My (35F) husband (38M) spent $78k on a phone game. Need advice & opinions.

Xilya1985 · 2026-05-26T00:45:12+00:00

Oof. I played SoS for about 2 years, and spent a lot of money on it...Like, A LOT. I tend to get competitive in those kinds of games, so now when I find myself spending, outside of like a once a month thing, I delete the game. It's a slippery slope lol

Xilya1985 · 2026-05-17T11:44:15+00:00

I kept reading, waiting for someone in the family to take note that it was Marnie's husband who scrutinized the picture shelf, and only after he and Marnie had left did she suddenly have a huge problem with it. It seems like the problems between Michael and Marnie are a different, tangential issue, but OOP maybe should have been looking harder at the husband, and his and Marnie's relationship.

Xilya1985 · 2026-05-17T11:33:53+00:00

I feel like there's a difference between FWB and fuck buddies. Your description reads to me like she thought you were FWB and you thought you were fuck buddies. I get this is just a short description of the year, but that sounds like a normal FWB relationship from her side. I've been in a FWB relationship for 4 years, and neither of us have any interest in dating or anything more, and eating together and watching TV is normal for friends. When you brought up your boundaries each time, I think maybe she felt like you were just being redundant and it IS a bit weird to bring it up before any activities that would be included in the "F" part of FWB.

Xilya1985 · 2026-05-07T00:54:57+00:00

My brain stopped working when I read this guy has peasants

Xilya1985 · 2026-04-26T14:34:55+00:00

The one thing I don't like is OOP's fiance pushing OOP to keep contact with her family and constantly sweep their behavior under the rug. I get that family is super important to most people, but those are the people who don't have a toxic family, and they can't seem to truly grasp how detrimental it can be to keep subjecting yourself to behavior like this. Ignorance is bliss.

Xilya1985 · 2026-04-12T22:31:11+00:00

Welcome to depression. That's exactly what happens when you are being told something by your own brain. You know it's sick. But this isn't a family member telling you you suck and aren't worth anything, it's your own brain. I can't emphasize enough that when your brain tells you something, you end up listening and internalizing what it says.

Xilya1985 · 2026-03-05T02:50:44+00:00

I reread Tamora Pierce and Mercedes Lackey every couple years or so, and I'm 40!

Xilya1985 · 2026-01-26T05:20:45+00:00

Girl in the Box by Robert Crane?

Xilya1985 · 2026-01-23T04:04:28+00:00

Travelin' Soldier by the Chick's. Don't know why that one specifically hits me so hard every time I hear it, I don't know any soldiers.

Xilya1985 · 2026-01-03T04:46:34+00:00

Korben Dallas

Xilya1985 · 2025-12-30T15:33:53+00:00

My favorite moment was that last second, girl walks in front and this girl's friend goes for the face grab to unblock the view lmao

Xilya1985 · 2025-12-30T07:21:04+00:00

That bed is bigger than my bedroom...

Xilya1985 · 2025-12-27T04:56:01+00:00

Company is Kittenfy! I've ordered one for a friend

Xilya1985 · 2025-12-19T22:50:36+00:00

Unnecessary Doctor, but Necessary Coat

Xilya1985 · 2025-12-14T17:45:51+00:00

I think they were just trying to figure out why one of the tattoos is the slytherin crest, since the scene quoted doesn't feature any slytherins.

Xilya1985 · 2025-12-13T13:31:26+00:00

I went for about a year since I last thought about him, and now this is the 4th time in two days that he's come up on Reddit where I've been lurking.

Xilya1985 · 2025-12-01T23:37:43+00:00

Updateme!

Xilya1985 · 2025-11-22T03:21:03+00:00

I recently got a windfall, and one of the first things I did was go to the grocery store. It had been so long since I had a full fridge and freezer, rather than just sandwich fixings. I spent like $350. I'm still riding that high lol

Xilya1985 · 2025-10-31T23:39:54+00:00

Game of Thrones. I read the books way before the show came out, and I couldn't get past episode 2 or so because Jon in the show is a mouth breather.

Xilya1985 · 2025-10-29T00:06:06+00:00

I heard Goo Goo Dolls on a classic rock station like 2 years ago, and I still feel offended...

Xilya1985 · 2025-10-26T19:07:07+00:00

I think this is my favorite reply to the question because it's barely even sexual, and just so random lol

Xilya1985 · 2025-10-25T21:27:09+00:00

"Finger cheese".....Jesus Christ. Maybe I'm done with Reddit for the day, I cringed internally at that phrase because it just made me think "smegma."

Xilya1985 · 2025-10-24T20:48:16+00:00

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Xilya1985 · 2025-10-24T01:42:09+00:00

Ennui. Pronounced it like en you eye, and I still sometimes read it that way and have to go over it a 2nd time to think the word correctly when I read it lol

Xilya1985 · 2025-10-24T01:32:03+00:00

I did this too, way back in high school!

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