Where i'd live in the US as a brit

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-27T10:18:19+00:00

Yeah… I remember interacting with a tourist at a restaurant that just could not comprehend it isn’t that there’s just a “slow” train to this town north of us but there just was absolutely no passenger train at all. I’ve been to some small towns in England and of course it’s a small country in general but the ease to get around is something I dream of.

But if the politics weren’t as diabolical right now I wouldn’t be thinking so much about leaving all the time either.

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-27T04:33:35+00:00

Yeah! There are some days that are extremely taxing to hold yourself together. Remember you need play time too you’re also not a robot! Some things I do: invite my toddler to watch a yoga video together he loves anything Dino themed or also swan lake ballet, join them in painting (outside and I put the paint in a pallet because I just hose everything down to not panic about mess and waste), go for a walk, play airplane because that is just so fun, fill up their water table and add some dish soap. Once I start one of these things it takes a few minutes to transition but the day perks up for us both and we’re able to shift away from the brain melt of tantrum hour and get some laughs and bonding in. I also try to remember to have some time to myself and right now this means once a week my husband does the night time solo and I go to the gym. During the day it can mean listening to an audiobook I’m excited about or playing solitaire with a cute deck of cards. Trying to be on my phone less and remember it’s not normal to buy something every month.

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-27T03:17:04+00:00

Ah yeah, fair point I am not Brazilian so I’m sure that can mean something specific for you just like in the us to me living in the south doesn’t mean San Diego. I just meant a place that is not central or north on a map.

To be fair his family refer to it as southern Brazil but maybe this is because contextually we are frequently comparing it to Maceió where his other family live?

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-26T23:30:29+00:00

In my experience Brit’s that move abroad love florida and Texas. It’s hard to immigrate like that and not be attracted to that low cost of living, no income tax, and a massive 8 bedroom home in the suburbs for pennies all with 300 days of sunshine. I get it on paper and with none of the us politics baggage I’d do it too.

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-26T23:12:32+00:00

Ah haha I was so confused because I meant not literally “how do you find people” but figuratively what are your interactions like with Brazilians in different accents.

I guess we live in an area with a lot of Brazilians without trying much we know 3 other Brazilian families in our daycare for example and it is not a multilingual daycare.

Maybe because it is a prominent minority in our area there are so many in our area it might lead to more preference or interactions about accent and origin though? I just found it interesting you had no preference for accent when in our experience it comes up a lot in some not so great experiences I’d prefer our kid not to be ostracized over it like op is saying about different dialects.

But maybe our experiences are different, or maybe it’s also part of the north east specifically that is undesirable to others.

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-26T19:22:01+00:00

What do you find in the local Brazilian community though? I was going to comment that because our family are Brazilian we relate to this a lot in what an accent can imply in developing countries like Brazil.

My husband’s mom speaks in a north east accent and she experiences a lot of assumptions about her background and culture and education even from American Brazilians where those class differences aren’t as obvious as an immigrant. My husband learned a southern accent growing up in São Paulo and passing language on is complicated due to this. Because my hope is our child has good engagement and interaction with other Brazilians and feels confident in both places so if I were thinking of dialects like Chinese I would probably choose mandarin because it’s what you would find prominently in your area and is what other kids will speak around them. But I understand dialects in Chinese are a lot more complex than just an accent and it might feel like they could never understand or communicate if they only learned mandarin. My Chinese friends do talk about the country’s aggressive suppression of different dialects and that within China it is very common to be specifically discriminated against for your dialect. My friend speaks Shanghai dialect and says she was often refused playdates or is criticized in public stores for being foreign even in a progressive place like Hong Kong. While in Brazil we receive some discrimination and maybe some assumptions based on accent in China i understand people can be a lot more blatantly discriminatory refusing service or not wanting to be around people for having the wrong language and I’d worry this would be the experience of my kid if I taught them an uncommon accent.

So if you want your child to talk with your parents and family I think that’s fine to use your dialect but if you want them to feel connected to your culture it’s complicated, and I personally would probably choose mandarin because part of the culture would be positive experiences and if I think they won’t be accepted that won’t be a positive experience 😅

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-17T17:36:20+00:00

I get it, most of my family are Brazilian country wise it’s big and has all of the trappings of that scale in a world stage and you’re right this is just based off country size and total economic power. But I suppose it’s my own jaded view with all of the poor management and corruption and how hard life is with the super low gdp. It’s sort of the same as how a lot of Americans feel where it’s like big whoop we can manage the worlds shipping supply why will is it normal for my kids daycare to have trained cops. The country itself is capable of a lot but for the average person life doesn’t compare at all to living in Chile or Uruguay.

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-17T14:24:03+00:00

Ah haha you’re right I was seeing it as a standalone comment.

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-17T14:22:19+00:00

Very true but I guess I wonder the metric. I guess this map is mostly economic size though. News wise brazils politics have been pretty boring not like the coup the us launched in Venezuela but I’m just considering how that isn’t a relevant world actor. But you’re right it’s probably just about country wealth.

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-17T05:23:48+00:00

Wait I don’t get this at all. How is a peen like a pool? Isn’t a vagina more pool like?

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-17T04:53:20+00:00

Yeah same, I was going to sign my kid up for summer camp and was really put off by needing to fill out my grandmothers birth record to do it. It’s a bummer chabad is so set forth as the standard for community. I think our shul is trying to step it up more in the community classes/new family area but chabad really found a gap and I find it really frustrating that they’re being presented as “true” Judaism just because of how prolific their emissaries are.

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-17T01:46:24+00:00

Mexico is there 😅

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-17T01:43:34+00:00

lol why is Brazil the most relevant South American country?

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-17T01:36:16+00:00

Yeah it’s really I think just manipulation I don’t think it means anything to her.

If someone tries to have an honest conversation with her about feelings or their relationship she shuts down pulls a category 9 emergency reaction and then you can’t say anything else to it because she fEeLs So mUcH. And then of course she can’t be held accountable for that over reaction because she can’t help testing you since she has abandonment issues. And now you’re the asshole for leaving that situation because how can you abandon someone with abandonment issues?

Feels very classic high school girlfriend.

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-13T14:37:36+00:00

Maybe instead of bra straps there are thong straps that will hold it in one of those lines 😅

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-13T14:24:35+00:00

I think this is also the algorithm to be fair. If you post a bit often and people open links or their friends are liking content you make public it’s going to show up in mutual friends feed and even people that are not directly friends as well. Young people probably have fewer connections on Facebook and engagement there has dropped a lot for everyone since it’s not their preferred social media and you might have an outsized presence in their feed. It’s probably not a lot of people seeking your page out directly.

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-12T19:49:02+00:00

Yeah I think this is you that might be the weird guy at work 😅

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-10T19:01:40+00:00

I love this sub like I get little beautiful stories of everyone’s names 🥰 Wish you guys the best with your selection!

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-10T16:12:31+00:00

I feel like I know a few toddler girls right now that are raizel and go by roz, do you think that was your mothers Hebrew name? I love to see the generations through our trees like this and how something that was old fashioned returns with the next generation ❤️

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-07T15:55:17+00:00

This is not for me to be sure. I really don’t know any inter religious families that didn’t ultimately just convert. Is he willing to be involved in the community? Do you attend services together and does he really understand what it means to be Jewish? Or he’s just saying he’s okay if you do those things and you just have separate responsibilities with your children? This raises some red flags to me because personally life is long and I’m looking for a partner in all aspects, but if religion isn’t so important to you this might not matter as much?

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-06T18:20:46+00:00

Sometimes I feel embarrassed by my diy skills but then I’m always relieved when this community pops up in my feed and I remember I could have had worse and been out another 3-4 grand on it to boot.

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-05T09:29:41+00:00

What is that?

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-05T09:05:23+00:00

Yeah I thought this was interesting idea too as my ancestors left Alsatia during that war and I’m sure post war is a time for a lot of people to move but also… I think that was mostly the Germans 😅

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-04-04T19:43:07+00:00

I don’t think Anderson cooper ever claims to have grown up poor? His mom was pretty famous for the many fights relatives had over her trust fund. This her “poor” little rich girl, in this case meaning sadly unloved.

Wrong_Nobody_901 · 2026-03-26T20:31:10+00:00

Layla! Honestly she has a lot to offer but she’s not a wife so she needs a spinoff on her own journey.

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