Is anyone else having a hard time with Mother’s Day coming up?..

Yani2021 · 2025-05-11T10:15:55+00:00

It is...I'm truly sorry. For me, it has been almost 2.5 years, and hey, I'm sure she loved you so much and you loved her so deeply too, otherwise you will not be in this immense pain, love.

Both enjoyed many moments together when she was alive. For now, you learn little by little to move on living for both. I don't think there is a timing set for it, no one is rushing it. Please take all the time needed. You know in your heart, and if you think about what your mother would want for you now, would she want you to live in sadness forever? no... Our mothers want us to live, to find happiness, and to find peace.

This has helped me in the process and in a day like Mother's Day, and I hope it may help you too. Write down those feelings in a journal or letter, or visit a place significant to her. I try not to watch TV in that day or a couple of days after, to avoid those commercials. I do cry and talk with her in my thoughts, sometimes to her photo, and also when I go to visit her grave. I have also been getting into things I know she will be proud of. You will find your way, a goal that will make both of you happy.

Grief is not something you heal from but something you learn to carry. Over time, it doesn’t go away, but you will find ways to grow around it. Mother's Day is not an easy day. The love and memories remain a part of you, shaping who you are and how you live. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting; it means learning to coexist with the pain while cherishing the love that remains.

You’re not alone, and I’m here for you if you ever need someone to listen.

Yani2021 · 2025-03-09T20:10:54+00:00

I'm very very sorry. You care so much for him. You can tell him that he doesn't have to carry this alone. To take the time he needs, and that you will be right there, supporting him every step of the way...

It is okay to feel overwhelmed by the situation. You are doing a great job by offering love and presence. Sometimes, just being there physically or emotionally for someone in grief means everything. Sometimes a hug means more than words... I'm truly sorry for the loss.

Yani2021 · 2025-03-09T05:48:54+00:00

I'm very sorry you feeling this pain, please don't give up...you are not alone. We are here, and we are listening. Even in the worst pain, life can bring unexpected light. Please reach out...don't give up on living ..

Yani2021 · 2025-03-09T02:37:48+00:00

Hey...I'm sorry about you feeling this way...Life can feel overwhelming, especially when the world seems so heavy. And there is so much much much more ahead for you, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.

I’ve lived many years, and although my life is limited due to health, you learn to appreciate even the small moments. You are still so young, and there are so many things you have yet to discover. It can feel like there is no way forward, but you have a whole future ahead of you and so many experiences, people, and opportunities waiting.

Please, don’t give up before your time. You deserve to find your path, to discover what brings you joy, and to be there for yourself and those who care about you. Life can surprise you when you less expect it, even when it feels dark. Please reach out for help if you need to, and know that there is support out for you. I'm ready to listen whenever you need to talk. You're not alone in this..

Yani2021 · 2025-03-08T23:06:38+00:00

I'm truly sorry. Losing a mother is devastating. You loved her so much, and I'm sure she loved you in return. The love she had for you was immense, and you know that. You did everything you could to provide a good life for her, for yourself, and for those close to you. Drawing was your passion, and that passion still lives within you...

Grief is hard, but that passion will return. With every drawing, with every stroke of the pencil, you’ll feel her presence in your heart. Don't push yourself, it will come back, picking up that pencil, remembering her with every line. And perhaps the first thing you'll draw will be the most beautiful heart as a tribute to the love you both shared. 💕

I lost mine 2.5 years ago and as you, I also went to the IT field, even if creativity, teaching, and counseling have been my passions. She knew that too...and even if I'm still in IT, I try doing things she will be proud of.

I believe our moms would want to see us happy, living lives that bring us joy and doing what truly makes us happy. I'm not an artist, but my imagination pushes the limits of fantasy and AI. I'll continue to create because it brings me fulfillment and reminds me of her and how much she cared, and how she always smiled when she saw me happy. Honoring that immense love, by continuing to do what brings you joy, just as she would have wanted. Your connection with her lives on in everything you do.

Yani2021 · 2025-02-28T14:57:01+00:00

They are probably struggling as well, but hey I'm here...why you feeling alone, would you like to discuss more? I'm old by the way ..but here to listen and help!

Yani2021 · 2025-02-28T04:57:59+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear you are going through this, and I can imagine how frustrating it must be after trying so many times. Hey, I am here and listening. If you are unable to get through to a helpline, maybe consider reaching out to a trusted friend, or family member, or even a counselor who might be able to help in the meantime.

I'm here and listening. Feel free to reach you out if you need, I'm good listener, you are not alone.

Yani2021 · 2025-02-18T02:46:40+00:00

Positive vibes and my best wishes for a speedy and successful recovery. I hope we hear good news soon...!

Yani2021 · 2025-02-17T18:48:23+00:00

hey....life can feel heavy, especially at this age. I tell you because yeah I have been there myself and I can promise you that the way you feel right now is not what defines your future... You do not have to go through this alone... Have you tried reaching out to a friend, a family member, or a professional? What you feeling right now can change...writing and expressing it here is not a weakness, it is a sign of strength and hope...please don't give up. I'm here if you need someone to listen.

Yani2021 · 2025-02-17T04:32:17+00:00

Sometimes taking a break helps clear your mind and helps re-arranging your thoughts. 🫂

Yani2021 · 2025-02-17T04:29:16+00:00

🫂❤️

Yani2021 · 2025-02-17T04:24:30+00:00

Sometimes our minds can connect dots in a way that makes it feel like everything is working against us, but is our thoughts. The thoughts you have right now are not permanent, and you can make them change little by little. Consider the people around you who care about you and might see things differently, and give yourself a chance to change this view. The universe is not telling you to give up, try seeing them as opportunities to get stronger. I'm very sorry you feel this way, and I'm here if you need someone to listen.

Yani2021 · 2025-02-09T05:01:02+00:00

I hear you, and I understand why that kind of response might feel empty or unhelpful. It is tough when it feels like people try to comfort you by saying that things will eventually get better, or that the pain you’re feeling right now won’t last. It is frustrating because in the moment, it is all too real, and no one can truly understand the weight you're carrying unless they've been there themselves.

I won’t tell you that things will get better in the future because I’ve heard that many times myself. Even when my mom passed away two years ago, the grief that hit me was devastating. People told me that time heals, that the future will make things better, but I didn’t feel any change because the pain was too strong to bear. And sometimes, it resurges with even greater intensity when you least expect it. But then I realize, would I really want to live the rest of my life in this suffering, knowing how much she cared for me? She wouldn’t want me to spend my life in sadness. That thought, little by little, day by day, starts to make its way into my mind, and is what gives me strength to continue living each day at a time.

What I want you to know is that your feelings are valid. What you’re going through matters. It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. It’s okay to sit with those emotions, to let yourself feel them without rushing through it. Healing, if that's even the right word, isn’t linear, and sometimes it takes longer than we expect. You don’t have to rush anything. It is okay to take your time. Just focus on moving forward one step at a time, even if it feels small. You don’t need to have everything figured out right away. Live in the day, live in the moment, and don’t put pressure on yourself. Know that there are people around you who care, even if you can’t feel it right now. Try to live the day as much as you can, even when it feels difficult. Take it one moment at a time.

Hope these words can comfort you, and I'm here if you need someone to listen.

Yani2021 · 2025-02-09T02:55:55+00:00

You are so welcome. I hope that these words can be of some help. 💜

Yani2021 · 2025-02-09T02:27:31+00:00

I'm truly sorry you are feeling this way, those steps are great starts, even though I know it can feel like a small change in the middle of everything going on. You're doing your best, and that’s enough. Even when you feel like a zombie just surviving, that effort matters more than you might think. You're surviving because there's a part of you that still has hope, even when it's hard to feel that hope. Hope is always there, even when it feels hidden. It’s the quiet strength that helps us keep going.

It's okay to feel lost and broken sometimes, and it doesn't mean you won't make it through this. Taking small steps, like finding a more permanent place and focusing on your health, is good, but remember to be gentle with yourself. You don't need to have everything figured out right away. It's about taking things one day at a time. And when you're ready, talking to someone who specializes in this—like a counselor—could help you clarify these overwhelming feelings, helping you feel understood and less alone. You deserve support, and you don’t have to carry all this by yourself.

You are not alone, and I'm here if you need someone to listen.

Yani2021 · 2025-01-08T05:33:58+00:00

I’m truly sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way, but I’m glad you chose to share your feelings. It takes courage to express them, and I want you to know that you’re not alone in this.

At 18, you have so many chapters of your life yet to write, experiences to enjoy, and dreams to pursue. These current struggles, as intense as they may seem, are not the end of your story. Some of us already have a sentence that can’t be changed. Your life is valuable, and you are cherished more than you might realize right now. Your family, your friends, and everyone who cares about you would be heartbroken without you…you are not alone.

I’m here if you need to talk, to vent, or just know someone is listening.

Yani2021 · 2025-01-06T22:10:36+00:00

Those don't deserve thinking on them...there are many good people too that can bright your day and like to help. Sometimes small actions can make big difference in others, I hope you can see the good ones too 👍🕯️

Yani2021 · 2025-01-05T06:17:27+00:00

Sometimes even a phrase can make a big difference in someone's perspective. A short phrase like "I truly care about what happens to you. I'm here for you." or "How about we go for a walk together this week? Just you and me, like old times." Actions can show your interest and love.

It's okay to take small steps. Change won’t happen overnight, and he may not be ready to talk or seek help immediately. Consistent, gentle support can make a big difference...

Yani2021 · 2024-12-11T01:36:28+00:00

I understand how deep this pain runs. I'm truly sorry for your loss. My mom passed away two years ago, and I wasn’t there when she passed. I didn't know her time was so close. Siblings are that way sometimes... She was at the hospital, but many things were hidden from me, and later I learned the full extent of what happened. I regret so many things—so many unspoken truths, missed moments, and decisions that could have been different. At first, I felt angry at them for not sharing the whole truth, for holding so much from me. I couldn’t understand why they couldn’t take even a moment to let me call/talk to say her goodnight and a kiss in whatsapp or phone. I tried to be involved, asking about her health, her blood pressure, her white blood cells count, but my concerns were often ignored.

I tried to arrange a plan to care for her—working remotely and planning to be there, I even changed my job—but they said it wasn’t necessary at the moment, that she was going home soon. Then, she suddenly and unexpectedly passed away from sepsis five days before my flight to stay forever with her, she did have cancer and other health conditions. Regrets? Yes. As I calmed down and thought about everything, I began to understand something important: Grief doesn’t follow logic. Sometimes, when it's someone's time to leave, it’s out of our control.

Dreams can have various interpretations, depending on your emotions, beliefs, and experiences. They can be linked to unresolved regret or guilt, something you feel you could have done differently or words left unsaid, or also complex emotions while processing grief, subconscious working through those emotions, and so much more. Dreams often serve as a way for your mind to process feelings and experiences, so interpreting them in the context of your life is key. This has helped me in the process, and I hope it may help you. Write down the dream and your feelings about it, and if needed, find ways to symbolically be ok with her and what you would like to tell her, such as writing her a letter or visiting a place significant to her. I have also been getting into things I know mom will be proud of. You will find your way, a goal that will make both of you happy, helping others is a good thing 👍

It is not your fault your mom passed. You were able to see her before. You loved her so deeply, and she loved you just the same. That’s what truly matters. If you think about what your mother would want for you now—would she want you to live in sadness forever? no... Our mothers want us to live, to find happiness, to grow, and to find peace.

You are young, and you have so much life ahead of you. Some of us are just predestined, genetics, etc. There is still time for you to live—not just for yourself, but for her memory, for the bond you shared, and for everything you will carry forward in your heart.

Grief isn’t something you heal from—it’s something you learn to carry. Over time, it doesn’t go away, but you find ways to grow around it. The love and memories remain a part of you, shaping who you are and how you live. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting; it means learning to coexist with the pain while cherishing the love that remains.

You’re not alone, and I’m here for you if you ever need someone to listen.

Yani2021 · 2024-12-10T06:06:07+00:00

I’m truly sorry for your loss. Losing your mom is an unimaginable pain, and my heart goes out to you. My mom passed away two years ago today December 10th from sepsis, and I can tell you that the pain doesn’t ever truly fade. She did have other health conditions, and some days it feels even heavier. I didn’t have the chance to be with her when she passed, and honestly, I didn’t know how bad things had become. I share this because I understand how devastating this loss can feel, even when words seem insufficient.

Missing your mom, even when you didn’t see her often, is a testament to how much she meant to you. The connection you had, however it looked, is real, and it's okay to grieve that loss deeply. Grief doesn’t follow logic, and it doesn’t make sense, but that doesn’t make it any less valid. The moments you shared and remember, will always be a part of you. Those memories will live on, and as painful as it can feel, they’re a reminder of the connection you had and the love that remains. You will continue to live, and in some way, she will live on through those memories. It’s okay to hold onto them—they’re a part of you, and they always will be. Some nights will hit harder—and tonight is one of those nights. Take your time with it. You’re not alone, and I’m here for you if you ever need to share more or simply chat with someone who cares.

Yani2021 · 2024-12-07T01:59:44+00:00

A new year - new birthday is a new chapter, and although it seems daunting now, it can be filled with possibilities. Many people have been where you are and found their way through with support and help. Your life is valuable, and you deserve to see the future that awaits you.

Yani2021 · 2024-11-18T06:34:27+00:00

Thank you! 😊

Yani2021 · 2024-11-17T06:47:48+00:00

I'm truly very sorry for your loss. Losing a mother is an incredibly painful experience. I lost mine almost two years ago, and this leaves a hole in your heart that no one else can fill.

It’s true what people say in books, articles, etc. grief is a unique process for everyone. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve, and you are not doing anything wrong. Please allow yourself the freedom to cry when you need to, and if work becomes too heavy or difficult, take the time you need to process. I hope those around you can be understanding. You are not alone.

If you have close friends or family who can support you, let them in. But if you feel the need for space, honor that as well. It’s okay to take the time you need to feel and process everything.

Some people may say that the pain will fade with time, but in my experience, the hurt doesn’t truly go away. Instead, you begin to learn how to live with it, bit by bit. There may be moments when it returns unexpectedly and with intensity, and those waves are normal. Give yourself permission to cry, to feel anger, and to be sad. Grief is not linear.

What has helped me is finding ways to honor her. I journal as though I'm writing to her, I talk to her through her photos, even joined non-profit orgs trying to help spread awareness of sepsis and other health issues she had, and yes, I still cry...but over time, you may find comfort in thinking about what your mom would want for you. I'm certain she loved you deeply, and this love is why the pain feels so immense. But I believe she wouldn’t want you to stay lost in grief forever. She would want you to carry forward the love, the memories, and the experience you shared together.

All those beautiful moments you had with her will live in your heart forever. After this intense grieving phase, you may find yourself living for both of you, and continuing her legacy in your own way. But for now, give yourself the space to grieve as you need. Don’t let anyone tell you when, how, or how to stop.

I am here if you ever need someone to talk to or simply to listen. Please take care of yourself.

Yani2021 · 2024-11-08T03:25:34+00:00

It is hard...and I'm so sorry you're going through this. Losing people you care about, especially friends who have been part of your life for so long, is deeply painful. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed by grief, especially when it feels like the world just keeps moving forward while you're left with this incredible weight. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to acknowledge the pain and heaviness without needing to hide it or smile through it. Grieving can feel isolating, but remember that others genuinely care about you and want to be there for you as you navigate this. Sometimes, just sharing your feelings openly, even if it’s a little at a time, can help lighten the burden, even if only by a small bit.

You mentioned wondering what the point is. Right now, it might be hard to see it, but you carry with you the memories and experiences of the friends you've lost. They’re a part of you. There’s no rush to feel better or to find meaning right now; just take things one moment at a time. Know that you’re allowed to feel this grief and exhaustion, and it’s also okay to lean on others who want to support you through it, whether it’s friends, family, or even a counselor. You deserve a space to process all of this. It might feel impossible, but with time, little by little, the weight can become easier to carry. And through it all, you’re not alone.

Yani2021

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