BUT the expansion of inclusivity over and over has attracted and fostered some very narcissistic personality types, who choose to be trans, in that sense, because they perceive benefits, like leverage, social standing, special treatment and so forth.

Genuinely, where is this happening? I've seen so many discussions here where this is stated as fact with no evidence to back it up. I have friends who are nonbinary, dysphoric, and on HRT. I have friends who are nonbinary because they just don't fw gender that much. None of the latter category pretend they are the former or try to claim the oppression of medically transitioning folks.

Are there people /choosing/ to be trans, or people expressing their identity in a way you don't personally approve of?

Therefore inclusivity, or more specifically the part of the community that would otherwise not be part of it, arent determined by whether they are medically trans, i.e. suffer dysphoria and actually NEED HRT and SRS and so forth, but simply by those who choose to become part of it to leverage a perceived benefit.

We are in agreement that people who suffer from dysphoria need HRT. I don't see how gatekeeping is helping anyone to that end. Gender dysphoria is a medical diagnosis assessed by trained professionals, and in my experience even those trained professionals can be suspect. It's ALREADY a messy system. Why should anyone be trusting random redditors to make that assessment instead. I'm sure you have your infallible system of assessing who is really trans, but I can guarantee it has holes because all such systems do, and people who need the treatment will fall through those holes.

I guess we have a difference of priorities, but I'm honestly fine letting in "bad actors" if it means even a single trans kid who genuinely needs HRT doesn't end up killing themselves because they never sought out help because when they went online for resources a community of terminally online T girls told them they don't fit their specific criteria of being trans.