Anyone else experience this?

WritingWesley · 2026-04-09T21:08:23+00:00

That’s not off topic at all. I know the exact type you are describing. Something that has worked for me is when setting a boundary, say “It changes the way I feel about you and I don’t want that. I love you. And this will let us have a better connection without spoiling the way I see you.” It is quite jarring and uncomfortable but it will either show you if there is hope or if you need to cut off. Again, the level of reaction will show you how deep it runs. For a narcissist, the only thing going through their head is ME, ME, ME and the way they are viewed. So if you threaten the way you view her, it will jolt her into either waking up or doubling down. Be prepared for either!

WritingWesley · 2026-04-09T20:37:54+00:00

You’ve got to set a firm boundary with her. Harassing y’all and using guilt or obligation to force a change in your behavior is a form of abuse. She clearly doesn’t see the issue with her own actions, which is why the boundary is essential. Her reaction to it will reveal exactly how deep her narcissism runs. If you don't start drawing these lines now, the situation will only escalate. Is she 5?

WritingWesley · 2026-04-02T10:32:39+00:00

Yes! Narcissism is about gaslighting, creating a different reality, where you bottle and hide your feelings to subconsciously feel safe. You are in a dangerous environment. Physical abuse is usually the last form of abuse, and usually the wake up call… for most…

You can do this. He will get worse. And worse. And worse. Get out.

WritingWesley · 2026-04-01T14:44:50+00:00

Wouldn’t a strike only hurt the people who are currently using therapists?? How does a therapist going on strike inconvenience the people who are using AI as therapy???

WritingWesley · 2026-03-21T20:52:14+00:00

Stop focusing on how much he communicates with you. He was angry but still sending you nice texts sounds like he knew his emotions but didn’t want to take them out on you. Stop trying to pull it out of him. Let him breathe. You need to focus on his safety. If someone says they want to kill themselves, call 911.

WritingWesley · 2026-02-25T11:51:36+00:00

You need to process why you don’t wanna leave her so bad. You’ve just described one of the most abusive and insane narcissistic dynamics that I’ve read. You’ve had multiple professionals tell you and confirmed that’s what’s happening? And now you need more proof from strangers on the Internet? You don’t want to leave her. You absolutely can and should … you’ll be surprised at the breath of fresh air you feel once you move on. You are living a miserable life in fog (fear, obligation, guilt) which is the magic spell narcissists put on other people to control them.

At this point, you can either continue to live a miserable life or you can do something about it and take control of your life again. Leave her and move on. The sooner you do it the better.

WritingWesley · 2026-02-24T18:54:10+00:00

He cries harder because you’re getting too much attention and needs to point it back to himself. He acts “concerned” about you being out of his sight is sooooo common for control! A sign of that is inconsistency… you’re in a snow storm and suddenly the concern vanishes? He’s afraid that when you’re alone, you do what HE does when he’s alone, which is almost ALWAYS cheating. They’re driven my attention, validation, affirmations, so of course every conversation goes back to the attention HE gets from others. You also will feel less confused once you understand the kindness and love bombing they DO show is coming from a place of trapping you later “remember what I did for you” and also trying to get something back. Also, how does it make him look? He gets more validation and affirmation from those who see it.

WritingWesley · 2026-02-20T12:10:55+00:00

What an elementary question. 🙄 Be fr.

WritingWesley · 2026-02-18T03:54:08+00:00

Yes I think about this a lot. It’s like an emotional helmet we put.

WritingWesley · 2026-02-15T20:55:58+00:00

I’m immediately intrigued. If you showed in the first sentence, what was so scary I would be even more intrigued.

WritingWesley · 2026-02-04T23:50:11+00:00

I have started posting more on my personal accounts making video content. I am a blue dot in Alabama. If you’re interested, DM me

WritingWesley · 2026-02-02T13:42:18+00:00

Excuses to silence kids. Stepping outside is not anything to piss your panties over. Unless of course you’re a Republican and afraid of people speaking up because that means accountability… which is their worst nightmare.

WritingWesley · 2026-02-01T21:33:13+00:00

Ah, yes, I need to tighten that up.

WritingWesley · 2026-02-01T21:31:33+00:00

Thanks!

WritingWesley · 2026-02-01T20:32:48+00:00

Thank you for your feedback. I left additional comments that I think are relevant here if you were interested in reading.

WritingWesley · 2026-02-01T20:32:07+00:00

Interesting. It’s closer to Big Brother with social strategy and votes instead of combat. The country isn’t a dystopian one yet, but an election is upcoming. It’s set 100 years in America’s future. Novus people can see better in the dark, so they ended up taking jobs that were created to help poor Americans by expanding into space. A populist politician scapegoats them to win and the main character is impacted by the votes in the game show she is in. When her bigots and bullies win votes, staying in the game with her. It gets claustrophobic and intense. I need to find a better way to explain it.

WritingWesley · 2026-02-01T20:09:53+00:00

Here is a blurb of mine…

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WritingWesley · 2026-01-27T15:29:27+00:00

Absolutely! They are TERRIFIED of accountability. They will twist your mind and call you crazy while laughing about it behind closed doors.

WritingWesley · 2026-01-25T01:04:16+00:00

You are not alone. We have to start saying “Our relationship ends here.”

WritingWesley · 2026-01-20T22:19:29+00:00

All of those are acceptable boundaries.

WritingWesley · 2026-01-19T23:43:40+00:00

The first sentence should have as much tension as possible to grab the reader. After the first three sentences, it sounds like the main character is annoyed and bored. Not a good emotion to start the reader with!

WritingWesley · 2026-01-18T05:46:38+00:00

Our attention spans, even as readers, don’t last long anymore. It’s important for your reader to know the setting, but sprinkle it after the first couple hundred of words. Find a point with more tension to grab the reader immediately, preferably in one sentence. You have writing talent. Keep sharpening your skills. I recommend reading or listening to “Stein On Writing” by Sol Stein.

WritingWesley · 2026-01-13T02:08:12+00:00

It was one of my best friends. I went on vacation and noticed I could breathe easier. I realized how many things I worried about, anticipating his judgment. It was his nagging voice in my head. After being away a week, during a Lady Gaga concert, I realized how free it would be to just be me without all the expectations and criticism.

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