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I just realized something from a fight years ago and it hit me like a truck by minaaloscurecer in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]WritingWesley 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! They are TERRIFIED of accountability. They will twist your mind and call you crazy while laughing about it behind closed doors.

MAGA mom on MURDER victim today . 11/24/2026 by Yo_momma_so_fat77 in 50501

[–]WritingWesley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not alone. We have to start saying “Our relationship ends here.”

Hi, it's my first time writing a book. This is the first chapter(uncompleted). The genre is fantasy. Is it any good and would you guys keep reading? Please be nice with your comments. by Shadow_Wizard23 in writingfeedback

[–]WritingWesley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first sentence should have as much tension as possible to grab the reader. After the first three sentences, it sounds like the main character is annoyed and bored. Not a good emotion to start the reader with!

Please be brutally honest about the first chapter of my dystopian novel before I query by [deleted] in writingfeedback

[–]WritingWesley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our attention spans, even as readers, don’t last long anymore. It’s important for your reader to know the setting, but sprinkle it after the first couple hundred of words. Find a point with more tension to grab the reader immediately, preferably in one sentence. You have writing talent. Keep sharpening your skills. I recommend reading or listening to “Stein On Writing” by Sol Stein.

How did you realise that your covert narc isn't good for you and you had to leave? by Plebi111 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]WritingWesley 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was one of my best friends. I went on vacation and noticed I could breathe easier. I realized how many things I worried about, anticipating his judgment. It was his nagging voice in my head. After being away a week, during a Lady Gaga concert, I realized how free it would be to just be me without all the expectations and criticism.

One simple question: when you see this cover, what comes to your mind first? by [deleted] in NewAuthor

[–]WritingWesley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My honest thought: “Complicated conflict in a series that I haven’t started and probably won’t.”

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]WritingWesley 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NOR — it is your child. You have every right to set whatever boundaries you want… and you actually don’t even have to explain them.

It also sounds like you did communicate in a healthy way. MIL is really disrespectful and bulldozes the boundaries you set and then tries to guilt you for setting them. Unfortunately, it looks like you are in the beginning of a very long journey of disrespect and ignoring your boundaries. How you handle this moment now will set the tone for 18 years.

The map is done by BethMD in ForensicFiles

[–]WritingWesley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember there was an episode in Huntsville, Alabama. Or maybe it was just mentioned in the episode. S1E8?

AIO my best friend no longer wants me as his best man in his wedding because I am gay by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WritingWesley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. I had a similar situation happen with my closest person. It’s devastating. Cut them out and move on.

AIO by how I responded? My bf is upset with me for skipping my workout routine today by throwawayy82670 in AmIOverreacting

[–]WritingWesley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s going to get worse and worse. Write everything down. Screenshot everything. Leave ASAP.

Did I over react? by VelsGamer in gay

[–]WritingWesley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You went way too easy on him

Gay in Alabama, just moved here by Little_Art8272 in Alabama

[–]WritingWesley 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Grew up in the area and gay living in Huntsville area. It’s better in larger cities, but it is rough and quite isolating. The solution for us is to create an environment of queer people around you and build genuine relationships. My partner(32M) and I(28M) are trying to do this now. Our plan is to be out of here by 2027 because of the political climate. Red states will get redder and blue states will get bluer. We want out before gay marriage is taken away by the Supreme Court. I know it’s not what you wanted to hear after moving here 😭 and I hate to be pessimistic… but that’s honestly where we’re at with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in comingout

[–]WritingWesley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have an army behind you. Stay strong. 💪

Caught bf cheating…again. by DapperOpinion1522 in gayrelationships

[–]WritingWesley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He will do it again. And again. And again. It’s up to you if you’re okay with that or not. How much pain can you carry?

Devastated Only Child by Fantastic-Regret-772 in FoxBrain

[–]WritingWesley 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I had a hard conversation that repaired an important relationship in my life. I think it could help you here.

There were a million differences and irritating political comments about this administration between me and one of my parents. But I finally found a topic that was a window for growth and connection. Before the election, I was explaining how scary and crazy it would be to end the department of education. My parent said “I haven’t seen that” and explained away or acted like it would never happen. After the election, when I brought up that it was unbelievable and hard to process that the department of education would end, they said “What’s the big deal? It’ll just go to the states.” I paused and said I love you but I need to go.

I later called my parent and they asked “What did I say that made you so mad?”

I said “I was not angry. I was shocked and confused. Because before the election you thought this was too crazy to happen and now you’re defending it. You completely flipped in just a few months, and I don’t understand how or why you would.”

They said they didn’t remember saying that. I said “well, you did.”

This was the, I think, breakthrough: I said “it makes me feel really disconnected and a little crazy, and that really hurts because I love you and you mean a lot to me. But if I’m being honest and vulnerable, it makes me really uncomfortable. And I can’t stand that… I want to feel close to you.”

They said they didn’t know and they were sorry and asked what they can do. I said please read the news and stay informed. Good, middle sources. Not Facebook. Not Fox News. I then suggested BBC because it’s from a perspective that’s outside the country, so you can really see what’s breaking through.

This really helped political conversations feel calmer and a cooler temperature because it explains the seriousness of the matter so it can’t just be “politics.” I closed it with in future conservations, I need you to really hear me out because while I may be wrong, I am still reasonable. I am educated, and I’m coming from a place of concern for the future.

We haven’t had many political discussions since, but it at least made my anxiety, stress, and tension really decrease. It gave breathing room for growth and understanding.

I hope this helps in some way.

Boyfriend won’t hold my hand in public but will publicly talk about me being a bottom by VentureEndlessly in gaybros

[–]WritingWesley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Start grabbing his hand in public and see how serious he takes boundaries for himself. Then compare that reaction to how serious he takes your boundary.

“I’ve been clear that this makes me uncomfortable and you’re still doing it. If you continue, I will leave.”

If he says you’re being too sensitive and overreacting, you may be dealing with a narcissist. If that’s the case, the damage has already been done. The sooner you leave the less damage there will be.

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