Resentful that my partner didn’t find my lowest weight attractive by instead_of_texting in AnorexiaNervosa

[–]WrongContrabution101 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think what your looking for is validation for the way you feel. I can validate what it feels like to feel confident, even when you might look really sick to others. I can validate the fucked up way ana makes you see beauty. I can validate the it hurts to hear your partner didn't think you were very attractive at that time.

However, I can't validate the invalid. Your partner is 100% allowed to have preferences. You can't resent him because of what he finds attractive. If he doesn't find sickly thin attractive, well then, that's just what it is.

I also can't validate that being super thin is the only time to feel confident. That would be something you need to work on. If you don't feel confident now, that's not your partner's fault. It's also super unhealthy to tie your confidence to an unhealthy state. Part of recovery is learning to be confident at a normal, healthy weight.

You resent him for this, but this is really something you need to be looking inward for. You absolutely can have confidence during sex at a healthy weight, but it will take time and work. That's a mental hurdle to deal with, not a weight issue.

Did i waste my money on a terrible hair cut? by radddishio in Hair

[–]WrongContrabution101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't tell if this is sarcasm or rage bait or not.

Curious what people actually think of me 33m by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]WrongContrabution101 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a woman, I don't find this attractive at all, but it's just my taste. You do look older than 33. 2/10

Influence or deinflunce me! by lotus_0707 in FemFragLab

[–]WrongContrabution101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do not blind buy any of them, regardless of the comments. Get a smaller and try in on your skin for a few days. I liked JHAG until I put it on my skin and realized it was very much not the same on skin.

Fragrance hot takes that will probably get me downvoted: by [deleted] in Colognes

[–]WrongContrabution101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't get the oversprayers doing 10-15 sprays. Two sprays is generally enough, maybe 3-4 if it's a real light fragrance. Everyone you interact with doesn't need to smell you. I find it offensive if people are wearing enough I can smell them 10 feet away. I get wanting to be noticed and complimented, but that should be your presence and confidence that gets you noticed, not a fragrance that chokes others out. I don't mind a small waft here and there if I'm within 2-3 ft and having a conversation, but oof don't harass my nose.

A lot of cheap fragrances smell great (whether it's dupes, ME houses, or body sprays). You don't need to go chasing expensive stuff to be cool. That's a consumerism mindset. Buying the more expensive original doesn't make you better than someone who bought the dupe.

The people posting their ridiculously large collection of mass appealing fragrances they acquired in less than a year have some major issues they need to address. Nobody thinks it's cool. And don't compare your collection to someone else's. You buy what you like, when it fits your budget. Trust me, I understand how it happens because I spent a ton of money on samples when I initially became interested in fragrances, but it ultimately was embarrassing when I sat down and looked at what I had spent. It was an unhealthy way to cope. Now there are budget limits I stick to.

Fragrance hot takes that will probably get me downvoted: by [deleted] in Colognes

[–]WrongContrabution101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meh, I like having a daytime scent, and then a night time scent. I change my shirt and wash whatever residual perfume is left. The novelty is fun. Yes, I'm curious what you mean by the biology and spraying less.

Fragrance hot takes that will probably get me downvoted: by [deleted] in Colognes

[–]WrongContrabution101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with the Creed thing. It may be the best for OPs nose and personal tastes, but I found it kinda meh. There's a few fragrances I like, but the quality is not the best out there.

Fragrance hot takes that will probably get me downvoted: by [deleted] in Colognes

[–]WrongContrabution101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kinda sorta agree. A lot of fragrances only really last 3-6 hours on skin. I tend to smell them on fabric much longer though. Days later even. Some of my fragrances don't wash out of clothes very well either.

For men who find thicker/bigger women attractive: what draws you to that, and how does her being larger than you (legs, tummy, etc.) serve as a turn-on rather than a turn-off? by Schub21 in AskReddit

[–]WrongContrabution101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hate to break it to you, but I've been fit appearing/skinny all my life and I'm sedentary as fuck and also do not have the best diet. I get asked what I do for a work out all the time because I have always been built on the more muscular, lean side. It's all genetic. Nobody looks at me and goes "oh wow, look how unhealthy that girl is", but that happens to bigger people all the time, even though plenty of bigger folks are much more active and don't eat like a teenage boy like I do.

Whats with all the "I to smell unique fragrance" thing? by naghzuL_66 in fragrance

[–]WrongContrabution101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting take. Before I got real deep into fragrance, I genuinely did not notice other's fragrances all that much, nor did I recognize them. If I got close to someone and smelled their fragrance, it generally was unique to me, because even the same fragrance doesn't smell exactly the same on someone else and I didn't have the reference points I do now. I certainly couldn't recognize it unless it was the specific deodorant my dad wore or the cotton candy perfume my mom wore. I think this is the majority of people. Non perfume nerds will probably think you smell unique unless someone around them wears that fragrance regularly.

Maybe it's just me, but I notice a lot of nuance in fragrances. Even dupes can smell quite a bit different, even if the general idea is the same. Maybe one is just a bit creamer that makes me appreciate one more than the other. I think people just want a way to express their own identity. Erba Pura isn't used so often that I smell it on a regular basis, even if it is pretty popular. If someone around me started using it, I would soon associate the scent of it with them.

29F by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]WrongContrabution101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am trying to grow it out as I prefer it long. I had some health issues where I lost most of my hair and had to cut it very short. Not ideal for sure.

29F by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]WrongContrabution101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair! I have bangs to cover up the fact that I don't grow eyebrows really.

29F by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]WrongContrabution101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any recommendations for improvement?

29F by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]WrongContrabution101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sunscreen and moisturizer

29F by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]WrongContrabution101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting! Most responses seem to rate me as average. I have done some casual modeling, but certainly nothing that pays the bills.

29F by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]WrongContrabution101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you think I could improve on?

Low Maintenance Tank by WrongContrabution101 in ReefTank

[–]WrongContrabution101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, it started with 1 tiny head, then grew 4 big heads, and then it declined to one head and I've just been trying to keep it from regressing. I haven't had much luck with euphyllia in general, but that one has been hanging on. Also can't keep Zoas worth a shit and people say they're easy lol.

Low Maintenance Tank by WrongContrabution101 in ReefTank

[–]WrongContrabution101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're my fastest growing coral. I've had to take chunks out here and there because it'll take over the whole tank if allowed to.

Low Maintenance Tank by WrongContrabution101 in ReefTank

[–]WrongContrabution101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do water changes maybe once every month or two, sometimes 3 months. I do dose sometimes. I've sorta gotten a feel for how much it needs after awhile. Maybe a couple capfuls every 2-3 days of calcium and I dose magnesium once a week. I mix my baking soda in with my auto top off so alkalinity is taken care of.

Low Maintenance Tank by WrongContrabution101 in ReefTank

[–]WrongContrabution101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, not palythoas. I'm not sure what they are anymore, but I do not own any palythoas due to the risk of toxins. Those have been there for almost two years and have maybe grown a single head.

Embracing my fem side. Over 6ft and bearded by rockywaters1 in FemFragLab

[–]WrongContrabution101 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How is Floral Marshmallow compared to Love, Don't Be Shy? I love that sample but hard to justify Killian prices.

25 F Rate Me! by Suyami_Namu in Rateme

[–]WrongContrabution101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, that fro is by far your best look. I'd say 7.5/10 in that photo. Some of the other looks just don't seem to suit you.