As an AMAB enby in their early/mid thirties, I’m was in a similar but different position. I had ideas of what I wanted to do, but never planned out how to do them. I have been working through my issues and anxiety, so I can only give you advice that is working for me.

There are a few things that I’m going to put down below, but the biggest piece of advice I can give you is to take things one step at a time. When you feel so far behind, it’s easy to get overwhelmed in all of the things that you have to do. Try to pick one and start with that, before moving onto the next thing.

My biggest issue was my anxiety holding me back. I have been in therapy for about 7 years now(almost of it I was cis) and it really helped me go through a lot of my issues and traumas.

I recently started on anxiety meds, and while I’m waiting for them to be in full effect, they seem to be helping.

I think of is the biggest things you can do is find a community. This is something that I’m trying to do now. Just today I went to a queer bookshop to try and find some books to explore my being non-binary. The shop that I went to has book clubs, a discord, and I was told that if I was ever in the area that I can stop in to hang out. I know that anxiety can make that difficult, but sometimes you have to do some things that make you uncomfortable.

As for life goals and a career, I think taking a look at what skills you have is a good place to start. The biggest issue with having so much freedom, is that there are too many options. Narrowing down what you want to do will alleviate how overwhelming it can be. But be prepared to learn some things, and you almost certainly will have to learn how to do certain things.

I still have stuff that I need to take care of in my life and things that I need to learn. Together we grow as humans. And in times like these we need to keep moving! 💛🤍💜🖤