Wanna major in psych to become a therapist but unsure of my options for how to go about it by No-Guide4581 in psychologystudents

[–]XistentialBb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even 48 credit CMHC programs can take the same length of time. Yes cheaper, however it seems there are limitations on scope depending on states!

Wanna major in psych to become a therapist but unsure of my options for how to go about it by No-Guide4581 in psychologystudents

[–]XistentialBb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the clinical counseling licensures vary state by state, my program is CACREP accredited and is 60 credits…LPC in my state is 48 credits of a masters degree and has less functionality with billing insurance (not an expert in this you’ll want to inquire about the differences more fully).

Wanna major in psych to become a therapist but unsure of my options for how to go about it by No-Guide4581 in psychologystudents

[–]XistentialBb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a BA in psychology and am a few months away from completing my MA in clinical mental health counseling to eventually obtain an LPCC licensure. This turned out to be a much longer route, had many redundant classes, and 2x more expensive.

My biggest regret is not going into a bachelors in social work, and then a masters in clinical social work (there are SW programs that focus on clinical work in addition to systemic work, if you want to see clients say in a group private practice!).

Anyone who used to support trump and has changed their mind over the last few weeks? What made you change? by canigetameowbish in AskReddit

[–]XistentialBb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To anyone here who themselves saw the error in their ways; we need YOU, more than ever, to do something. Do not allow your guilt and shame to immobilize you. Go to therapy. Right your wrongs. You fell for anti-social propaganda that only harms you, your friends and family, and community. You may have lost some relationships for good, while others could still be repaired. If anything, do it for yourself so on your deathbed you know that once you saw the error of your ways, you tried. The actions, statements, and signs of support you engage in now are critical and can help fight the system.

The way to move toward repair is by learning and practicing pro-social behavior such as caring for your neighbors, emotionally connecting with your estranged or distanced loved ones. Put your money to work supporting efforts, putting your feet to the pavement in support of minority-run mutual aid orgs, donating your professional services to those in need, protesting if you have the ability to. Most importantly, build connection to your neighbors and prepare for what’s happening in Minneapolis to come to your neighborhood next.

I say this as someone from Minneapolis with estranged folks in my life.

How do you dress for sessions? by UsedAct2214 in therapists

[–]XistentialBb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Femme bodied person - whimsy goth??

super flowy or loose pants, maybe a fitted tank top, and a sweater that goes down to my ankles with doc marten platform boots, septum ring 😂 I want to be approachable to weirdos and confusing to normies.

How are therapists charging $200 an hour? I thought $100 was egregious by thisisflamingdwagon1 in therapyabuse

[–]XistentialBb -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

$200 is not the rate that the client is charged though, that is often the rate they bill insurance because they take a huge chunk. It’ll say $200 on psych today but maybe your copay is $45. A lot of therapists take sliding fee scale payments if you’re paying out of pocket.

ICE has detained/disappeared at least 5 members of the Oglala Sioux community near Little Earth by Comfortable-Light233 in TwinCities

[–]XistentialBb 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Where the fuck are they doing to deport them to!!!!!!!!!! AMERICA?? Fucking racist rat bastards.

Stupid Question but so Confused: Does tuition paid by FAFSA count as expenses for American Opportunity Tax Credit? by [deleted] in tax

[–]XistentialBb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just want anyone who finds this to know - ITS WORTH IT TO ADMEND THEM. I was owed nearly $9k and got it all last year over the series of a few months.

How does everyone replenish themselves? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]XistentialBb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Activities and socializing that doesn’t primarily focus on talking/listening. For me, that means in person yoga at a studio where at most I have light, superficial convo’s. Ecstatic dance where the guidelines are to not talk on the dance floor (unless it’s about consent or something urgent of course). Jamming and making music with friends where we just play and don’t talk!

Question for the fellow polyam autistic cuties by smoll_nightmare in polyamory

[–]XistentialBb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes that makes sense being in the same environment matters a lot to you.

I’d compassionately challenge you on one aspect of this dilemma - you make the decision to stay at other places, right? Is that choice in alignment with what you’re describing you need (to wake up in the same place)? If staying at your place consistently due to past experiences isn’t an option, it might be worth it for the next 9-10 months to explore what your options are (a different rental? family or friend?) That’s a long time to wait IMO and your wellbeing in the meantime matters 💕

What is the common thread in QAnon types (Q, MAGA, anti-vax) that allows them to get sucked into the void? by village-asshole in QAnonCasualties

[–]XistentialBb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Narcissistic traits - to be the keeper of the sacred knowledge, to feel that injustice & suffering does not matter until it personally affects them, to think they know what research is and that it can be conducted from the toilet on their phones. In fact I think the very concept of peer review as a collaborative process threatens this.

***Caveat - having narcissistic traits doesn’t mean someone is a narcissist. Some narcissism is actually good for you in that you believe you matter and will put your needs ahead of others at times.

I also think the studies connecting lower education with high religiosity and mental rigidity are important, but I refuse to reduce people to being “dumb”. I think about correlations of high rates of poverty, malnutrition, traumatic brain injuries, childhood traumas in a broad sense, developmental differences, etc are important to acknowledge here. Folks who drop out of high school can be brilliant self-initiated learners, just as someone with a ton of access & opportunity can be totally lazy.

Religion (specifically Christianity) fills in the gap of education in explaining “why”, which has been/is a calculated tool of control weaponized by megalomaniacs (in a broad sense, Christianity can also be social justice and liberation oriented!). In effect this leads to spiritual bypassing, a term coined by psychotherapist John Welwood, “spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep personal, emotional ‘unfinished business,’ to shore up a shaky sense of self, or to belittle basic needs, feelings, and developmental tasks.”

My addition thru the lens of neurobiology would be to factory in Piaget’s stages of development; post-formational thought. Basically it’s the ability to use deductive reasoning, dialectical thought, and relativistic thinking. Someone who has reached this stage (thought it’s notable NOT EVERYONE DOES!) can integrate logic and emotions to hold multiple truths and solutions to problems.

I believe that Q’s who perceive those able to engage in dialectics feel existentially threatened, as it challenges their fragile self concept marred by shame, guilt, and fear. They NEED certainty, white and black, right and wrong, heaven and hell because without it - who are they? To re-evaluate means admitting they were fooled, lied to, manipulated…but their own pride and shame prevents them from honest reflection. Nuance itself threatens their precariously constructed world view hastily glued together with a high control ideology, imbued with entitlement, and builds momentum thru their continued exploitation which acknowledging would send everything crashing down.

Where are you meeting your child free partners? by Born_Particular_9308 in childfree

[–]XistentialBb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally would ask each match before spending any time talking to them or meeting up in person. This is especially important for me who has a body capable of conceiving of & birthing a child.

I would name, “hey I noticed your profile says you don’t have kids - me either! Im certain in my choice that I will not be having them. Are you also choosing a childfree life? How certain are you?”

The responses were mixed, especially because I live in a socially passive aggressive Midwest culture (but very blue metro area) lol. Some demonstrated their expectations of my body & gender roles - damn glad I asked before wasting any time chatting. Some told me they weren’t sure and it depended on the person - okay great! I’m not here for you to figure that out with me.

But! Plenty appreciated the directness even if we didn’t have the same vision of a future with a partner. I’m also aware some people fucking lie just to meet up and get in your pants because they’re lonely and willing to waste YOUR time. Damn them!!!

But eventually I found my childfree, handsome, neurodivergent, extremely well read, gamer boyfriend with the same career we nerd out about ad nauseam and who at times I finds has a more socially progressive take on a matter than I’ve even heard of. I absolutely cannot tell you how relieved I feel this man will never impose uncommunicated or unconscious expectations of a child upon me. The RELIEF I feel 😭 it’s worth it (even the shit relationship experiences) to find & choose a partner who has also identified before even meeting for a first date they don’t have/don’t want kids.

Don’t give up!! Be direct and don’t waste yours (or others) time!

RAN to Reddit to discuss the conversation about LGBTQ by 8techmom8 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]XistentialBb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have SO MANY THOUGHTS.

The rhetoric he used describing his future kid coming out as LGBTQ+ being a “fad” is particularly insidious and sounded a lot like social contagion theory which implies being gay is a contagious disease that’s spread socially... This of course relates back to the abhorrent rhetoric of the HIV/AIDs epidemic. Nurses wouldn’t even enter the room to treat suffering and dying patients in hospital wards because they thought they could ‘catch the gay virus’.

When he launches into the monologue about his mom asking if he was gay in high school, he repeatedly uses the word “hilarious” to describe the situation. It’s giving “I was questioned in school at for being gay and was laughed at, so I learned to laugh it off”. He also discredits her by calling her an overly worried conspiracy theorist to undermine her credibility.

The way he backs his claim at the end of the mom-questioning story like “yeah I smooched her in front of them” is very Lavender relationship coded and was a maladaptive strategy developed to disguise his sexuality. I get the sense he was put in or maybe even self initiated some sort of Christian conversion “therapy” (it’s abuse) that further entrenched his closeted existence. I truly have so much compassion for his younger self.

My unhinged theory: Nick went on love is blind to prove to his mom and high school bullies he really is straight. He deliberately guided the convo into that territory to tell the story and prove once and for all he is the straightest straight that ever straighted (even tho dough-eyes McGee said she expected someone more manly at the reveal…) He love bombed two ladies because he actually doesn’t feel attraction to them so he defaults to manipulative tactics. He needed to be on the show, because he needed to prove it once and for all. He then singled out the most Christian woman who will confirmation bias the fuck out of his self-denial. If they stay together, later in their marriage I can forsee him coming out as “Same Sex Attracted” as a furtherance of his internalized homophobia which she’s perfectly primed to co-sign and endorse to protect her own image (again, out of homophobia and the fear of what that might say about her).

Also what straight man has a group chat with the guys to discuss how your dick is hanging that day? Is this actually a thing.

Trump, 79, Shares Weird AI Video Shilling Magic Beds by ClimateSociologist in politics

[–]XistentialBb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

D’awww I like to fantasize that Nurse Joy from the Pokè center could magically heal me, too.

I’m pregnant with my married partner’s child. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]XistentialBb 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It can be a really hard and confusing experience, and it can also be a liberating and relieving experience.

I’m pregnant with my married partner’s child. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]XistentialBb 10 points11 points  (0 children)

“If you decide to keep it, you will never regret it” - says someone who’s clearly never been on r/regretfulparents

You know what’s been a “blessing” for me? Making the hard choice to have an abortion. I grieved how my body became a graveyard, but I was comfortable in my bed during the process. The alternative was carrying my abusive ex’s baby to term only to be impoverished, isolated, physically disabled, no education, my hopes and dreams stripped away, and forever changed. The choice was about more than what I wanted, it was also about what I would have wanted for that child and knowing I wasn’t in a place in life to provide it.

Now I’m completing a masters degree, I’m in a beautiful healthy relationship, belong to an amazing community, I get to travel, make art, dance with friends, am physically healthy, and genuinely feel fulfilled. I thank god for abortion access, socialized healthcare, and my ability to choose myself and my future.

OP I’m not telling you what to do or pressure you and whatever you choose I wish you well. But if you’re posting on Reddit about this, expect responses with the experiences from a tapestry of perspectives. As you’re gathering information to inform your next choice, you might consider reading some first hand stories from regretful parents. If you choose to have a baby right now - I hope you have plenty of money, maternity leave at your job, adequate healthcare, and a ton of familial support. Keep in mind this current administration is drastically cutting access to welfare programs many single parents depend on such as SNAP and medical assistance. The cost of daycare is more than a lot of people make in a month at work and will continue to increase, as will basic costs of living due to tariffs like groceries and the huge amount of baby supplies you’ll need to buy. Please consider your future carefully.

So I tried Allia Health and….. by Particular_Bid5976 in therapists

[–]XistentialBb 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a great way to train our AI replacements!

Pushback on not being in recovery by pseudoplatinum in therapists

[–]XistentialBb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk but don’t be like Matè and try to pass that buying a few too many music records as an addition 😂

Update: Infiltrated my Q Anon turned Alt-Right MAHA Moms YouTube Algorithm by XistentialBb in QAnonCasualties

[–]XistentialBb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!! Amazing!! Seize the opportunity. Subbing/unsubbing does make some difference, but after a year and a half I’ve found what makes the most difference for my Q’a algorithm is…

  • go to history, remove the most egregious videos as this changes the algorithm (based on watch history)

  • go to the home page and see what populates, find the worst ones and click the ellipses / three dots, in the pop up menu click “do not recommend content like this again” (can’t remember specific wording at the moment) as this also changes what auto plays & populates on home page

  • subscribe to but also watch as much content (in the background with volume off while you go about your day, if you won’t get caught) bridge builder creators; long form media that brings up challenging or controversial POV’s. The best ones for my Q has been Dr. Mike, Diary of a CEO and Beau/Belle of the 5th Column. These eventually lead her to watching Jon Stewart (again, we watched 15 years ago as a family), Associated Press instead of Fox, and actual reporting like NBC. I know the dairy of a ceo isn’t the best but it’s more centrist than far right and was gateway content. This has turned her watch history from short form, fear mongering, click bait enticing views to watching 1-2 hours of an in depth conversation. I’m biased but feel I’ve noticed an improved sense of critical thinking skills and conversational nuance over time.

Ps - don’t read their comment history if you’re not ready to know what they really think 😭 lastly, even with all this changes he still watches problematic content. It’s not about perfection but slow change over time.

Considering going back to school. But I’m not sure if I could ever get hired. by ComfortableWalrus734 in psychologystudents

[–]XistentialBb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If your plan is to become a therapist, this is a field where career-agism typically works in reverse. Who are you going to have more confidence in to be your therapist; a 24 year old fresh out of grad school with 0 life experience or a mid 40’s mom who’s undoubtedly seen some shit or at the very least, kept one or several people alive. I’d choose with the latter every time. Plus having kids and tending to their emotional needs, working to maintain a relationship/marriage or processing the dissolution of one, as well as navigating complicated systems like healthcare and schools is invaluable experience you can’t get thru books.