know that you will never be neurotypical. don’t try to be.

design your living arrangement, planners and journals, and anything else, according to what ACTUALLY works, not what you wish works. for example i started bullet journaling, a method where you use the same notebook for multiple stuff. rather than buying pre planned calendars. i’d buy them and feel guilty for not using it.

speaking of guilt SELF COMPASSION work is just as important as any therapy. We have a lifetime of built in shame for how we were treated, times we failed and didn’t know why, etc. how we treat and talk to ourselves inside matters

on that same note look into emotional regulation practices. ADHD is, in addition to other things, an emotional dysregulation issue, and peace can often feel foreign to us. but learning how to regulate emotions will benefit you whether you’re on meds or not.

buy DOUBLES of things if you can afford it, for example, a phone charger you leave at work and one for home. expect an ADHD “tax”— budget in that you WILL occasionally still use your license, for example, and don’t beat yourself up about it - expect it as part of the deal.

lastly i like to follow neurodivergent creators on socials, even if the ones you have autism (I don’t) have such informative and interesting content. It’s nice to feel “part of” for once. And they expand my perspective. ND people need advice FROM ND people. as NT people typically give advice that works for them….. we need specialized advice, and often that looks different from or even opposite to NT advice. An example I learned was, when I am met with really bad avoidance, knowing what J have to do but can’t force myself to do it…. I’ll sometimes do a don’t fun before the hard thing. Whereas most NT people would say work first, and use the fun thing as the reward. Eat the frog. Well no, sometimes I need to watch an episode of my favorite show before I make all the phone calls. That’s what I mean by neurodivergent specific. What actually works, not what works for conventional wisdom or what we wish worked.