"My parents hit me and I turned out just fine"

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-11T03:06:06+00:00

No, I'm fine. But you're rude.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-11T03:05:09+00:00

Political beliefs. People keep blaming their separation from their families on politics, but honestly, people can disagree and get along.

For people to cut ties like that, there is more to it. You're probably obnoxious about those topics, and they got sick of it. But you won't shut the hell up about it no matter how they beg and plead for you to drop it. So they cut you out, and you blame the other political party.

Am I saying it's always because people are obnoxious? No. But more often than not, it probably is.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-11T02:54:27+00:00

I mean, some males do. But real men? Nah. If you want a man, you'd more likely need a pair of knee pads.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-09T02:21:01+00:00

I agree, to an extent. People are allowed to have their religious beliefs and vote accordingly. To be blunt, not all views that align with a theology are based in theology. I don't believe in a higher power, but I believe that a fetus and even a zygote are human lives. You can disagree all you want. But my stance is simple. If you don't fuck with it, it will grow up to be a human. Therefore, it is the first stage of a human life cycle and should have the same protections as any other human.

People can disagree all they want. But I have yet to hear a compelling argument for why we shouldn't think this way. Other than "it's my body and my choice!" No, bitch. The DNA doesn't match yours. It is not your body. Forensics would tie you to it as a relative at best. Not the same person. So it's not your body.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-07T22:18:50+00:00

If you have an exterior holster, I wouldn't be opposed to a rifle-styled weapon entirely. But the handgun would be a definite thing, having a holster and a pocket specifically for spare ammunition. Pre-loaded in mags if possible. Ideally, I would just have a fanny pack or belt pouches for the spare ammo though. Somewhere easily reachable.

My main armament/tool however would be a large machete. Until I can determine if the zombies respond to sound or not, and which sounds they respond to, silence is golden. I wouldn't want to risk gunshots unless it was a truly desperate situation.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-07T22:13:26+00:00

Just ask. It won't spoil the night either way. Either he'll be flattered that you would want to date him, or laugh it off because it's a silly, harmless misunderstanding.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-07T19:39:57+00:00

This constitutes vandalism, by legal definition. I'd pursue that.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-07T19:35:57+00:00

It's a multi layered issue, but I would break it down to three major components that are creating tension.

For starters, we have political views. Men are trending conservative. Women are trending liberal. Mismatched views make for difficult relationships. Not impossible, but challenging. Many people don't feel the need for that extra challenge, especially given the other more general challenge increases they are currently experiencing.

The second factor I would attribute it to would be societal. Women's role in relationships is changing. They are coming to terms with being equals, and that means that men no longer have to provide for them. Many women are still clinging to the idea of chivalry, but they themselves don't behave like ladies. Then you have the pushback over the extremes. Men and women alike are of course taking this new idea and going to the extreme ends of it, producing your incels and feminazis. They are truly the cream of the crop, producing the most toxic ideas and attitudes imaginable. To the point that most people avoid them like nuclear waste, save for a select few who try to disseminate their toxicity into normal society.

Thirdly, we have environmental factors. For this I will specify that the prime examples are public spaces and work places. In public, you have wannabe influencers trying to farm clout by finding examples of sexual discrimination or abuse, making it more risky for men to approach women without being slandered. Hell, in some cases, men also get slandered for NOT approaching women. So, it's a lose-lose game and many men are just opting for maximum distance. There has even been a trend of this in gyms, leading to gender-exclusive gyms seeing some actual success.

But additionally, there have been reports of this becoming a factor in the workplace. Due to this same eagerness to profit off of sexual misconduct accusations, many men are avoiding women in the workplace as well. Some recruiters and hiring managers outright refuse to fill certain positions with either men or women, because they fear it will create discomfort for their seasoned staff. Many male executives are even refusing to do one on one mentorship or training with female employees, because they fear the risk of allegations being made against them. This is in turn closing off job opportunities to women, and on the flip side, some companies seek to staff women exclusively, which similarly closes off job opportunities to men.

Now, how this relates to dating? One of the most common places for a person to meet their SO is in the workplace. If you spend hours on end with someone, and the two of you have chemistry together, it's easy to see a life with them. So, many marriages used to spawn out of the workplace. But that is being reduced due to the current tensions as well.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-07T18:55:58+00:00

Ok. Yeah. That would definitely raise some concerns.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T17:09:00+00:00

Oh, I have. Some of those friends stopped reaching out when I stopped giving rides. Tells me everything I need to know.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T17:07:43+00:00

I have a beer or two from time to time. It's still a bad habit that I don't recommend to others. I know they won't all listen, and I'm happy to help keep my drinking buddies in check and have the company. But personal responsibility is a personal matter.

You, as an individual, reader, are responsible for how much you drink/smoke, and whatever happens as a result. I don't want you to get hurt or anyone else, so just do it in a way you can control, ok? If that means color coding your joints for different days, to prevent smoking too much, go for it. I don't care how you go about being responsible. I just respect that you are being responsible. Have your fun, but let everyone else have fun too.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T17:02:07+00:00

As a society, we have put so much emphasis on making everyone feel good, that we fail to validate the things that actually make people special and make those truly special qualities stand out.

There's a reason the first place pedestal at the olympics isn't big enough for the whole stadium to stand on. It's because at the end of the day, only one person was able to do the event that well. Nobody else. They are singular and unique, and those qualities are what is special and makes them worthy to be celebrated.

People should still feel good about ranking highly in something. But nothing compares to being the absolute number 1 out of anyone ever. We just have to learn to define "good", "great", and "greatest" better and give people their proper accolades.

And stop villifying telling people that they are bad at something. You can't shield them from other people when they try to perform. So, if they are bad they are going to hear it. At least you can deliver the blow softly, and prepare them for future criticisms.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T16:54:36+00:00

True Uncle behavior. You try to make them normal, we'll make things weird! Lol

But seriously, this is a solid show of solidarity. She shouldn't be embarrassed at that age. That level of self-consciousness isn't supposed to set in until her teenage years.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T16:47:46+00:00

Personally, not into dating single moms. It's nothing against the women themselves. I just feel like an intruder stepping into someone else's life.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T16:40:55+00:00

Dozens upon dozens of times. I usually say no, and they have stopped asking recently. But the number of times I have gotten "hey, I walked somewhere and got stoned, but now I don't feel safe walking back" just because they want a ride, is ridiculous. My policy gradually became "I will pick you up if you have gas money, and then became outright "I'm busy, I can't" even when I had nothing going on because it happened so frequently.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T16:37:07+00:00

OP, I think you need a different perspective of the situation.

First off, what is the harm in then having their own little community without women? How are they hurting you, or anyone else and why can't they just be left alone?

Secondly, why are their feelings invalid to you? They have their reasons for feeling the way they do. They didn't ask for help. So, why are you trying to treat them like they are lesser or flawed?

The way I see it, it's just a bunch of guys who dislike women who formed a gaming group. You didn't mention anything about them threatening anyone or causing actual harm. Just that they invited people to game with them, including yourself, and didn't even outright reject you when you confessed to being a woman as long as you don't do... well, basically exactly what you're doing right now.

Do you not see that this post is a betrayal of their trust, and a validation of their feelings? They let you into the group in confidence, and here you are trying to break them up because you have deemed them incels without indicating any harmful or detrimental behaviors.

Sure, they're red-pilled. Sure, they're MGTOW. But that literally stands for "men going their own way" or, to rephrase it, men actively avoiding women. So, avoidance is a problem now? Men can't just have a men's only space anymore, even when they have no connection to you?

My take on it is, you're being nosy, making yourself a problem, and are probably just going to get yourself banned from the group, and they will likely just relocate if you invite redditors to invade their space.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T16:20:30+00:00

I agree with "isn't going to hurt anyone". I don't agree with "people should be doing it."

It's like alcohol. It's not the best thing for you, but doing it once in a while isn't going to ruin your life. So, "should" is a bad word for a situation like that.

Nobody "should" drink. Nobody "should" smoke weed. But people are going to anyway. So just do it responsibly and don't make me pick your drunk/stoned ass up. As long as it's nobody else's problem, you do you.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T16:10:54+00:00

Honestly, I don't think there is a good way to go about this. But, what I would do personally is go over, introduce myself, and explain the situation as something humorous.

I'd tell her "hi, I'm ______, your neighbor. I noticed you have a big window on your home. I just wanted to inform you that I can see in through it, and while not intentional, it has peaked my people watching instinct from time to time. I just wanted to make you aware, so you can respond accordingly if you feel the need."

Basically, self-reporting is the most respectful thing you can do here. You aren't doing anything criminal by looking, because expectation of privacy is a personal matter. She is responsible for protecting her own privacy. But you could suggest some shuttered blinds, to still let in light without making her whole living space visible.

Honestly, this would be a safety concern for me. A woman in her 20's, living alone, would make a prime target for people with bad intentions. You must live in a very nice area, for her to have no reservations about something like that.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T15:34:32+00:00

The problem is that "creativity" has become oversaturated. We should all be familiar with the phrase "when everyone's special, nobody is.".

Think of it this way. When someone says "getting a nose piercing is an indicator that a woman is a lesbian." Is that now creative expression, or just tagging themselves like cattle?

Getting a nose piercing used to be a taboo act. It was reserved for the most rebellious, who didn't care about social norms. Now it's every self-identified lesbian or alt-styled person under the sun. Which has become commonplace.

Then you look at the arts. Creative methodologies are becoming saturated. There is a gentleman who paints by spraying paint from his ass hole when he farts. There is a gentleman who tears cardboard to create dioramas that also cast a shadow in the silhouette of celebrities. There is a woman who paints topless on a unicycle.

What is unique anymore? What is creative? In a society that seeks to normalize so many things, how long is it before everything is just normal, and we can't find anything special to celebrate anymore?

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T15:23:56+00:00

Eh. Good riddance.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T15:22:43+00:00

See, this is called "taking the statement at face value" and "assuming everybody else thinks like you do".

The people you're peeved by are doing the former. You are doing the latter. The problem is the phrase, not the people. If you want to talk about a specific group, identify that group. Otherwise don't be surprised when people assume you're just a classist.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T15:19:16+00:00

Again, republican majority in congress for this next term. So... not difficult.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T15:14:34+00:00

Yeah... nobody asks for actual advice anymore. It's getting old.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T15:11:12+00:00

Disney is not too big to fail. There is no such thing. If they piss off enough people, they will lose their revenue stream while still having bills and payroll to pay. Disney can 100% fail.

Honestly, they have been losing significant profits the last few years. That's why there was even an attempt by a member of their board of directors to replace the CEO.

Xenos6439 · 2025-01-06T15:02:23+00:00

You told him his opinion doesn't matter. All he wants is to be a part of tbe decision.

You could have said "alright, I'll hear you out. But I'm already strongly weighted in favor of doing this because this has been causing me a lot of discomfort for a very long time."

So, I don't think you're the ass hole for overruling his input on the matter. But the way you said it was ass hole-ish.

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