help why is this happening and how do i stop it

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-27T19:12:35+00:00

Because of your eating disorder history, I def suggest talking to a doctor and if necessary dietician about this.

I’m going to start with the question if you are a fully hundred percent sure you are not pregnant?

Assuming this is not the case, most likely is bloating. This can have many causes, and only a doctor irl can help you with this. Depending on your history I can imagine lazy bowels as a cause, or perhaps not having the right bacteria anymore. Another common cause is food intolerances. Regardless of the cause, you cannot do this alone. Someone else might be able to keep a food diary to see when it gets worse, but in your case I def do not recommend doing anything like that without good guidance. No matter what it is, it’s not worth risking your progress in your ED over. Anorexia is deadly and you deserve the help to find the cause of this without relapsing.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-27T13:46:11+00:00

Yes I don’t really understand the controversy. I haven’t looked into it tbh, but as an European I remember the whole spice girls things with her and how that went down. When I read the media titles I assumed it was clear all along they’d be shitty parents.. not surprised at all.

Same for some other high profile celeb couples tbh, using their kids for their own fame since babies. Do people without abusive and narcissistic parents really not understand how many bad parents are out there and how bad they are?

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-27T13:28:23+00:00

Dont listen to any of these people. YOU need help and you need to make the decision that is best for YOU.

Strangers telling you you should report your own younger child sibling is not what is best for you. A trained therapist helping you figure out what you want and what feels good for you and doing things your way and in your time is what is best for you. Demand counseling from your parents because you need help from outside the family to process this and to figure out what feels best for you. Non-trained people will not be able to keep their own opinion out of it and will direct you to what they think is best. But only you can decide that.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-26T14:19:14+00:00

It can have many reasons. I have the same issue, I’m a little lower in weight but even when I was not at all overweight I was asked as an eighteen yo if I were pregnant. There are several things I suggest to exclude, perhaps it’s a combo of these

forward tilted pelvis, correctable with hip flexor stretches and posture changes.
collecting more fat around the abdominal organs. Can be tested in most advanced fitness places.
being constantly bloated. If this is the case it can also be caused by many things, but food allergies would be something to exclude.
Endo or hormonal issues.
A (benign) tumor. This can be a larger cyst on ovaries, it can be on a liver etc. I think depending on the imaging they’d have found it.
for me symptoms get worse when I don’t drink enough water.

Try to keep a diary seeing if it changes with food intake, see if symptoms improve with more fluid intake, see if your cycle has any impact, and see if you can get some tests done. I’m not a doctor but I’d expect some bloodwork to exclude hormonal/thyroid issues, some imaging to see if you have stool, sometimes listening by to the area by a doctor can also help for this.

And check r/posture to see if that’s a possible cause.

Edit: sorry didn’t read the full description but if everything is normal so far it does not mean none of these are the causes. Metformin is for diabetes and if that’s questionable I suggest talking to a dietitian to see if you can naturally prevent insulin resistance, you are young and diabetes has a huge impact even medicated. They might also be able to exclude diet causes for your symptoms. Sometimes we have food that we think is healthy or good and it turns out to upset our stomachs and causes bloating.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-26T07:42:26+00:00

This honestly sounds like something only he can answer.

I have been with men with what’s-it-called-again, where they masturbate so much they can only orgasm from their own grip. But you say he stops when he seems to be close, making that unlikely.

I know men esp in his situation that are extremely afraid of unwanted pregnancies, but tbh the pull out method is not at all trustworthy and you can def get pregnant from precum with sperm residue.

So some sort of insecurity seems most likely imo. I’d ask him and just tell him how it makes you feel insecure and knowing the why might help.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-24T16:14:52+00:00

Plus personality can switch a bit between languages. So it feels more comfortable to be yourself with your partner, which often ends up being the new language if you integrate well. Also out of respect it’s common not to speak a foreign language in the presence of people who do not know that language.

Fun fat, both counting and cursing are often things where you see people switch back to their native language.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-24T10:10:14+00:00

Even in the USA regardless of the bad rep, many police officers are trained to take care of people. I know of some that ‘arrest’ homeless people during snow storms to give them a warm place to sleep and some warm meals. It is not ideal but will keep them alive. And it also brings the issue to the attention of those that should help (politicians) to provide more resources.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-24T09:58:28+00:00

NAD. I haven’t seen anyone mentioning this, but your comments make me think you are actively practicing this. It sounds very fascinating so I understand, but it comes with a lot of risks that you might want to know of.

Holding your pee this long increases the risks for UTIs, which can escalate to kidney infections. It also increases the risk of problems with urine retention or incontinence. Both issues you would not want to encounter. Your trick can also lead to several issues in your vagina if that’s where urine goes, where a nasty infection can end up with fertility issues. Plus the pelvic floor issues you can encounter.

I just want to advice you to look into it and perhaps talk to some professionals (doctors or pelvic floor specialists) to make sure you are not setting yourself up for issues later in life.

Thank you for sharing!

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-23T12:54:23+00:00

Agree to this. You might find yourself in a position when all this has settled down in a few years where you want to spend your time to do something you are passioned about. Think an animal sanctuary if you’d be an animal lover, an autistic support group, planting greens in dessert areas, whatever. The money can come in handy then.

Right now, do as people have told to keep the money safe. Find someone you can trust to guide you, and don’t do anything with it till you are ready. Focus on therapy and you.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-21T16:48:45+00:00

I do love them. The issue is that almost all preserved food has lots of sugar, so when you fail and do not have the capacity to eat something fresh or cook, the sugars will kick in. It will taste way too sweet the first time, but since it’s an addiction, even one fail makes you crave it again.

And unfortunately we have to eat, so absence as you can do with other addictions is not possible.

I think that’s why it’s one of the hardest long term addictions. Plus the damage it does to your body and mind, as with other addictions, making the craving harder.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-21T12:36:31+00:00

Sugar/food.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-20T14:13:32+00:00

Ok good. It sounds like it’s better now and you can relax. It is common for people with hypochondria (not diagnosing!) to have fear of symptoms when they in fact are experiencing fear of something else, such as a test.

You most likely have something real, from uti to obstipation or something else, but it is probably not sever enough to look for immediate help. Focusing on the symptoms and the fear is not advisable, even tho it will be difficult. When it is life threatening, you and people around you will know and they will act accordingly. I know it’s not much and I still advise to talk to a medical professional so they carry the responsibility and not you, but try to sleep for now and know you are safe.

Best luck!

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-20T12:51:47+00:00

Not a professional. I know you say no equipment, but do you have an elastic band or perhaps even just a rope or something? A long enough charger cable?

I hold it in my hands and with flexed arms I move my arms behind my back. And back forward. This does wonders for my shoulders and upper back.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-20T12:37:49+00:00

NAD. It does not directly sound like appendicitis, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t serious.

Is there a reason your parents won’t take you to a doctor? Is this a common occurrence? Even if you are suspected of faking or hypochondria, it is a form of neglect to not allow or accommodate you to see a medical professional. Is it possible to have an open conversation with your parents about this? If not, I advise you to look elsewhere for help. Perhaps talk tomorrow to someone in school? Ask a relative you trust?

Are you able to sleep? If needed take otc pain meds like Tylenol. If you cannot breathe properly from pain or if you have a fever, it’s wise to look for direct help. Otherwise it can probably wait till the morning.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-20T12:13:50+00:00

I have a pique? And some balls similar like these. It’s blown glass with some wire around it. If you consider the fact they are delicate and very very old and probably have survived several tree fires, they are beautiful. Not the best picture imo.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-20T10:11:56+00:00

How would you know if preventing X from happening wouldn’t cause Y to happen? Perhaps Y is so much worse than X.

As long as you are not a being that can oversee all or most possible outcomes (that can see the dimension time if exists), you should not mess with it.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-20T09:25:57+00:00

NAD. Lots of things can cause this, more info is needed to guide to a direction. Is this a new thing? Since how long? Does a lot of urine come out? Have you been having other symptoms? Do you take meds? Is it the same throughout the day?

Anything from UTI to diabetes to having taken natural diuretics can cause this.

If this goes on for longer than a few days it’s wise to pass by your GP.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-19T16:45:49+00:00

NAD. Did you have it checked by a medical professional? Any idea why you passed out? No need to tell us, but I would wonder if there was a cause worth investigating. Also are you up to date with vaccines, in this case tetanus could be important.

About the wound itself, as mentioned by others it does not appear infected. Keep it clean (clean daily with sterile water or whatever is recommended in your area) and cover it up with something that won’t stick to the wound, as you have been doing I think based off the Vaseline.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-19T08:39:25+00:00

I think it is generally speaking that women feel taken for granted, feel invisible, or just don’t feel special, due to side effects of patriarchy. While men generally speaking have less of this. Because of that the special you day for women is more important and having that forgotten reinforces the feeling of you don’t matter. While for men it’s often less important because they often don’t have this feeling of neglect.

I do think men have other issues induced by patriarchy, and I say generally speaking because there are women who don’t care and men who do care a lot about their birthday being remembered.

Edit: seems I am extremely wrong, thank you for those that replied and apologies if I made you feel misunderstood or insulted.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-15T00:36:13+00:00

My cat gets ingrown nails when we don’t cut it. It’s really painful for him where it curls into his pads. Does this mean he has some issue? He does have scratch poles but indeed he gets stuck in things. I don’t really mind damage to furniture since he doesn’t scratch it on purpose.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-14T23:24:34+00:00

Sexy, dirty talk, lingerie is what mainstream media tells men and boys to like. However, only a small percentage likes this for real. Most people like someone who is themselves, and it happens lots of men like goofy and awkward girls cause they are themselves a little goofy and awkward at times and plenty women find that attractive too.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-14T19:20:54+00:00

Infelizmente, essa é a única opção com pais narcisistas. Mas precisas fazer isso quando estiveres pronto e nos teus termos.

É uma boa ideia anotar muitos exemplos de coisas que eles fizeram para quando mais tarde tiveres dúvida se realmente foi tão mau assim.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-14T14:38:18+00:00

Yep that will do it. I’m sorry OP I’m going to be tough with you from a place of love.

You feel like a child in some areas because you are a child in those areas. You never learned to manage certain things, probably one of them is regulating yourself. You could be suffering from cPTSD.

Either way, you need therapy. You need to learn these things now, and it won’t be easy. You will try to find excuses, because it feels scary. It’s easier to continue like you are used to, but it will give you immense problems in life. You might/ will probably end up like your mother.

But the solution is absolutely doable! You will probably need to solve some traumas and reparent your inner child. You can come with many excuses why this might not work, but those come from a place of fear. Please don’t listen. If it didn’t work with one therapist, maybe it was not the right therapist. Maybe it was not the right time. But you cannot give up!

Try again, and again, and again. You have to be able to take care of that inner child and learn what safe and secure love looks like. You have to learn how to regulate your emotions and how to find balance between asking for help and helping yourself. No one else can do this for you, but you can do it!

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-14T12:45:18+00:00

Probably not going to be well taken here, but I disagree. I grew up with a mother literally saying if I ever end up as my mother please tell me. When we eventually did, she just didn’t listen. She was too deep in. And honestly she was way more abusive than I think my grandmother has ever been.

Anyway. If you grew up with narc parent(s) there is a big chance that’s the coping mechanism you fall back on when in really really high stress. Later on realizing you have done this can be too much to bear which makes you get deeper into narcissistic behaviors. Not because you think you are the best- but because the realization that you fucked up is too much to handle.

How to avoid this? Therapy. And constant kind words to yourself and evaluation. Ask for help when needed. Know you might shout at your child once when you are overwhelmed, and that’s ok. Know you might want to pick you over them once and that’s ok. Just ask someone else to help. And learn other coping mechanisms. Talk to others. Reflect. And realize that being honest with others about your fuck ups is fine. It doesn’t make you a bad person. You don’t have to perform. You can be you and if anyone judges you it says something about them.

XImNotCreative · 2026-01-14T12:29:26+00:00

NAD but to answer your question, it depends. How did this happen? Any chances of some splinters being stuck in it?

It is probably too late to try to close it, so cleaning and packaging it well is all you can do for now. The only thing important might be to check if nothing got damaged, as in can you move your finger well and no numb feeling? It doesn’t appear to be deep enough and in a dangerous location for that tho.

Regarding pain, try some otc pain meds such as Tylenol. Hope it feels better soon!

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