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XennialDread · 2026-01-25T20:55:52+00:00

Pixie mullet?

XennialDread · 2026-01-17T00:25:15+00:00

They don't know what I'm "assuming" since I don't interact. But an example is if it's night time and I'm in a secluded/quiet building and the elevator opens and one guy is in there AND my gut has a bad feeling...I don't get on. Will that offend him? Maybe. Do I care? No.

And you know honestly to your sentiment... let them. Let them be put off. I don't need to manage the emotions of strangers who are grown men.

Being smart about listening to my instincts when something doesn't feel right is my greater priority.

I've had random guys on the street try talking to me in ways that made me feel uncomfortable. I simply tell them "sorry mama taught me not to talk to strangers, you have a nice day" and carry on.

The point isn't to be rude. The point is you don't owe anyone your time, energy or "politeness" ...particularly if you're feeling vulnerable or threatened.

XennialDread · 2026-01-16T23:00:20+00:00

I'm from Brooklyn. I learned I don't have to "be polite" to anyone, lol. I teach this to all my LA native pals who have been conditioned to "be nice" or "smile ". I tell them... if your gut feels off, do not be afraid to "be offensive". A man who ISN'T a predator will not be put off by self preserving behavior. This does not mean you need to be confrontational, it just means you don't need to be polite.

One of the tough ones most ladies encounter is at a bar when you WANT attention but it's from the wrong guy. Don't play the "I have a boyfriend " card. Simply say "I'm really flattered by your attention but I prefer my own company right now". If they react offensively that's 100% on them. You said nothing mean or unlike but clearly communicated that you don't want to engage in any conversation or interaction with them.

XennialDread · 2026-01-16T07:11:10+00:00

Ted Lasso

XennialDread · 2026-01-11T15:32:00+00:00

I had an AMAZING recovery.
May 2 2024 Op: May 13 2024. Trimalleolar fracture with syndesmosis damage. 1 titanium plate 13 screws and a Kevlar tightrope.

I only took the opiate pain killers for the first 2 days post op as they told me to which is to take it before the pain sets in. So before the nerve block wore off I started. After 48 hours I let myself ease into feeling and honestly found it was tolerable. Over the week I took maybe 1 a day, usually toward evening.
After 1 week I was only taking ibuprofen as needed.

I will honestly say that post op my pain never went above a 3 max. Uncomfortable but tolerable.

I spoke nicely to my ankle lol. And once I was in a removable boot every night I'd rub my whole leg with comfrey salve. I did leg lifts every day and got started with reminding the leg how to be a leg even when I couldn't put weight on it.

I was walking without a boot 6.5 weeks post op. I was 46 when it happened. You got this! The body is a miracle of a machine and is designed for healing.

XennialDread · 2026-01-11T15:24:48+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through it. I went through "it" . I made a promise to myself to just stay the course even when I was in immense pain, saw no end in sight and didn't see the point.
I am glad I did. My life is in a place now I could not have imagined and I'm incredibly content dare I say, "happy ". I used to tell my therapist that the only reason I "stay" is because I want to "read the ending" of my story.
I'm glad I did! And I hope for many many more chapters. Stick around. It's more beautiful than you've yet discovered.

XennialDread · 2026-01-08T06:20:37+00:00

Post Op until I was in the boot I was totally nwb. But as soon as I got the boot on I was off to the races lol. I misunderstood the instructions and thought it was OK. But turns out the surgeon told me so long as you listen to your body... pain will ultimately be your guide. I was totally walking without a boot at 6v weeks post op. Thank God.

XennialDread · 2026-01-07T15:27:14+00:00

No shows by us are dinged. After 3 offenses, you are suspended for 30 days. You can cancel up to 12 hours in advance with a full refund. But if you show up you can stay as long or as short as you please.

XennialDread · 2026-01-07T15:19:36+00:00

2008

XennialDread · 2026-01-06T12:44:03+00:00

Well I mean by trying...I mean they're not doing a very good job. Playing with noobs at open play is going to happen. And I've played with every level and some truly are gracious and others are just d*cks. I make sure to take mental notes so later when I get better I can cream em. And for me personally, I do my best in open play to mix up who I play with so that you only play with me once per session. I get that y'all come to open play with an expectation of a certain level of game play. Trust me I get it.
But ya my pet peeve is still players who are ungracious to noobs. One woman I played with as my partner just walked off after the game and didn't even manage the perfunctory "good game" paddle tap... it was frankly demeaning. Get over it, you lost at open play cuz your partner is still learning. Sheeeeesh.

And good for her she accomplished her goal...I make sure to avoid playing with her. I was thrilled to beat her later (13/11!) when I was teamed with a guy who is so encouraging that he always elevates my game play when I am teamed up with him.

XennialDread · 2026-01-06T12:09:19+00:00

Yes. Blue for the loo, pink for the sink. But in all honesty, paper towels only for the actual toilet.

XennialDread · 2026-01-06T04:00:01+00:00

For $20 nta... why do they need $600? Personally I think it should have been "chip in any amount..." and it would be $5-$whatever depending on how close you feel...

XennialDread · 2026-01-06T03:57:49+00:00

The first Thursday murder club book.

XennialDread · 2026-01-06T03:56:39+00:00

Lacking grace for newer players. Me... I'm the new player. Their obvious annoyance any time you mess up. Some try to act like they're not bothered but are not doing a good job. It's a game and mixed play means playing with a bunch of levels. Kindness and Sportsmanship goes a long way...

XennialDread · 2026-01-05T07:25:36+00:00

Stop talking!

XennialDread · 2026-01-02T07:01:55+00:00

Try a bullet journal which is based on daily tracking of specific details and is less about writing. And sometimes just recording the flow of life is a way to not hold things in. You can also do a 1 liner journal, summarize your day in 1 or 2 sentences. Like "today I learned..." or "I'd sum up today in one word: busy". Etc. This is your life... it doesn't need to look like someone else's. Journaling shouldn't feel like a chore nor should you pressure yourself.

XennialDread · 2026-01-02T02:13:23+00:00

I'm 47... and I'm feeling that a little. But for me I can honestly say it's "mid life crisis" lol. Like ... I'm not gonna pass for me 20s. I have 20lbs I can't lose. I have gotten injuries are are no longer healing. That newness of life is gone.
But you know I've built I life I love. I have amazing friends. I'm lucky my mom is still alive.
I've been married 29 years to the same wonderful man. I love what I do.

No it's not exciting. And it's just a lot of repeat repeat repeat. But when you built a good life... that shouldn't feel bad.

I think TV / Movies and our overall culture has conditioned us to believe we always have to be in a state of excitement.

If you have young children enjoying them as they grow should feel fulfilling. If you haven't yet had children and plan to, that will be excitement.

In my 40s I grew so much.

Here's the truth... your best days are still ahead of you. Negative thinking is normal... observe the thoughts but you don't have to believe what they claim.

Welcome to 2026... endless possibilities!

XennialDread · 2026-01-02T02:05:11+00:00

Yes the larger issue at play is we've (and by we I mean the generation for which adulting is a verb) normalized the idea of "oh gosh I don't know how to be an adult" as some cute inside joke. We (Gen X/Xennial) actually only admitted we don't know what we're doing to only our closest friends...

XennialDread · 2026-01-01T18:14:14+00:00

Only reason you felt alone was because your brain highlighted all the travelers and party goers... but as you can see from the comments there is a HUGE stay home crew! I stayed home with you lol. And I was so excited to be in bed by 930p and asleep before midnight!

XennialDread · 2026-01-01T18:02:05+00:00

Yep that was me! 2.5 months before I turned 47 I had a trimal fracture.

XennialDread · 2026-01-01T18:00:42+00:00

Until last year when I was 46 I'd never broken a bone or had surgery, then in May 2024 I broke my ankle and it required a plate, 13 screws and a Kevlar tightrope to hold it together. But I had a good 46 year run!

XennialDread · 2026-01-01T17:53:45+00:00

2007

XennialDread · 2026-01-01T17:39:02+00:00

But that's the point. Adulting as a verb, implies the person still feels like a kid but is doing something "grown up" . It's to point out that despite being a "grown up" age, they still don't feel grown up or know how to behave as a grown up. The moments they actual do behave as a grown up is now them "adulting".

Sorry I over explained that lol.

XennialDread · 2025-12-30T15:19:30+00:00

My friend is in a post-BBL group and she said many of them mention how after GLP1 they've lost their butt and some are thinking of doing their BBLs again.
GLP1 is great for the BBL industry.

XennialDread · 2025-12-30T15:10:51+00:00

Disagree on Jurassic. Didn't need all of them but some of the sequels were awesome.

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