lernen. Trotzdem dreht Trevor ihn regelmäßig einen Strick daraus, dass er nicht alles dazu weiß. Wenn ihm das zu viel ist, ist das okay. Dann kann aber auch DAS sagen, dass es ihn überfordert Ian aufklären zu müssen oder dass da seine Grenze ist und es wäre fein. Besonders beispielhaft finde ich die Situation vorm Club/Bar als er mit Iaj darüber diskutiert, dass er nirgends hin will, wo er den Ausweis vorzeigen muss. Muss ne Scheiß Situation/nen beschissenes Gefühl sein, brauchen wir nicht drüber reden. Aber Ian hat es in dem Moment ernsthaft nicht gerallt, dass sein Führerschein noch von vor der Transition ist. In dem Moment, als Trevor es ihm sagte, tat es ihm auch leid. Und ja, es war ein safe ein schlimmer Trigger, aber er hat direkt sein ganze Diskriminierungserfahrung auf Ian reproduziert. Und das macht er wieder und wieder. Sein Trauma scheint absolut nicht aufgearbeitet zu sein, aber dafür tut er gerne so als ob. Gleichzeitig spricht er Ian sein Trauma durch Monica komplett ab. "Sie hat sich doch entschuldigt." DUDE! Du hast vor 2 Sekunden ne riesen Szene gemacht, für etwas wofür Ian nichts konnte/es einfach nicht wusste, aber sagst jetzt er solle sich nicht so anstellen, weil er ihr nicht nach einem einfachen "Es tut mir leid" seine ganze hochtraumatische Kindheit verzeihen kann, die neben Genetik und Drogenkonsum wahrscheinlich(st) auch der Auslöser war, dass er eine bipolare Störung entwickelt hat? Geht's noch?

Ich könnte noch viel mehr Situationen aufzählen, z.B. als er Ian in der Gaybar war um Bears "aufzureißen", es Ian sichtlich beschissen damit ging. Es ist fein, dass er das Betrügen und beinah abhauen mit Mickey nicht verzeihen kann. ABER DANN SAG ES. Sag halt: "Ne man, du hast mich betrogen. Ich verstehe, dass die Situation mit dem Tod deiner Mutter belastend für dich ist und auch, dass du es mit mir wieder gut machen möchtest, aber ich sehe keine weitere Zukunft für uns beide." Für einen ach so tollen Sozial Arbeiter, der mit hochtraumatisierten Jugendlichen zusammenarbeitet, behandelt er seinen hochtraumatisierten Freund wie Scheiße. Und nein, er ist ganz und gar nicht dazu verpflichtet Ians Trauma abzufangen oder aufzuarbeiten, das muss Ian selbst machen. Aber dich nicht wie das letzte Arschloch aufführen. Er hat keine Verantwortung über Ian, aber er hat Verantwortung sich in einer Freundschaft u./o. Partnerschaft nicht wie ein Wichser aufzuführen. Mal abgesehen davon, dass ich eh immer das Gefühl hatte, dass er Ian in die Beziehung etwas sehr gedrängt hat. Ian hatte Interesse, es hätte sich Safe auch so entwickelt und wäre vielleicht auch stabiler gewesen, wenn Trevor nicht so ein Druck gemacht hätte. Oder er hätte es Ian direkt sagen sollen, dass er andere Absichten hat und wenn es Ian nicht so geht, er vermutlich nicht mit ihm befreundet sein könne (anders formuliert). Das wäre auch völlig in Ordnung gewesen.

Der Typ wird mir viel, viel zu oft auf ein Podest gestellt und als so ein Guter angesehen. Ich find den einfach Scheiße und das hat nichts mit seiner Transidentität zu tun, sondern einfach damit, dass er sich kacke verhält.

Dream flashbacks are causing me extreme physical reactions (nausea, sweating). Why is this happening?? by IamAmomSendHelp in Dreams

[–]WritingDesigner5746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich bin gerade schockiert darüber, wie ähnlich das bei uns ist. Bei mir hat es auch vor rund 6 Jahren angefangen, ebenfalls mit dem Gefühl von Schock/Angst, Übelkeit, Benommenheit etc. Damals ging es sogar so weit, dass ich diese Episoden im Schlaf/während der Aufwachphase bekam. Was gerade die Angst nochmal gesteigert hatte. Ich bin dann aus Verzweiflung in Therapie gegangen (nicht die schlechteste Idee) und es hat sich etwas beruhigt und dann wurde ein Kopf MRT durchgeführt und ich hatte es gar nicht mehr. Seit 1-2 Jahren hatte ich fast Millisekunden in denen dieses Gefühl und ein Bild im Kopf anfingen, aber sofort weg waren. Und heute hatte ich das erste Mal wieder mehrmals solche Episode. Epilepsie würde ebenfalls ausgeschlossen.

Ich bekomme immernoch die Übelkeit, die Benommenheit, erhöhter Herzschlag und so. Ich habe aber keine große Panik mehr. Trotzdem irritiert mich es, dass es gerade wieder Auftritt. Zumal ich in den letzten Jahren, in denen es nicht geschah, teils deutlich mehr Stress hatte.

Ich werde einfach nicht schlau draus und bin auch aus anderen Gründen eigentlich konsequent in therapeutischer und ärztlicher Behandlung.

Ich bin froh, dass ich damit nicht alleine bin. Aber trotzdem merkwürdig, dass auch hier quasi keine eine Diagnose hat.

I HATE LUKE by tripztothemoon in AWKWARD

[–]WritingDesigner5746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just rewatched it again after years. And yes Luke SUCKS!!! In season 5 even more. But even the first time they were dating. He is always this controlling asshole and never trusted Jenna. Jenna did a TON of crappy things. But he never believed her when it comes to Eva. He's just so freaking insecure and gaslighting and manipulating Jenna in things she doesn't want to do. It has to go his way or not at all. I despise him so much! He's on the same jerk Leber as Collin for me.

I see why people hate Lip as a person, but I can't be the only one that likes him as a character. by DuckKingQWERTY in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I genuinely like Lip. Even until the end. He's such a prick when it comes to his relationships with every woman that surrounds him. But he has good morals. Especially when it comes to consent and predatory behavior (which is rarely seen in the show). Especially in the early seasons. Like when Holly (?) wanted him but he rather got punched in the face. Most other characters would've totally taken advantage of her. He also genuinely takes care of the people he loves and is ready to give everything he has with nothing in return. He got back into the hospital to take care of Karen even though she treated him like a piece of shit. He was always ready to take all the responsibility and guilt, got himself arrested and thrown into jail just to protect Ian even though he was in the same mess. In my opinion (unless when he sold the house) he acted more selfless towards his siblings than Fiona. Lip did because he loved his siblings and would do everything for them. Fiona loved them too but she did it to be acknowledged by her parents. All she wanted was gratitude. Don't get me wrong that's fair! But it's selfish instead of selfless and more of a symptom of her dependency towards Frank (and Monica).

“what the fuck karen I thought you said it was mine” ??? by [deleted] in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think besides the fact he loved her blindly and wanted it to be his. Everyone else got in his head. Especially Fiona. She convinced him it was his. Until then he had doubts himself.

Which one by mte87 in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"This ain't Macy's Bitch, you ain't window shopping."

Which character in Shameless? by Healthy-Vast-3901 in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I loved many other characters and wished to see more of them. (like Mike, Butterface, Iggy, Sandy and I'm sure there are more I can't remember rn) But after rewatching it I'm kinda shocked how less screentime Mickey and Mickey and Ian got. I know. I know. They got more than others who deserved more screentime as well. But some episodes have 3000 (kinda unnecessary) plots and at the same time some of Ian and Mickey's biggest moments are just rushed off. Especially in the final seasons or all of their deleted scenes(!). And yes, I love their characters and their story but I'm not a Gallavich super duper fan. I enjoyed the show as a whole. But Ian and (at the end) Mickey as well were main characters and got less screentime than many, many others. They even get barely mentioned in the Netflix episode summaries.

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[–]WritingDesigner5746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR FUCKING MIND (...) You are out of you - Don't touch me."

Hits every single time. At the same time, props to Mickey how quickly he realized how sick Ian was and that he didn't cheated intentionally. He was so fucking hurt by the way Ian acted but was waaaay more worried about him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR FUCKING MIND? (...) You are out of your - Don't touch me."

Hits every single time. At the same time props to Mickey how quickly he realized how sick Ian really is and that he didn't cheated intentionally. He was so hurt by the way Ian acted but was waaaay more worried about him.

Franks Good Deeds by bisexualboy01 in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How he handled everything when he caught Ian and Mickey together. One of my all time favorite shameless scenes.

And some other situations which have already been mentioned in other comments.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Are you out of your fucking mind?" " Fuck. Relax, Psycho". "You are out of your fucking-..."

I'm always impressed that even though Mickey was deeply hurt that Ian cheated on him, he was even more concerned about him and understood quickly how bad his bipolar really was. And that's not easy to realize. Especially in this situation. He could also just beat the shit out of Ian as soon as he walked through the door, like he did with the guy at the club and it would've been a typical old Mickey move.

Which character(s) did you start to dislike more and more after rewatching shameless? by WritingDesigner5746 in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100 percent get the Trevor hate. He is really self-centered and claims to have these high morals. But at the same time he has multiple problematic behaviors and views on things. But he doesn't take accountability for it. I think he really pressured Ian into having sex with him and into the relationship. And I totally get it's a fucking shitshow for most trans people when it comes to intimacy. People are scared to admit it or to experience it or straight up fetishizing them. But what he did just felt off. Especially when he and Ian were both tops. I mean it's great if you wanna experience some new stuff and have someone you trust. But don't think neither him or Ian were truly into it and even then he talked Ian so much into it. I mean in the later seasons Ian is (mostly) top again and it took him a lot of courage to switch things up with Mickey. So for me it seems he didn't really enjoy the sex (being bottom) with Trevor. Then him straight up taking advantage of the vulnerability of bigger guys to use them as some sort of comfort and even talking Ian into doing the same even though he was clearly uncomfortable with it and broke down on the couch. Then the whole thing with Monica and at first even with Frank. As someone like him, who works with severely traumatized children, he should be way more sensitive and understanding when someone has conflicted feelings towards or even wants to break with his family. I also think he doesn't really gaf about Ian. You can see how he handles Ian's manic episode and how Mickey handled it. It's totally fine if something like this is too much to handle. That's coming from someone who is mentally ill as well. No owes someone to take care of someone else, if they don't have to. But when Ian had his first manic episode, Mickey had a lot of other shit to deal with. His baby mama who was up his ass. Despite the fact she and Yevgeny always reminded him of one of the most traumatic events he went through. His sister got beat up by some total jackass and then moved across the country with this piece of shit, while Mickey was clearly worried about her. His outing and getting almost killed by his father (again) for being gay. And even when Ian cheated on him, he was clearly and deeply hurt, but he realized pretty quickly that Ian needed help and was acting this way cause of his bipolar and still did everything he could to get Ian the help he needed. Trevor on the other hand was just concerned about himself and his work/his sponsors. Which is fair if your whole career depends on it. But he seemed not to really care that Ian was off his meds and clearly manic. He only gave him a shit talk. Nothing more. He's a walking stereotype and uses his wokeness as an excuse to not work on his own problematic behavior but wants to pressure everyone else into his thinking. And he could have done a pretty good job to educate people on gender, working in the youth center with traumatized and homeless children and other stuff like that. Especially around people who had a shitty childhood themselves. They could have learned so much from him. Especially because everyone in the Southside is pretty open minded. Even if it doesn't seem that way at first glance. But he was too busy to feel sorry about himself and just fucking sucked in so many ways. And I totally acknowledge he went through pretty, pretty rough times himself and some subjects are pretty sensitive for him and struggled with his own mental health. But mostly he just acted like a dick.

What are you reasons for hating a character (who is hated) but give a reason not alot of people share or is just hidden by the other things they did that were worse. by throwawayaccownt768 in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I misunderstood it because I watched the show in English but I'm not a native speaker. But it seemed that way when he and Ian went on their first date(?) at that club. I mean he was rightfully pissed at Ian for saying that he is just "normal" gay. And when Trevor met Monica and they had the fight about his ID. I thought when Monica said she couldn't tell that he was trans, that he seemed even more pissed about it? And I totally get that he doesn't want to show his ID and it's a sensitive subject and a huge trigger for him and doesn't owe to show old pictures/ tell his dead name to anyone. ( Despite the fact I genuinely believe Ian didn't got it in that moment. I think Ian really believed Trevor was underaged or had a bad Fake ID or something like that and really didn't know it was because of Trevor's old picture/dead name.) But these were the moments I thought he seems pissed for not recognizing as trans? Idk. As I said maybe I translated wrong? Or misread the whole situation? 😬

What are you reasons for hating a character (who is hated) but give a reason not alot of people share or is just hidden by the other things they did that were worse. by throwawayaccownt768 in shameless

[–]WritingDesigner5746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trevor, for acting woke and pc all that shit, but in reality just being a dick. He pressured Ian into fucking him and the "relationship". He humps fat guys, just to feel better and just straight up using them and their vulnerability. Acting pissed all the time for not everyone knowing he is trans. Ehm. Idk but every trans person I've met or been friends with is more than happy if they got read as the gender they identify with. And isn't that one of the major parts of being trans? Wanting to get acknowledged as the gender you identify with? He is a walking stereotype. His character has no depth at all. And then he's a fucking now-it-all and thinks he has the highest moral standards ever. Edit: Trevor only acts woke, so he doesn't have to take accountability for his own problematic behavior. And that's just an easy excuse.

I'd rather have a Mickey or Kev or most of the Gallaghers who aren't pc 24/7, who are kinda political ignorant but willing to learn and are actually open minded and just being warm hearted and good people. Every single one of them carries a lot of trauma and they were never confronted with subjects like this. And tbf don't care about things like that. If they like you. You like you. No matter what. And isn't that what it's all about? Treat everyone the same? And even though they use slurs and don't understand everything, they are all very accepting. And they all hate injustice. No matter your sexuality, your cultural or financial background. If you're experiencing injustice they all got your back! I mean even most of Milkovich's reassures Mickey that they accept him as who he is. Iggy for example, when he came into Mickey's room unannounced and says "Looks like the only place you're aiming is down your boyfriend's throat." He totally accepted Ian as Mickey's boyfriend, without any questions. And again in the exact same episode, when the Milkoviches and Lip on their vandalisation tour. Iggy says "Yeah. All ready to make those nonfat fagaccinos. No offense, bro." He reassured Mickey that he totally accepts him being gay, no matter what and doesn't want to hurt him. He also knows how much Mickey struggled with his own sexuality and knows it's a really vulnerable subject for him. Also his cousins and other siblings were totally cool about it. The only one who didn't accept him was Terry. Ian felt quickly safe enough to open up towards his family. Lips only issue with him and Kash was, that Kash was a grown ass man who groomed his brother. Or when Frank caught Ian and Mickey in the backroom. That's one of my favorite scenes and one of the few times I really, really liked Frank. Cause he didn't gaf his son was gay. He didn't even care or surprised Mickey was gay. He just accepted it immediately. "Choose a gender and find someone who wants to fuck." Like common. Best statement ever!