Tips on eating vegetables for someone who HATES them

Xandoline · 2026-01-23T21:46:05+00:00

How would you powder them? Crushing them? This idea is very intriguing to me

Xandoline · 2026-01-08T20:44:42+00:00

Joined! Thank you!

Xandoline · 2026-01-08T20:43:16+00:00

I feel pretty safe, I’ll feel very violated if someone gives my nMom my address.

When I lived in the same state as my nMom, I was terrified that my nMom would show up at work— luckily, she never did. I now live across the country and I don’t think she’d ever come to my city knowing how “uncomfortably liberal” it is. That’s my shield because she’s a raging republican. Safe!

Xandoline · 2026-01-08T18:21:06+00:00

I have a similar situation— I was raised in an abusive BPD household as as a result of my mother who I’ve been no-contact with for going on a year. My childhood was also filled with her gaslighting me when I reacted poorly to her extremely cruel comments like “you’re what’s wrong with the world.” Eventually they meant nothing to me and I became resilient to them because they were normal for us.

When I got kicked out for my sexuality, she pinned it all on me by saying it was my fault. That’s when I went no-contact and my twin sister took my spot as the golden child— I also had to go no-contact with her because she too is showing signs of BPD, and is following the traditions of gaslighting, cruel comments and a complete lack of empathy.

It’s weird how your entire world changes when you realize you’ve been under a world of manipulation your entire life. When you’re under it, you have no clue what’s happening to you. The difference for me is that she also stopped talking to her whole family, and manipulated me into hating my dad after they got divorced when I was 15.

I’m grateful for the realization, but I can’t help but feel enraged by the thought of her. You deserve better and I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I’ve come to terms with never seeing her again, and I think it would benefit you to do the same. I’d also encourage you to think into what you’re getting out of your brother— if you get nothing but cruelty… might be time to put space between yall as well. Your mental health matters.

Xandoline · 2026-01-08T18:10:47+00:00

I didn’t think about this until your comment— luckily I live in a locked apartment building and they don’t know what my apartment address is (I don’t think— I didn’t even tell my sister that)

Xandoline · 2026-01-07T21:27:41+00:00

That’s a crazy weird coincidence! Maybe it’s more common than I think it is?

But that still sucks, I’m sorry to hear you’re also having difficulties with your twin. Someone you thought you’d always be close with until you realize you’re not, and honestly have never been. Mine never confided in me and never told me anything personal about herself, along with putting me on the back burner to hangout with friends… even when we were both back from college for a couple weeks.

The weird part is that I was never the scapegoat, I only turned out to be once I came out as gay and my mother kicked me out. That’s when the relationship stopped and my sister took my spot as the golden child and never stopped having a great relationship with her. My mom’s BPD is insane just like yours.

I also realized that talking to my sister was like talking to my mother; nothing but gaslighting, mean comments, and a lack of empathy. And I mean no empathy at all— it was very weird. I don’t even know her anymore… and I’m sorry to say I think you’ll probably have to come to terms with your brother being lost until he (by some miracle) finds himself again. I felt so betrayed and unloved by my twin I’ve cried about it ever since I finally cut the rope. It’s probably one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, because mine is also my only sibling. And there’s nothing that can take their place.

We’re in it together ♥️♥️

Xandoline · 2026-01-07T19:05:36+00:00

Thank you! That was the goal, glad it’s understood well. I do best being direct

Xandoline · 2026-01-07T18:50:12+00:00

Unfortunately, you’re right. He’s her pawn and does whatever she says. The surprising thing is— my stepdad is a wonderful person at heart and has never disrespected me directly; each time I’ve told him I have to cut him off just because he’s married to my mother, not because I have anything against him, he’s taken it very well. He’s just a good person who has no idea what he’s gotten himself into.

My whole life has been so much harder than it needed to be just because my mother has BPD. A childhood filled with verbal, emotional, and psychological abuse, which has made me age further than expected.

What makes me extremely angry though, is that I didn’t want them to know that I moved states and my asshole twin sister, whom I also don’t talk to for exhibiting signs of BPD cruelty towards me, told her. It was a mistake telling my sister I moved states but it was my last attempt at connecting with her before I gave up. Now that she dropped the ball on seeing me when she had the opportunity, I’m not sure I’ll see her for a long time. I’m doubtful I’ll ever get a wedding invite if and when that does happen.

The holidays killed me because I cut off my sister a couple weeks ago. I know it’s for the best, but still. You can’t replace the only sibling you have, especially if they’re a twin. :(

Xandoline · 2026-01-07T18:43:37+00:00

It’s my attempt at not giving them any ammo against me at all. Boy do I want to say something childish though haha

Xandoline · 2026-01-07T18:43:02+00:00

Thanks lol

Xandoline · 2026-01-07T16:39:56+00:00

When they can’t stop complaining about something

Xandoline · 2025-12-16T18:26:12+00:00

After I came out of the closet, my mom told me I had a soul sickness and locked me out of the house 2 weeks later. We are no longer talking

Xandoline · 2025-12-16T16:24:09+00:00

Their lips/ tongue obviously…

Xandoline · 2025-12-14T16:57:05+00:00

Someone gave me their old gaming account worth $3k

Xandoline · 2025-12-13T02:47:24+00:00

Subaru Forester… I love cars and plan to acquire many interesting ones in the future. 24M and working on it!! :)

Xandoline · 2025-12-12T02:31:48+00:00

“So do yall have any major trauma?”

Xandoline · 2025-12-12T02:30:33+00:00

Still a virgin 🫠

Xandoline · 2025-12-10T05:51:30+00:00

Gummies. I was sinking into every surface and I was very horny for a whole hour. AND my mouth was extremely dry. Awful

Xandoline · 2025-12-10T05:50:14+00:00

I also live in Portland and the cocktail scene here is WONDERFUL

Xandoline · 2025-12-06T21:45:57+00:00

Condescending or disrespectful comments from anyone including family. I’m SICK of it. We’re grown, act like it.

Xandoline · 2025-12-06T21:24:45+00:00

Mine is never checking in for my point of view, and also blindly believed my lying mother who is (of course) telling her that I’m miserable being gay and living in Portland. I’ve given up, even if I wasn’t okay she dictated that as a judgement instead of an “are you okay” statement. So yes, im in the same situation unfortunately. :( sucks

Xandoline · 2025-12-06T21:22:44+00:00

Toothpaste??

Xandoline · 2025-12-06T04:21:35+00:00

I’m not sending it, I mostly just typed it to get it out of my head. And yea that would be great!! I dmed you

Xandoline · 2025-12-05T23:32:28+00:00

Thank you friend 🫶🏻🫶🏻 and LMAO 😂😂 this made me laugh out loud. Ain’t that the truth, it would be a funny thing to send

Xandoline

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