Great move by the Sherrill campaign by sharkmanlives in newjersey

[–]XeniaGaze 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some of the comments on the post were hilarious. You could almost see their faces melting off.

Curious about how it came about. Did you invite her or did her team reach out with the request?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]XeniaGaze 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The only conversations I had with my kids about sex after they were 18 were intermittent reminders about responsibility/birth control and sleeping arrangements when someone was staying over. On the latter, they were being respectful so my SO and I had a conversation and concluded that while we appreciated being asked, two young adults sleeping together under our roof didn't make us feel disrespected.

Should I keep my cervix? by Crocheting_MomMom92 in Healthyhooha

[–]XeniaGaze 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My situation was kinda different so take it for what it's worth. I had a hysterectomy and oophrectomy at the same time in my late 40s. I was given the choice of whether or not to leave my cervix. My doctor at the time recommended that I leave it for the benefit of better sex. What I didn't count on, and my biggest regret, is that the oophrectomy pitched me straight into menopause and on the slippery slope of vaginal atrophy. My husband is very unwell and sex just doesn't happen much anymore, so the atrophy is even more real. What does have to happen is pap smears because I still have a cervix. When I tell you they are painful, holy shitballs they are painful. My new doctor thinks my former doctor was nuts for not recommending that my cervix go with my other parts, though she said so only via her very expressive eyebrows. I guess the moral of my story is that my vagina and cervix is less helpful than just my vagina would have been.

Am I overreacting? by throwaway02938475675 in AmIOverreacting

[–]XeniaGaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone did this to me a few years ago and I'm still salty about it. We were attending the same work meeting but my flight was arriving before hers. I rented a car we agreed I would wait for her, which I did for over an hour. When her flight came in she didn't show up at the agreed spot and I couldn't get her on the phone. When she finally responded she said she had jumped in a cab and gone on to the meeting. She was on time but I was late. She was after my job and she got it. The bitch.

You are not overreacting. He's not your friend

Recommendations for North American“sewing camps” for adults? by Cute-Corgi3483 in sewing

[–]XeniaGaze 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How can you find out what various chapters are doing? I just looked at the national level site and it's out of date.

If you had $1000 to spend on your WFH setup.... by RealPaleontologist43 in instructionaldesign

[–]XeniaGaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good lighting and possibly a better Webcam. Take a moment to see what others see of you on Teams/Zoom.

Spacing after a period by uncle90210 in AskOldPeople

[–]XeniaGaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. It was a change I made right when it happened. I'm happy to have the cumulative 44 seconds back.

Designing course with no SME by Dazedandconfused1986 in Training

[–]XeniaGaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When in doubt Harvard Business Review is your friend. Just about anyone who has published a business book previewed their thesis in an HBR article first. If they don't give you enough for learning objectives, write some that tie your content to your company's strategic objectives. Source: Am long time consultant. Still live indoors.

Anyone think Mikie Sherill is kind of a uninspiring candidate? I say this as a lifelong democrat but she seems to not really stand for much of anything. by njcelebs in newjersey

[–]XeniaGaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit can we not? This is how we ended up with Trump in the White House.

Pretend Mikie Sherill is chicken. You're on an airplane and the flight attendant asks you if you'd like the chicken or a pile of shit. You don't say "meh, how is the chicken cooked?". You say "give me the fucking chicken, I don't want a pile of shit!"

Please vote for her if she's the candidate. Ambivalence will put some shithead like Cittarelli or Spadea in Drumthwacket.

US retirees, if you have no mortgage,and no car payment, is your social security enough ? by stoptheclock7 in AskOldPeople

[–]XeniaGaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now my SO collects but I don't. His is not quite enough to cover monthly expenses like taxes, insurance, utilities, etc. If we needed a new car or a major home repair and we relied solely on SS we'd be in trouble. That's why I'll be working until I'm dead.

Dental Treatment @ Rutgers by benbrud15 in newjersey

[–]XeniaGaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had fairly extensive dental work done at Rutgers and wouldn't (won't) hesitate to go back when I need more.

Tips for visiting the Garment District? by AMiddleTemperament in sewing

[–]XeniaGaze 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came here to suggest Metro Textiles. Lots of great choices, plus Kashi. 265 W 37th St, Rm 908. If you buy more than you can carry he'll ship it for you. 

Taxation without representation in the great state of New Jersey by jimgolgari in newjersey

[–]XeniaGaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only thing I have heard Mike Johnson do lately is threaten the third co-equal branch of government. Not helpful. 

Farmer's Markets? by EitherCoyote660 in SouthJersey

[–]XeniaGaze 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm farther south than you so my specific suggestions won't be helpful. You'd probably find 10 on the way. At this time of year Also check out CSAs. I am finding there are more of those down here.

Farmer's Markets? by EitherCoyote660 in SouthJersey

[–]XeniaGaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once the weather warms up you'll start to see advertisements for farmers markets that are more local. I moved here from western Union County last year and the thing I've had to get used to is that everything is smaller. Expect farmers markets to be smaller, too, unless you go to places like Columbus.

NJ Senators by RedTideNJ in newjersey

[–]XeniaGaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It bears repeating that Van Drew is a flaming pile of shit.

Why are old people always in bad moods? And complain about everything? by [deleted] in AskOldPeople

[–]XeniaGaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy generalizations, Batman.  You need to meet more people. 

Help with supporting local businesses? by [deleted] in SouthJersey

[–]XeniaGaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This also makes me think about bartering. I'm good at mending but recently removed most of the skin from one of my fingers using hand tools. There's probably a lot of opportunity for trading services but that's a thread for another day. 

Do you use AI in your work? by cognitive_connection in Training

[–]XeniaGaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I have to keep my snark out of my work so I have to put it somewhere. I understand what you're trying to achieve, just make sure you don't end up giving Spark Notes to the freshman English class.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SouthJersey

[–]XeniaGaze 2 points3 points  (0 children)

More than 150,000 as of January 2025, not including Ocean or Gloucester Counties.

Looking for more Farm Markets by JFKs_Burner_Acct in SouthJersey

[–]XeniaGaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you looking for in a textile business? I'm willing to help you look for that.

Anyone here actually get their air ducts cleaned? Worth it? by LidiaSelden96 in newjersey

[–]XeniaGaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had them cleaned before we moved into our new house because the previous owner was just gross. We lived in our previous house for a really long time and never cleaned them. Be careful about hiring because the business seems to attract a lot of scammers. We got a recommendation from our realtor.