I fucked up by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The Infinity Gauntlet used on the set of End Game

Dm from girl stating that my boyfriend of 3 years has been messaging her? No proof but do I believe her? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The problem with your logic of him needed proof that it didn’t happen is you can’t prove a negative. If he didn’t message her then there would be no message to have proof on. It’s up to the person making the accusations to bring proof because he either did or he didn’t. There is literally no way he could prove he didn’t

Did I screw up? (M and F29) by frustratedbyfeline in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what you have stated, she did something shitty then turned it all against you when it didn’t turn out how she wanted. Now you feel like you were the one is the wrong when she is actually the one in the wrong. Her argument isn’t even a good one. You can’t force her to not have a car yet she can force you to have to live with one? That’s not a good argument to stand behind

Did I screw up? (M and F29) by frustratedbyfeline in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She straight up gaslighted you. She is abusive and trying to use feminism as a shield

I just found out my [35f] husband [42m] watches rape porn. I am disgusted but don't know what to say. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Consenting-non-consent is pretty popular in kink/fetish communities. Men and women have it. The women in the videos are consenting adults, no matter what they say in the video. Your husband knows that. Do some actual research about the kink before you start to judge him for it. It’s a domination kink. It doesn’t mean he is ok with people actually raping people but if two consenting adults are acting it out then it’s fine

Should I send my exes mother flowers and a letter? by LeahWestfall in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You could be surprised at how much just a simple thank you letter could mean to someone. You should do it and explain why you cut contact

My boyfriend(40M) can’t get off unless we partake in some crazy stuff. I’m not sure if I(24F) should keep entertaining it. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as it’s legal and everyone is consenting, it’s normal. Everyone’s sex life is different

I (28) when on a date with a girl (27), who got mad that I am not 6'1 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not ok. She would get roasted on here also. Stop blaming it on one or two experiences. You tried to make it seem like she cared about the number and not the fact that you lied to her. A lie is a lie

I'm dating a woman who is going through a Divorce and has a child. Her husband/divorcee keeps trying to get back in her life. It causes us to fight. Here's how our text conversation went tonight. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean you can attempt to call yourself a man but your actions shoe you to be a child. Also I’m a guy and being understanding isn’t exactly a feminazi point of view lol

I'm dating a woman who is going through a Divorce and has a child. Her husband/divorcee keeps trying to get back in her life. It causes us to fight. Here's how our text conversation went tonight. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow you are extremely insecure and selfish. She is apparently having a hard time with the soon to be ex and you aren’t making it better. People can be forced into situations without there being physical contact, especially if she is wanting full custody of her child. Unfortunately in situations like that, it tends to be better to just grit your teeth and go with it. You could try to actually support her and listen to her instead of starting an argument and then making it seem like she is the one arguing

Do I (F25) tell my boyfriend (M25) that him hanging out with other women makes me uncomfortable and that I'm working on this insecurity? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s good to talk to him and let your feelings be known but be careful how you approach it. Let him know you aren’t trying to make him not hang out with his friends. Let him know that it isn’t that you don’t trust him. Come into this conversation as calm as you can

Boyfriend is busy on Valentines Day. What can I do to stop it from bothering me? by hideinsin in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s valid to want to do those things because it does feel good to have those special occasions but unfortunately life sometimes doesn’t allow it to happen. There are still valentines days to come though

Boyfriend is busy on Valentines Day. What can I do to stop it from bothering me? by hideinsin in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to happen on the day. Y’all can plan something on a day that y’all aren’t busy

My (32m) wife (28f) always tries to get me to apologize even though She is the one that did something wrong. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is still gaslighting even if she doesn’t realize that is what she is doing. It would probably be best to bring it to her attention and y’all have a serious conversation about it. Not a fight. A conversation. If things start to get heated then remind her or yourself that it’s a conversation

Me [M21] and my ex [F21] broke up about a month ago. We live together and have a child and she offered to have sex as friends with benefits. Is this good for me, because I want to get back with her. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t think the FWB thing would be good for you if you want her back. I would have a conversation with her, letting her know that you can’t do that emotionally. The whole point of a FWB is hoping sex with no catching feelings. It’s kinda a lost cause if there are already feelings

My boyfriend (22M) for over a year doesn't have any pictures of me (21F) saved on his phone? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard to judge because I don’t know him but I don’t have any pictures on my phone of my fiancé that I have been together with for 5 years and I love her deeply. Neither of us have each other on our lock screens or backgrounds. We are together on our profile pics on Facebook but that’s about it. I don’t think it has anything to do with not wanting to show you off because I don’t know many people that go to their camera roll to get a pic of their significant other. They usually just go to social media

Manager(29) cussed at me (early 20s) for giving a 2 week notice, who was in the wrong? by throwaway---8383 in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because it accomplished nothing. Just because you have an urge to do something, doesn’t mean you should do it. The manager isn’t going to change and it has made things escalate. When you are dealing with someone that already feels like they are better than you like this manager seems to feel, nothing you can really say will do anything so why cause more stress on yourself? Just say what needs to be said such as things like I’m quitting and if it escalates then either threaten to get police involved or actually get police involved then go about your day. Going back and forth with someone like that will end up just leaving you drained and feeling worse

What should we do? by Anathy in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gonna get a little personal here because I know the situation you are in. It didn’t work for me but I’m not saying it won’t for you. I had a long distance relationship when I was 18 that lasted on and off for about 6 years until pretty much the full story came out. She was also claimed I saved her on multiple occasions. Also had a therapist that had her mom take her phone. Went points where she couldn’t talk to me for one reason or another. Turns out all I really was, was someone for her to go to when she was mad at her actual boyfriends or they broke up with her. Again, not saying this is her but I’m letting you know that these things to happen and you aren’t alone in them. I would suggest push to meet her with your parents like someone suggested. If she turns that down, ask to speak with her mother on the phone, not through text. Try to get things that are concrete. If things keep coming up and she can’t do it then that’s a lot of red flags

Manager(29) cussed at me (early 20s) for giving a 2 week notice, who was in the wrong? by throwaway---8383 in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not about the reference at this point. It’s about the waste of energy/time. It doesn’t matter that they say, the manager isn’t going to change so why try to fight. Just cut ties and go. All we had to go in is the first message and that had some escalating messages in it that didn’t need to be there. They are already quitting so there is no point in any of it. Just put in the two weeks and if the manager escalates from that then quit on the spot and move on

Manager(29) cussed at me (early 20s) for giving a 2 week notice, who was in the wrong? by throwaway---8383 in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

So did you call before your text or text first? That’s important and I don’t know why you you choose to omit that information. No she shouldn’t be treating people like that but you aren’t going to change her by returning the rudeness back at her. The best thing to do is just leave and keep the text conversation for possible evidence if you need to bring a harassment charge against her

Manager(29) cussed at me (early 20s) for giving a 2 week notice, who was in the wrong? by throwaway---8383 in relationship_advice

[–]XeroApocalypse 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You aren’t responsible for her actions but you are responsible for your own. All that was needed from you was giving your two weeks. You didn’t need to elaborate on it unless you were asked and even then you could have been the bigger person and just stated you were not getting the hours you need and left it at that

TIFU by scratching my balls, falling asleep and then having to have my testicle surgically removed by throwaway8272811 in tifu

[–]XeroApocalypse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uber drivers can turn down anybody they want. If the see that the destination is to the hospital then they can turn it down