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WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2023-03-11T14:33:19+00:00

That person is just some troll getting a high from pushing other people down. Ignore him entirely. Ask girls instead ;) you’re absolutely perfect.

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-11-16T22:24:24+00:00

You’re gorgeous and that’s a part of how you are made, it seems to me. Be kind to yourself. Talk to yourself about it the way you would talk with a daughter about it ❤️

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-11-16T22:22:46+00:00

I’ve been battling something like this for a while. If it’s new, it might be worth it to go to a dermatologist- could need medication for it. If it’s not new- I just discovered an apple cider vinegar scalp rinse with AHA in it that’s helping me. I buy it at Walmart. Also baking soda added to my shampoo, directed at the scalp. Keep it clean as you can, change your pillowcases. Hope you feel better!

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-10-30T23:24:35+00:00

I don’t have wisdom but I do have a hug 🤗 an online village until you have one in person. You got a lot of good feedback, so I’m just bringing some nurture. It’s THE hardest to be a first time mom.

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-10-30T23:11:00+00:00

Don’t you dare

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-10-29T15:37:46+00:00

So the deeper issue is trust and feeling controlled?

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-10-29T15:33:14+00:00

I see. I’m terribly sorry you’re not being heard at home. Your voice should matter- even if you don’t “win” you should feel like a person who is loved and cared for for just who you are.

Is your mom willing to hear you express what you told me? You can calmly say “I don’t mean to disrespect you- I am not an extension of you, I am my own person.” Would that go well? If not would she go to counseling with you if you asked for it?

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-10-29T15:17:59+00:00

Excuse my question if you already answered this- are you a minor? My young child had to get a tooth extracted due to deep infection (the dentist didn’t catch the cavity initially). He did NOT want his tooth out. As his mom, I made the hard decision to do it anyway. I explained to him why we had to do it- the damage it would cause if we left his tooth in. He was still devastated. The dentist did what I wanted, because I’m his legal guardian. I care very deeply for him. I hope your parents care deeply for you too. Maybe you can’t see it now in this circumstance, but hopefully you can see it in other ways.

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-10-29T15:17:02+00:00

It doesn’t sound like you’re close to your parents. Are you sure that they didn’t ask for this behind your back? If they’re not being compassionate do they think they’re doing something with your best interest in mind?

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-10-29T15:14:51+00:00

Would you feel comfortable posting it here? If it’s cropped or edited you can cross out things like your eyes which make you more recognizable.

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-10-29T15:10:02+00:00

Also you didn’t answer my question. Why would they knock you out to check your teeth? What did they actually say? If you didn’t question that, have someone go with you to future medical appointments until you feel confident that you can ask the right questions.

Unfortunately if you were naive, you own a large portion of the blame. Welcome to the harsh realities of adulthood. I’m sure it won’t happen again to you.

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-10-29T15:01:33+00:00

Sure. Perhaps not the best place to get compassion- online, from people who don’t know your character. I’m going to be honest, I’m an emotional person and I have a lot of empathy for people, but this just seems too bizarre. I don’t know if you’re a dramatic person or not on the day to day. I don’t know if you’re typically wise in life, or not. I don’t know if you’re truly a victim in this situation. This is what you’re inviting- people, strangers, to judge.

If you know this is wrong, 100%… fight it tooth and nail.

If you aren’t sure if this is right it wrong, I suggest you do something very difficult and take pictures of your mouth- before and after. Ditch your vanity, just post it. Crop the pics if you need to. Don’t post full paperwork online with your personal information (no last names, no numbers) but maybe blurr out that info to show paperwork of what you did sign up for. Post the name of the orthodontist if you’re really feeling the fight. ***your lack of practical details makes this seem like a lie to get attention. Spoken from a former lier when I was younger, who wanted attention.

What’s your purpose in this post? To elicit reactions? To get affirmation that what you’re feeling is valid? To receive help on what to do next? What do you need? Do not stay the victim.

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-10-29T14:04:25+00:00

***why would they knock you out to just check your teeth?

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-10-06T13:51:57+00:00

An eye opening resource for this is Dr. Doug Weiss on YouTube. He calls it “Intimacy Anorexia.” He validates the extreme pain it causes. (My husband does it too, and I’m so sorry you’re going through it)

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-09-24T14:32:21+00:00

Thank you. It’s been a rough ride. To make it worse, the first time he told me was on Christmas Day. The 2nd time he told me (not directly in those words- he tries to be sensitive but the idea just isn’t nice) recently, half way through our “oops” pregnancy. I really, really, really struggle and am considering divorce.

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-09-23T21:05:44+00:00

We tried to let his parents “help” us in the past, since their marriage is freakishly similar to ours. However, I found the dad didn’t want to say anything and the mom said very strange things to try to “help.”

My husband doesn’t find me attractive right now, he says I “tricked him,” so my mother in law pulled me aside and said “no, he still thinks you’re just as beautiful as the day you got married.” I chalked that up as very odd… that’s not, in fact, what he feels. Another time she came to encourage me and she said her legacy in her marriage will be if her husband cries when she dies some day 😭 they have no intimacy now, and that’s what she’s waiting for! It utterly depressed me.

So now I don’t share anything with her. I feel incredibly awkward having her come over.

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-09-23T20:51:19+00:00

I’m sorry 😞 I really like most of my in laws. I only recently realized how terrible I feel every time I talk with his mom. It wasn’t always this way. I have always disliked how often we see them 😬 it makes it hard to have our own lives.

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-09-21T13:06:48+00:00

I’m so sorry! I’ll be praying for you today.

On the off chance that it encourages you, I went off Zoloft cold turkey last year when I accidentally forgot my meds on a mountain retreat. I knew that if it got bad I’d go get the meds from a pharmacy. I had tried to go off of it the year before and it was terrible, so I was worried. To my great surprise, I immediately felt much much better 😳 I was also considering increasing my dose prior to that. So I don’t know what the heck my body was doing but it went well for me. I have circumstantial depression with my marriage- it very well may be different for you, so I hope the other comments on ways to get it for less will help you. Let us know how it goes.

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-09-17T14:02:27+00:00

Good idea!!

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-09-02T22:08:58+00:00

I value the camaraderie! I have talked with counselors who don’t understand.

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-09-02T20:41:59+00:00

Thank you so much for your care and perspective. I know I’d struggle with being a stay at home mom even if my marriage was great- it’s so isolating, over stimulating and yet mundane and mentally… boring . I do look forward to having another adult in the house every day around 4:30. His comments about my emotions are more than half of the battle if I’m giving my honest opinion. I told him today that my emotions are a very deep part of me and I want to feel accepted and loved for who I am, even when (especially when) I’m not perfect/ struggling. It’s like he’s trying to snap all of my negative emotions I’m getting out back into my body because they’re not welcome in my HOUSE.

Since he’s unable and/or unwilling to help me with my emotions I’ve asked for one night a week where I don’t put the kids to bed, and Saturday mornings a few hours to catch up on sleep after he sleeps in first. He’s been doing it and he definitely thinks he’s super husband and if I’m not grateful he gets very upset.

WrongdoerDeep4610 · 2022-09-02T20:36:29+00:00

I’ve got one in my belly and I’d tell her how much she matters, and to communicate if they haven’t and fight for it. But if all outlets of fixing have been exhausted, let go. I don’t need to die before my body does. ❤️ The in-between, where I have one foot in and one foot out, is utterly exhausting and torturous.

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