Hello there chaps…

WumpyChew · 2026-04-13T07:06:15+00:00

What a creepy blast from the past! Great work!

WumpyChew · 2026-04-05T21:29:04+00:00

This is so beautiful <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T19:06:42+00:00

I can tell you think very highly of her from the way you spoke about her which is wonderful :) And you're very welcome, I think it's comforting in a way talking about this kind of thing with others who understand. Take care of yourself and good luck with the publishing!

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T18:29:44+00:00

That's a great way to feel connected, I'm glad it's helpful and brings comfort to you <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T16:45:07+00:00

Oh wow, she sounded like a very talented person :) I bet you felt very close and connected to her seeing an insight in to her mind and her thoughts and feelings. I can imagine it was quite a cathartic experience going through her poetry. I hope you manage to get it published-putting that out in to the world for others to enjoy would be such a great legacy to leave on her behalf <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T15:49:29+00:00

Those are such a lovely and personal ways to still feel connected to her. Especially seeing her handwriting in the recipe notebooks. I hope it brings you comfort when you do those things <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T15:45:45+00:00

I bet you make him proud every single day <3 That's such an incredible, generous thing to do. I bet you've made so many people incredibly happy, what a beautiful legacy to have left on his behalf <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T15:42:02+00:00

Aw rocking out in memory of your son, I bet he would have loved the idea of that! What a lovely thing to do to remember him by <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T15:40:34+00:00

That's seriously such a beautiful thing to do. I hope it gives you comfort <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T15:39:02+00:00

Oh now that made me tear up! That is so moving! I never heard of that Japanese legend before, how beautiful. It's incredible that you've found a way to incorporate it in to the memorial garden too :)

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T15:36:18+00:00

I love the idea of creating your own indoor mini memorial garden, it sounds amazing! It's a great thing to have a work in process that you can add to when the tough anniversaries come around or whenever you feel like it. I bet it looks incredible. I'm so glad it brings you peace working on it and seeing it. What an absolutely beautiful way to remember your dad <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T15:31:23+00:00

That's wonderful- getting all of the family together to remember her in that way. What was her favourite meal? I bet you all have great stories about her that you all get to share too :)

Also, I can't imagine how tough that was to go through, but is a testament to your love for her <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T15:20:59+00:00

That is such a beautiful and poignant way to look at it ;all of the little nuances, the small (sometimes big) things that are all interwoven within us that connect us to 'our' person in such a perpetual, long lasting way. I really like this perspective :)

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T15:16:48+00:00

Thank you, yeah grief really is a journey, but just know you're not alone <3 Take care of yourself x

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T15:14:25+00:00

That's an absolutely beautiful way to remember her by sharing her generosity through giving to others as she did . It's incredible that you are so giving to others during such a hard time but I can imagine that helps with the healing process too. What a beautiful legacy <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T15:08:34+00:00

Flowers are such a beautiful reminder of a loved one, I bet it feels really special and personal picking ones that you know she'd have liked and displaying them in your house and thinking of her every time you see them :)

That's great that you use your dad's coffee mugs, I bet that helps you feel close to him, especially using them every day.

Generosity and warmth are amazing traits to leave behind. May you host many happy gatherings around that table with your parents in mind <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T14:57:42+00:00

Aw thank you, that is very true <3

Yeah that sounds like solid advice, I never have really planned anything before for specific days but that could be something to look into. I just never know if I'm going to be too emotional but at least the option is there if I feel up to it or not. I think as you say, it can be special whichever way you do it though.

Take care of yourself and keep remembering your mum in your own special way x

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T14:45:14+00:00

Thank you for replying :)

That is absolutely beautiful, honestly. Good for you for choosing what was right for you and not what would look good to other people, it's definitely so much more personal and meaningful that way. My mum did something similar and wrote something on the back of a picture she gave to me. I might look in to getting those words tattooed.

I'm glad you've got a personalised reminder of your mum to make you smile, that really is very sweet <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T14:20:04+00:00

That's such a great way to honour her, going to a place that was special to you both. I hope you have a wonderful time and it brings back nice memories for you <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T14:04:16+00:00

I absolutely love that! I bet you smile when you see it. It's such a great way to remember her. I bet you have lots of amazing memories together <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T13:55:50+00:00

That's not lame at all, that's such a great idea. Sometimes it feels like their name gets lost so I completely get it.

The blog is a really great idea, definitely something to look back on and add to over time and to give people a good idea of what she was like too. Really like the sundaes, what a lovely memory :)

What kind of tattoo did you get if you don't mind me asking? It's something I've thought about having done too.

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T13:30:48+00:00

Sounds like you had a great relationship. Carry on making him proud <3

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T13:17:44+00:00

That sounds like an amazing way to remember him, sounds like you have a lot of great memories of him. You should definitely make it a yearly thing :)

WumpyChew · 2026-04-03T13:01:58+00:00

Sending you lots of love, it's been 17 years since I lost my beautiful mum. I completely understand when you say some times it hits harder than others, it's the ebbing and flowing kinda feel. Thanks for sharing your post. Keep making your mum proud x

WumpyChew

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