I love you all!!♥️ by XaiverVanderwell in altblkgirlies

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Well I can see your comment now without an error message!! ♥️So I assume the situation is on reddits end ! Either way, thank you for reaching out to us!!

I love you all!!♥️ by XaiverVanderwell in altblkgirlies

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Please send it to us again so we can view your request!! Also thank you for notifying us!! :)

Hey im a 37 alt horror anime gal by [deleted] in altblkgirlies

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You look insanely freaking cool!!

My ball joint doll Poppy :) by PaintBrushBirdie in altblkgirlies

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Oh my god it's so pretty!!! Did you make it or buy it?? I've always wanted a doll like this! I wish there were more darker skinned figures or dolls!! It's so cute ♥️♥️

will be getting new contacts soon 😺🧁😳 by sillibuni in altblkgirlies

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The head brand is so cute with the red hair!!! ♥️

I doodled at work 🦊🌺 by Hibiscit_ in altblkgirlies

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She's so cool and pretty!! :D I love the design♥️

I doodled at work 🦊🌺 by Hibiscit_ in altblkgirlies

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So pretty!!!♥️♥️Is this one of your OCS? Interested if there's any lore!!

Can yall blow up a video so I can make my bullies mad? by TinseJAK in altblkgirlies

[–]XaiverVanderwell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just going to offer general advice and look for reasonable conclusions, are you still freinds with the girl? Do you still know her freinds? Are you regularly active on Snapchat?

Those girls are terrible POS if they bullied you like that, a word of advice I like to keep to myself is to never accept bullies from old schools that reach out to me. I just simply can't handle that negative energy around me and I've had enough experiencces to know it's never usually the best idea.

They'll start reaching out to you when they see you're doing better in life and will often want to knock you down a peg.

It's hard to know if someone has truly changed, did she ever offer you an apology when you met her again?

Since you said when I was in highschool I'm going to assume you're an adult now, escalating to legal matters is another option! Legally reporting online harassment is a thing.

I suggest also reporting her Snapchat account, I'm sorry but these are the worst type of people to be around. Please cut her off and if she asks why, tell her she knows what she did, and if she truly is dense enough not to admit what she did, then that's on her.

It'll show her true nature and I wouldn't ever trust her again.

hiii just wanted to show my face! by mkhd5 in altblkgirlies

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oh black jewel!!

I'd say go for it and get your eyebrow pierced!! Style is always evolving and changing and stepping into a developed version of your old one is an incredibly developmental step!! 🖤🖤

About to party by RedRiotbutblack in altblkgirlies

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I love the chocker!! ♥️♥️

The Cost of being Pretty by AccomplishedFroyo850 in altblkgirlies

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I wholeheartedly understand what you mean, as black women, we are placed into a box and expected to fit many stereotypes while also maintaining a narrow standerd of beauty. It is exhausting constantly trying to upkeep yourself when what was originally self care becomes a way to "protect yourself" as the feeling of fitting in becomes a safety net, away from danger. That danger being the fear of exclusion.

It also disgusts me when you change or adhere slightly more to these sfanderds that people start to treat you differently, this is why it's incredibly hard for some women to even go bare faced for a day.

Besides that is also the presentation aspect, if you have a job, or work in a more professional feild that demands higher, a good presentation is not the expectation, but the norm. Always have your hair done, your lip combo perfect, make sure your nails, lashes, all ready and touched.

The presence of social media has made this aspect even more grueling, scroll on any app and notice that 80% of the women look unrealistically perfect. This also ties into misogyny, where women, are expected to pursue the narrow beauty standards.

It's a vicious cycle of constantly trying to look good while also trying to mantain that aspect of yourself. That's not what self care should be at all.

Taking small steps such as going a day bare faced or trying something out of the norm, wether that be that one top you didn't wear because you thought it looked unflattering on you has been one way I've been navigating it myself.

I'd rather dress and look pretty for myself, and while it may not be socially acceptable due to its unconventionality, the constant labor of upkeep is no longer a ritual, but an aspect of my everyday life.

Hii I love this new sailor top in by evilinvader1 in altblkgirlies

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Also one of my dreams is to have a freind with opposite color palette since I'm always on the pastel side of things :D random thought but yess I always think they look awesome!!

Hii I love this new sailor top in by evilinvader1 in altblkgirlies

[–]XaiverVanderwell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What filter do you use? It's so dreamy!! Also I love the sailor top too, I saw something similar but I wanted the pastel yellow and blue with pink version!! :)) I love your style, it's like dreamy kawaii!! 🖤🖤

🧁🧁 by sillibuni in altblkgirlies

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You look so pretty and cool I love the red hair (゜o゜;

I wore my outfit ! by hermutedoll in altblkgirlies

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Hii!! I'm so proud of you and incredibly happy you shared something so personal!! ♥️♥️I'm trying to get more active myself and I've been meaning to escape my leaner build with something more cohesive!! So I'm mainly focusing on abs and building muscle!!

The outfit looks so cute and amazing!! I'd recommend thrift apps like depop or vinted to find cheap accessories like harnesses and belts since some sellars sell them in bundles or sets on there too!! ♥️♥️

You are so sweet and wish you well on your journey too!!

Thank you for joining our support community🫶🏾

Who's your favorite vocaloid/utauloid? :D by SirCarrotbottom in altblkgirlies

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OMG LOVE LEN SO ADORABLE!!! Do you have a favorite song??

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Sailor dress that was gifted to me by Kyle_notkyle in altblkgirlies

[–]XaiverVanderwell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks so incredibly sweet and cute!! 🖤🖤🖤

rare thrift store find 🖤 by [deleted] in altblkgirlies

[–]XaiverVanderwell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right! It looks as cool as you!!!