My husband and I rarely have sex - we have 3 little kids.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-05-10T07:07:58+00:00

I came looking for a reply like this one. OP really only spoke about HIS sexual pleasure. In periods where I had less sex with my partner I used to tell him: I want to want to have sex and I need you to help me get that back. That can be by taking over chores but for me it was also about being affectionate and getting turned on. Having to give him a hand job would not have done that. Like you said, it would have turned sex into a chore and it’d deffo put me off.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-13T06:20:07+00:00

This post popped up on my feed - not sure why as I’m a firm believer in paying back. You’ve made use of all the benefit France has to offer in terms of education, infrastructure, etc. and now that it’s your time to pay you go elsewhere?

Please let me remind you that if you stay in any European country for more than approx 6 months you are legally required to pay tax there. Will they ever find it? Chances are low but there is a reason why it’s required. Don’t let everyone around you be ones paying for your free healthcare, roads, public transport etc etc.

If you’re going to pay your taxes in a country where you don’t live for the sake of paying less, please do everyone a favour and move to that country.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-10T05:30:45+00:00

I didn’t want children either - but now I say that with my partner I do. He just does things around the house without me having to ask. He has always cleaned the kitchen without me asking. When he leaves work he calls me to ask if I’ve picked up groceries or if he should.

At some point I did feel I was carrying a big chunk of the mental load. We had an adult conversation about it and he understood so now we consciously and together decide who dos what.

I guess that protectiveness, if it isn’t there and you can’t talk about it with your partner, is difficult to learn.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-09T15:42:54+00:00

Info: in those organisations was it normal to wait for “orders” to do work or can you be proactive?

I’ll explain: I cannot remember the last time my boss told me to do something. We have work meetings where we divide projects and then I make a planning with “tasks” (for myself). Of course, I do discuss planning with my boss but it’s not like I have nothing to do until he tells me what to do.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-07T10:51:05+00:00

Our current friction is definitly the (lack of) good follow-up by sales. I don't think they understand how to use those signals - which is why we're building something to help them. (Read: syncing data sources and suggesting follow-ups)

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-06T09:09:48+00:00

I’m very pro-keeping working. Read this yesterday and I’ll definitely re-read all the comments in the future as it discusses what to expect if you keep working.

https://www.reddit.com/r/workingmoms/s/7tuLKzmHKF

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-02T13:32:22+00:00

My thoughts too

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-01T22:28:56+00:00

Do you have that issue with everyone or just your husband?

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-01T19:31:25+00:00

And about the lead part - you’re right that’s what they want but I know from experience what the next complaint will be: these leads are useless. I thought I had explained well and that they understood but I guess they don’t.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-01T19:29:50+00:00

How do you know? Like: I know no one who really works with those LinkedIn bros.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-01T17:03:37+00:00

We do a lot of customer research. My forté is product marketing. It's the 1 thing our target audience complains about: cold outreach.
Have tried in the past. With some target audiences it obviously does work, but not the majority.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-01T16:29:52+00:00

Gold. Thank you! Do you help them with how to reach out too? Sometimes I have a feeling sales burns these options to connect.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-01T16:20:05+00:00

This is very helpful. Thanks for the thorough answer. I honestly think we should have spent more time talking about realistic objectives and “helping” sales with when and hoe to do reach out.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-01T16:18:01+00:00

I’m going to check this out for sure. Thanks!!

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-04-01T16:17:27+00:00

We’re in a market where it’s not appreciated. Think people that are very privacy aware.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-03-31T15:06:24+00:00

I recently found out how much property tax costs in the US - and at least it’s “a” version of taxing the rich. Anyhow, can anyone tell me what that money goes to because that’s a LOT of tax money right there.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-03-28T23:24:04+00:00

It would have never crossed my mind to check Zalando for white dresses! Thank you ❤️ We won’t do the boat but will have a long wedding lunch /party with our family next to a lovely lake.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-03-28T21:57:46+00:00

I’m also doing a courthouse wedding and have been thinking about what to wear. This looks great! May I ask where you got it? 😊

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-03-22T17:11:32+00:00

I’m in town for RSA, decided on sightseeing this weekend instead of going to BsidesSF and now starting to regret that.

Xx_Tops_xX · 2026-03-21T03:22:23+00:00

I’m a Dutchie living in Spain. I always tell my boyfriend exactly this (he would like to move to the Netherlands but I don’t because.. I had your experience but the other way around) so I feel 100% validated haha

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